circi Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I'm posting here to keep myself from texting him. We've been broke up for over a year now, but talked almost daily until November when I finally changed my phone number. He's with someone else now, and has been since shortly after we split. He has shown that he doesn't respect me, doesn't deserve me. He did me wrong in oh so many ways, and yet I still think of him daily. I get along fine most days but sometimes, like today, I just want to curl up and die. The idea of him being happy with someone else just cuts right through me even now. He checks my Myspace every time he logs in. I know he's been on because my profile views goes up, and then I'll look and see he's been on. Yah not healthy I know. I should be so far beyond this now, but I'm not. Link to comment
Loki71 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Your not alone. One day you will just get tired of it all and say screw everything and move on. Ena is a great place to come to when you get the urge. So many of us will be here to help you. Link to comment
littlestar Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) I know what you're going through. It's never easy getting over someone you love. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 What made you finally decide to stop talking to him? And I agree, ENA is a great place for support and understanding. You are brave for stopping talking to him. I could not do that. I'm the type that will cling on until someone shuts the door on me. Link to comment
mimijay Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 just do NC. i have change my number aswell because my ex would always try to contact me just so i dont move on. set yourself some goals regarding NC once you have achieved them it will only get easier. i know it hurts, its the pain you cant explain like you can actually feel your heart breaking. i go on here and allot of people are in the same situation. Link to comment
dur-LiveIt Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Hi Circi, I am so sorry you are hurting so bad right now. But, you are taking the steps to moving on and getting on with your life. I think it would be almost impossible to get beyond your ex with daily contact for up to 10 months after the breakup. That is compounded with your knowledge that he is with someone else as well. He is not showing you respect or friendship in this situation. You have done the right thing by going NC. That is the only way you can get past this and him. Yes, you are feeling the pain of the breakup, it may be a bit delayed because of the constant contact with him. You need to separate yourself completely to be able to go through the stages of loss and to refocus your thinking on yourself instead of him Best of luck to you, it does truly suck, but, keep going through and through. Cheers to a better new year in 2009, Link to comment
circi Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 Thanks guys. Its killing me right now. Still taking all I have to not pick up my phone and send a text telling him how much I miss him and he's messed up my life. I KNOW thats the wrong thing to do and how much I'd regret it. Wow this sucks Link to comment
dur-LiveIt Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Hey Circi, Think of it this way. He has demoted you from girlfriend to girl on the side. He loves knowing that you still think of him and miss him. But, he is now doing anything to deserve that kind of attention or caring from you. Wow, what a lucky boy! You should be mad. I hope you get there soon. You deserve better, everyone does. Keep your chin up, protect yourself from such disrespect and bad treatment and refuse this demotion. Hang in there, you will be fine. Yes, it really truly SUCKS, but, that is just what you will have to feel for awhile. It will pass. Reconnect with friends and family to get through this. Best to you. Link to comment
littlestar Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Thanks guys. Its killing me right now. Still taking all I have to not pick up my phone and send a text telling him how much I miss him and he's messed up my life. I KNOW thats the wrong thing to do and how much I'd regret it. Wow this sucks Keep strong. NC sure sucks big time when you love them and miss them so much and all you want to do is let them know you're still loving and missing them! Link to comment
circi Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 Yes. I just can't believe it's been this long and I'm still hung up over him. Makes me worry about my own sanity, sigh. Link to comment
dur-LiveIt Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Well, Think about it. It's your choice now. Move on. Feel the pain of moving on. Let go. Your choice. My father once said to me, "Sweetheart, you can choose to be happy, or choose to be unhappy, that is your choice.". Enough said. Hoping the best for you in this new year. You will be fine, just do it. Link to comment
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