jamieJ Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 we broke up about a month ago...she split with me...said she wasnt happy...went our owns ways...were together for bout 2 1/2 years...uhh...spoke here and there after the split...only negative things...tells me to never speak to her again and i said ok and to be happy...well..bout 8 days go by and she calls me last night in a private call and tells me to listen and she starts playing our 'song"...i listened to it and we had some words and decided to meet up today...we did...all went well sorta....we talked about us...and she kept asking me what i wanted, all i could tell her was that i wanted her but i was afriad to risk the fact of it not working out again ya know...she tells me she wants me but she dont know if shes ready for it yet...shes 18 im 23...i told her that i wasnt being drug through this and that i was gonna go about my business and if theres a time u really actually do know what u want and its me then come around...maybe ill still feel the same...maybe not....she asked for a hug which i gave and then she started kissing me...then told me she loved me and that was it...she got outta the car...i drove home....what do i think or make of this situation...what do i do????? Link to comment
HopeArises Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Need more details. WHY did she break up with you? Link to comment
jamieJ Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 she just said she wasnt happy anymore and that things just didnt feel the same between us (not to mention this all happened on a date night with us, out to eat..movies..etc..) everything was perfect...the i loves yous, joking/wrestling around..kissing, hugging...no sign of anything....i get home and thats when she breaks the bad news to me...so there was really no reason on to why she did it....she just said she was unhappy... Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I would walk away from this. She breaks up with you, tells you she is not ready and yet is all over you like a rash. Classic dumper mixed messages. Until she can tell you definitively that she wants to get back together, don't fall for the huggy kissy stuff and assume it means anything other than she just wanted a warm body. Link to comment
HopeArises Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 she just said she wasnt happy anymore and that things just didnt feel the same between us (not to mention this all happened on a date night with us, out to eat..movies..etc..) everything was perfect...the i loves yous, joking/wrestling around..kissing, hugging...no sign of anything....i get home and thats when she breaks the bad news to me...so there was really no reason on to why she did it....she just said she was unhappy... Hmmmmmm... And you didn't see this coming? Nothing in your gut was telling you that something was going wrong? Were you a bit needy/dependent on her in the relationship? Did you not spend much time with her? Were there any fights at all and if so, what did they consist of? Link to comment
SighSob Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 No other guys in the picture? Link to comment
jamieJ Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 no other guys....but there is an update....well i let it go after she got out of the car earlier and left it up to her...well about 10 o clock last night she calls me and is just nice and friendly....we talk for hours...but then i started thinking about myself...and how i couldnt do this....it wasnt right unless i knew good was coming from it...so we started talking about us again. She still says she wants no one else, and never be in a serious relationship with anyone else...and that she wants me but she says i have to understand that shes only 18 and she wants to be free right now....i told her that wasnt right and that i cant just "wait" for her...so i pretty much told her not to talk to me until she really knows thats it me she wants then and thats it...but until then i wanted NC....i made her promise this...it was for the good ya know...the best for both of us...gives us chances to move on...she then starts crying and asking if thats really want i wanted and i said yes...she then promised me...said i love you, and that was that....i hope i did the right thing... Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I think you did the right thing. She has no right acting this way will you when she doesn't even seem to know what she wants and telling you that she wants to be alone. Also I think if you did get back together anytime soon there would be nothing to stop her doing the same again when she realises she is young and wants to be free. Link to comment
mswilysvm Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 i LOVE the idea of making her promise NC... i might need to use that! Link to comment
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