Fling the boss

[dazed_one]

My boss and I recently had a fling, it lasted for a month- he just turned 40 and I'm 23. It all out of the blue one day when I was having an awful previous day. He was being a sweetheart as he was always to me and asked me if I'd like to take the rest of the day off and hang out with him. We did this discreetly knowing that it was against work policies. Our relationship kind of grew from that day, constant talking on the phone and little conversations here and there during work. Then we finally had our first so called 'date', it was more than I had imagined. He was romantic, we had drinks and ended the night with an amazing kiss. Everything felt right from that night, but of course we kept it tight at work. We continued this and it was becoming obvious to the other employees that he was favoring me. He really wasn't but our work environment mostly consist of women employees. It was brought to the attention of the district manager and has turned into some sort of case. My boss has been given a fair warning and he told me we have to end all contacts but can still remain friends. I haven't even been given any chance to even tell him how i feel. I like him- ALOT but I know I can't jeopordize our jobs for our relationship. What should I do? I don't care that he's 40, he's a great and amazing man but how can I work this out?

[SapphireNoir10]

You have to be careful here. No matter how much you like him you have to wonder and carefully think were his intentions genuine? Were you a relationship or a fling? Has he made a habit of this?

 

Whats more important to you, him or your job?

[alli]

That sucks when you have a strong mutual attraction to someone who is off limits. But they really have those work policies for a reason. You say that he favored you.. but he really didn't.. but the other people at work knew about it. How? Did they see you together outside of work or they could just tell from the way you guys acted around each other? Are you sure he wasn't favoring you.. letting you get away with little things that other people didn't get away with? Not only is that not fair, but it creates hostility in the work environment with the other workers feeling cheated because they aren't "sleeping with the boss" (an expression, whether or not you've done it is not the issue)

 

Honestly you don't have a lot of choices here. You either stop seeing him or you find another job.

[avman]

Yeah I agree with the others. The work policies are in place for a very good reason.

 

If you really like him that much and you want to date him either you or he will probably have to find another job.