wastedlove Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I have been friends with my mates since i was at school 13 years olds, we are all now in our late 20's I always knew my one mate was gay, u know it was kinda obvious and he came out years back, 2 years ago he told me that he had had sexual relations with my other mate which totally thew me because although never getting ANYWHERE with women he always displayed an interest, however came to realise it was not such a shock cos i could see how camp he was from there on, he did not realise i knew he was gay and we still hung out and it did not bother me in the slightest we all hang out having a laugh as usual, so what happened last ngiht has thrown me a little bit we were all hangin out and having a luahg then my one mate tells me that they are in a relationship throught text although we were all in the same room, the other lad would be distraught if i knew, it just seems like this may affect our friendship cos now when we hang out it will be like i am the third wheel, just needed to rant really cos it just seems as though they are hiding things when they dont need to Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 are you saying it bothers you they're together because of the third wheel thing, or you just wish they would be honest and open about it? Link to comment
wastedlove Posted January 8, 2009 Author Share Posted January 8, 2009 both really, i mean tbh i dont see our friendship changing we have always hung out its just the fact that they have to hide it and feels like there laughin behind my back a little, and i think one of my other mates knew so why not tell me? i just hope it does not change anything, just to highlight another emotion i am feeling is i liked that we were all single now all my mates have gone from being single to every last one of my mates having someone, im gonna be left on my own Link to comment
shikashika Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I'm a bit confused... are you uncomfortable with it? Maybe they feel uncomfortable because they don't have the support they would like from their friends? Link to comment
wastedlove Posted January 8, 2009 Author Share Posted January 8, 2009 they know i am cool with it, i sware! me mate has been gay like ever since i knew him, thats not even a doubt. my other mate has had problems coming out but that is entirely because of his mind set, and he knows i am open minded and would support in anyway cos after all we are mates, what am i next for? Link to comment
shikashika Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 they know i am cool with it, i sware! me mate has been gay like ever since i knew him, thats not even a doubt. my other mate has had problems coming out but that is entirely because of his mind set, and he knows i am open minded and would support in anyway cos after all we are mates, what am i next for? maybe it's because of your other mates... Link to comment
HellFrost666 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I doubt them not telling you was malicious. They probably value your friendship and were afraid it might change things. And I do agree it does kind of suck being single when everyone around you is with someone. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 he's newly gay, let him get comfortable with it himself first. Don't take it personally he didn't tell you. He will come to you in his own time. Maybe he doesn't know quite how you'll react, even though you say he knows you're cool with it. Ever gay person I have ever known took some time to come out and be open about it Link to comment
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