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just found out my mates (lads) are in a relationship


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I have been friends with my mates since i was at school 13 years olds, we are all now in our late 20's

 

I always knew my one mate was gay, u know it was kinda obvious and he came out years back, 2 years ago he told me that he had had sexual relations with my other mate which totally thew me because although never getting ANYWHERE with women he always displayed an interest, however came to realise it was not such a shock cos i could see how camp he was from there on, he did not realise i knew he was gay and we still hung out and it did not bother me in the slightest we all hang out having a laugh as usual, so what happened last ngiht has thrown me a little bit we were all hangin out and having a luahg then my one mate tells me that they are in a relationship throught text although we were all in the same room, the other lad would be distraught if i knew, it just seems like this may affect our friendship cos now when we hang out it will be like i am the third wheel, just needed to rant really cos it just seems as though they are hiding things when they dont need to

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both really, i mean tbh i dont see our friendship changing we have always hung out its just the fact that they have to hide it and feels like there laughin behind my back a little, and i think one of my other mates knew so why not tell me? i just hope it does not change anything, just to highlight another emotion i am feeling is i liked that we were all single now all my mates have gone from being single to every last one of my mates having someone, im gonna be left on my own

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they know i am cool with it, i sware! me mate has been gay like ever since i knew him, thats not even a doubt.

 

 

my other mate has had problems coming out but that is entirely because of his mind set, and he knows i am open minded and would support in anyway cos after all we are mates, what am i next for?

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they know i am cool with it, i sware! me mate has been gay like ever since i knew him, thats not even a doubt.

 

 

my other mate has had problems coming out but that is entirely because of his mind set, and he knows i am open minded and would support in anyway cos after all we are mates, what am i next for?

 

 

maybe it's because of your other mates...

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he's newly gay, let him get comfortable with it himself first. Don't take it personally he didn't tell you. He will come to you in his own time. Maybe he doesn't know quite how you'll react, even though you say he knows you're cool with it.

 

Ever gay person I have ever known took some time to come out and be open about it

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