Ex hasnt moved on, but still wants to see me but not get back together...

[mags_7531]

Hello Everyone

 

I have posted on here a few times lately about my ex who broke up with me. Its been over two months and i cant believe that im actually still in contact with him and seeing him regularly. He broke up with me using a stupid excuse and had no real reason. I probably should have broke up with him after finding out he had been talkign to other girls on dating sites, etc. But i didnt cause i loved him.

 

The thing i cant understand for the life of my is why he still wants to see me and hasnt moved on. I know for a fact hes not seeing anyone and still constantly messages and calls me to hang out and do things with him, and sex is involved aswell. But he never brings up getting back together and when i do he avoids the question and doesnt answer it completely.

 

I realize he could most likely just be hanging on to me till something better comes along but its been over two months now.

 

I have tried NC countless times but i cant seem to hang on when hes continuing to want to see me.

 

Any ideas whats going on herE?

[Scorpion Fury]

He hasn't found anyone he think is better in two months, he wants sex, you still love him, he knows this.. He's still looking for something else, just keeping you around in the meantime.

 

Why would he get back together with you when you're giving him all the benefits of one, without all the work?

 

Stop having sex with him.

[hmdreamer7]

I realize he could most likely just be hanging on to me till something better comes along but its been over two months now.

 

You're absolutely right. He's using you right now, and you deserve better than that. However, NC can be hard to accomplish in these circumstances, so you will really have to start standing your ground with NC, no matter how difficult it is. If you haven't done so already, block his emails/IM, take his # out of your phone, give him less chances or ways to contact you, and it will be easier.

[DN]

Tell him that what you are both choosing to do right now isn't working for you and that if he wants to get back together in a relationship then he should say so. If he doesn't then you are walking away. Tell him that it's a yes or no decision he has to make because you will take anything less than an unequivocal 'yes' as a 'no'.

[mags_7531]

You guys are all very right and i guess its stuff i already know deep down.

 

But its gets confusing when i go NC and its successful i guess cause eventually he messages me and says he misses me and wants to see me. THats when i cave cause i think i might be gettign through to him

[ladybug726]

and sex is involved aswell.

 

Any ideas whats going on herE?

 

There's your answer.

 

Cut ALL that off ASAP! You're being used and he has no respect for you.

[mimijay]

this guy is playing mind games with you.

 

he doesnt have anything going for him at the moment, but as soon as he does you'll be dropped and you will have to deal with the break up then... "later rather than now".

 

he's just keeping you around so you dont move on- He's put you in the Just in case section. Just incase his plans dont work then he has you to fall back to. Its best to NC- then he will realize whats he's really loosing.

 

mimi