Sick grandpa

[gypsy_girl]

ok so my grandpa is in a home. He has dementia and he just keeps getting worse. He can hardly grunt anymore, he cant walk, its so sad because only a year ago he was still so fit. It all just happenned so quickly. He keeps getting various infections and being rushed to hospital and hes almost died countless times. He never fully recovers so he just keeps deteriorating.

I keep overhearing conversations about what will happen when he dies (money etc) so I cant help but think it might be soon. I hate thinking that.

My family is already so so strained and I think that if he died it would just be the end for us as a family.

I also feel guilty because his home is about a half hour drive from my house and I dont drive so i dont see him very often.

It would break my heart if he dies. We aren't that close, but I have so much respect for him and he's just always been in my life.

not really a question...just had to get all these thoughts out

[CallingAllAngels]

Sorry to hear about your grandpa honey. These things are hard to go through in life. Just pray for him, and visit as often as you can.

[chaosa]

*comfort**hugs*

[liquer]

Gosh, sorry to hear that. A real tragedy. Take good care of him and yourself.

[nutbrownhare]

So sorry to hear that. Where I work, older adults with dementia have a clinic further down our corridor. You can see how painful it can be for the relatives, not just because of the difficulties experienced by the patients themselves, but also the result of losing someone who was bright, alive and together in their younger days.

 

It might be good to make sure that you say 'Goodbye' to him in a way which makes sense for you, before he actually does die. And say the things you'd like to say to him, even if he doesn't fully understand.

[gypsy_girl]

I saw him today...I couldnt understand a word he was saying. He mostly just speaks greek-which I usually understand, but now its all jumbled and doesnt make sense and he can hardly say 2 words.

He doesnt have that spark in his eye like he used to, his eyes are so blank now.

[CallingAllAngels]

I saw him today...I couldnt understand a word he was saying. He mostly just speaks greek-which I usually understand, but now its all jumbled and doesnt make sense and he can hardly say 2 words.

He doesnt have that spark in his eye like he used to, his eyes are so blank now.

 

I'm sorry honey...it's hard to see the ones we love get old and frail. Hang in there. Remember your grandpa when he used to speak clearly and when he has that sparkle in his eyes.