How long of NC untill you actualy think you should??

[mimijay]

okay, my ex boyfriend and I have been brocken up for 4months now and since the break up we havnt had NC for longer than 2weeks. I give in and msg him yet he also does the same thing.

 

I have decided to NC him and have urges to just contact him!!! But I have set myself goals and doing my best to NC.- and is this a Break or a Break up??

 

I dont want to give in first. Will he Contact me again?? we were together for five years. I thought we were going to be together for ever.

 

When will you realise its over?? I havnt seen anyone since, he's not seing anyone. But I miss him like Crazy. I want him back... is the best thing to do is give him a break?? but how long?.

 

need advice. i feel so lonely. he moved out and im still living alone in a house full of memories.

 

[crab62]

I don't know if you will ever get back together with him... but what I ask myself is "do I want to be with a man who can easily be away from me?" "Do I want to be with a man who finds it okay to be broken up for even a week"? I've said this before... most of my friends in successful marriages have never broken up while they were dating. When you're in love with someone, and when you love someone... the last thing you want to do is breakup with them... instead you want to be with them all the time.

 

So when I was wondering if my exbf and I would get back together, I would ask myself "do you really want this kind of man. He is really now showing alot of who he is. This "is" part of him... the leaving part. Do you want a man who can leave"... and of course my answer was "no". What's your answer to that question?

[davejsy]

its going to take alot longer than 2 weeks! I've been 3 months now, and just when I think I'm done with it all, I end feeling like I've just realised it's over all over again. It sucks, but it does gradually get easier, even though you'll feel worse some days more than others. NC is the best way for you to get over this, even though it's the last thing your heart feels like doing. . .

[jcoven02]

It depends on a lot of things -- the exact nature of the relationship itself and the breakup, the character of the people involved, etc.

 

I would say approx. 6-10 months. Longer if the relationship was longer or particularly close or intimate, if you're a particularly emotional kind of person normally, or if you're under the age of 17.

 

It took me 10 months to get over my first girlfriend, whom I dated for approx. 5 or 6 months. I was 15/16 years old at the time and no, I'm not a very emotional person. Hope that gives you some frame of reference.