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Why does he do this to me?! Uggh!


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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for just over a year now. He is absolutely amazing and I love him to death! We play on the same indoor soccer team and tonight we were short a few players so he got his friend (a girl) to play with us. They've been good friends for awhile but when we were playing they were flirting the WHOLE game...right in front of me! I know he doesn't like her but still why would you do in front of your gf?! It just makes me wonder how he acts around other girls when I'm not there considering that's how he acts when I am there.

 

So what should I do? Do I tell him I don't appreciate him doing that in front of me? I don't want to sound jealous cause I know they were just playing. Do I just let it go?

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He's usually not a flirty person at all so the fact that's constantly joking around with her while being serious with everyone else about the game (including me) just kinda threw me off. I mean he might have just been enjoying himself and having fun but it seemed more flirtatious to me

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I hate how lil things like that bother me, cause it does to, it can be completely harmless, but it can still make you wonder.

The problem with telling him that it bothers you, is that it makes you come off all jealous, so try to ignore it, or keep your eye on it, whatever works, or do the same thing with another guy, see his reaction, if he cries about it, then bring it up.

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I think ill just keep an eye on it and he keeps doing it then I might bring it up. I definitely do not want to be the jealous/insecure gf which is why I hesitate to say anything in the first place.

 

I don't think I'm gonna do the same thing to another guy and see what he says cause it if hurts me, I def don't want to do that to him.

 

They are friends afterall so it could just be harmless and I'm overreacting but I know he had a coed outdoor game tonight so I'm just a little worried especially since I won't be there to keep an eye on him. Ugggh I hate this! Lol

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I hate how lil things like that bother me, cause it does to, it can be completely harmless, but it can still make you wonder.

The problem with telling him that it bothers you, is that it makes you come off all jealous, so try to ignore it, or keep your eye on it, whatever works, or do the same thing with another guy, see his reaction, if he cries about it, then bring it up.

 

hahaha, yeah, do the same thing with a guy.

 

I know I know, some "wise" person comes here pretty soon and says why play a game? tell him how you feel

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hahaha, yeah, do the same thing with a guy.

 

I know I know, some "wise" person comes here pretty soon and says why play a game? tell him how you feel

 

HAHA...I know it's not the, as you put it..."wise" thing to say, but lets be real, their 17, he doesn't know what he's doing, if he was in his 20's or so, then I would have a different answer, cause theres not excuse at that point.

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hahaha, yeah, do the same thing with a guy.

 

 

Honestly I care about him way to much to do that! Doing on purpose is different from doing it and not realizing your doing it.

 

I don't want him having the same questions/concerns I'm having... Just doesn't sound like a good idea to me.

 

 

Hopefully I'm just overreacting!

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Honestly I care about him way to much to do that! Doing on purpose is different from doing it and not realizing your doing it.

 

I don't want him having the same questions/concerns I'm having... Just doesn't sound like a good idea to me.

 

 

Hopefully I'm just overreacting!

 

 

You are overreacting, now get a grip...LOL... ..a little flirtation is harmless, I wouldn't look into it.

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hahaha, yeah, do the same thing with a guy.

 

 

Honestly I care about him way to much to do that! Doing on purpose is different from doing it and not realizing your doing it.

 

I don't want him having the same questions/concerns I'm having... Just doesn't sound like a good idea to me.

 

 

Hopefully I'm just overreacting!

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Actually he's 22

 

 

LOL....ok, scratch my last post

 

the thing about flirting, is that it is concidered harmless, but is very annoying if it's your SO flirting with someone else.

 

But none the less, my girl flirts a lil with some of our friends, like they'll crack a joke about her, and she'll laugh and give them a lil nudge on the arm or something, stuff like that you just have to ignore, because it is harmless. But if it's anything more than that, then you have the right to say something.

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I just can't help feeling jealous/concerned even though I know it's HARMLESS! But in our year of dating I don't think I've ever played a game and not gotten a text/call saying "good job" or something to that effect, but tonight... Nothing. Whether I play awesome or horrible he Always does it. So I texted him earlier just a "hey good job tonigt babe" and nothing so a few hours later I called go wish him good luck in his outdoor game and no answer. I'm not gonna call/text anymore... I figure the ball is in his court now so I'll see what he does.

 

Just something odd and very out of character for him

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Honestly I care about him way to much to do that! Doing on purpose is different from doing it and not realizing your doing it.

 

I don't want him having the same questions/concerns I'm having... Just doesn't sound like a good idea to me.

 

 

Hopefully I'm just overreacting!

 

how come you are more mature than I am? be like your age and act 17! eh! lol

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I just can't help feeling jealous/concerned even though I know it's HARMLESS! But in our year of dating I don't think I've ever played a game and gotten a text/call saying "good job" or something to that effect, but tonight... Nothing. Whether I play awesome or horrible he Always does it. So I texted him earlier just a "hey good job tonigt babe" and nothing so a few hours later I called go wish him good luck in his outdoor game and no answer. I'm not gonna call/text anymore... I figure the ball is in his court now so I'll see what he does.

 

Just something odd and very out of character for him

 

Those are shyte feelings, I was going through them a couple weeks ago with my girl. I would say nice things to her and get an average okie dokie kinda response, rather than something sweet like I was saying to her. Or same thing with the messages and stuff, and on response for a day or something. So at that point, all it does is make me less n less concerned about her. because those kinds of games I would drive me away.

 

I look at like this, unless your SO has legitamate reasons for acting the way he is, as in sudden change in character, I see it as playing games, or losing interest, so, when that happens, it's time to protect your emotions, do what your doing , send the message, n just leave the ball in his court.

 

It's probably nothing, but if it does turn out to be something serious, it will come out eventually, all you can do is play it cool.

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how come you are more mature than I am? be like your age and act 17! eh! lol

 

I just don't see the point in intentionally flirting with someone in front of him, it seems like it would create more problems

then it would resolved.

 

And as for acting mature, I don't think its a matter of maturity, I'm not gonna stoop to that level just try to prove something. I love him so much so why would I want to do anything that could jepordize that.

 

And when you date someone older, you can't act like a silly immature child... Idk any 22 year olds who would want to date someone like that!

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maybe your jealousy kicked in or perhaps this girl is attractive and your mind starting playing games assuming they were flirting. Here is the key thing. Did he still kiss, or show affection towards you while she was around??? If so, than you have nothing to worry about!

 

If you really wanna confront him about it, get some other opinions of peeps that were there but when you confront him make sure you do it in a subtle way. You were the one who saw it so its hard for us to determine the truth of the situation.

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