RedWingsFan Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 From my perspective, I've been "hanging out" with a woman I am interested in. We've had a lot of fun on several occasions. My female friends say that these activities have been "dates." My male friends say I have been "hanging out" with her. Does anybody notice this divide in the definition of seeing someone and partaking in an activity? Or are my friends unique? Does the difference in words even matter (I think they do...), and if so, how does that change the mood, setting, etc.? Link to comment
DN Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 If you act with her as if she were one of your friends - it's hanging out. If you act as if you have a romantic interest in each other - it's a date. Link to comment
Xplode Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 DN... blunt and to the point. i like it. spot on. id call it a date, if there was intention for a future together. hanging out. no interest, regardless of gender? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I've gone on many dates where there was no future intention and non-dates with people where there was but it was not expressed. To me a date with someone I don't know well is where he asks me out to do an activity or go to dinner, etc in advance and it is clear or pretty clear to both of us that it is a date. When men have asked me to hang out, sometimes I have but typically not on a weekend since weekends were reserved for dating. Link to comment
xCOREx Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 If you act with her as if she were one of your friends - it's hanging out. If you act as if you have a romantic interest in each other - it's a date. agreed completely. id say comunicate these things with her and be open to her about how you feel and such. best thing to do imo. gl Link to comment
CaptainPlanet Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 If the woman is interested in you it is a date. If she is not it is hanging out. Your feelings really don't count in a relationship it is all about what the woman wants. Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 ummm, it depends on your age i think. usually older guys tend to ask me out on dates and guys my age tend to say "hanging out". it usually makes it a lot less formal and guys aren't expected to pay! Link to comment
Luke Skywalker Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 If the woman is interested in you it is a date. If she is not it is hanging out. Your feelings really don't count in a relationship it is all about what the woman wants. Agreed. If a woman knows those particular definations and 'labels' it as hanging-out, then it's probably better to move on if you are interested in her. Link to comment
laisla Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 i always have used "hanging out" to which about half the guys i "hung out" with thought it was a "date". a date to me is a more formal or conventional place where two people go through a romantic approach. and if there's no kissing or touching i would not assume it was a date unless it was made clear. Link to comment
iwalas Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 If the woman is interested in you it is a date. If she is not it is hanging out. Your feelings really don't count in a relationship it is all about what the woman wants. agree (i only wanted to write 'agree', but eNotAlone said it had to be longer) Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I dont believe that the distinction between a date and hanging out has anything to do with feelings, instead just based up a facial look at the terms then one can see that a date is more formal than hanging out. I suspect that your female friends are calling your "hanging out" a date because it is a higher status than "hanging out" it is just an effort to give what you are doing more meaning. Link to comment
brian123 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 The only difference i see in the two is that if both people are interested, then it is a date, if not it is just hanging out. If two people are interested in each other and both call it hanging out, isn't it really a date? The purpose is still the same. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 From my perspective, I've been "hanging out" with a woman I am interested in. We've had a lot of fun on several occasions. My female friends say that these activities have been "dates." My male friends say I have been "hanging out" with her. Does anybody notice this divide in the definition of seeing someone and partaking in an activity? Or are my friends unique? Does the difference in words even matter (I think they do...), and if so, how does that change the mood, setting, etc.? In your opinion what is the difference between dating and hanging out? I only hang out with people I'm not interested in a future with. If I like the person and can see having a future with them possibly, I go on dates with them. Link to comment
jaysfan2000 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Two months ago, I met this girl twice. First time was dinner on a Thursday night. Second time was coffee/cinnabon at the mall on a Saturday afternoon. Third was canceled twice (by her) so I got the message and moved on. However, I would definitely classify the two meetings as dates. I had no intention of being her friend. I "hang out" with my friends. I "date" women who I have interest in. But it is really semantics either way. Funny thing is, if my friends asked me about that girl, I would have said "I hung out with her". I like to downplay things just in case they go wrong down the road. Link to comment
hmdreamer7 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Funny thing is, if my friends asked me about that girl, I would have said "I hung out with her". I like to downplay things just in case they go wrong down the road. If a guy I'm interested in tells me we should hang out, I move on. To me that's like him not taking responsibility for any future actions, ie if it doesn't work out. To men (at least the ones I've dated), hanging out has meant that he shows interest in me when we're alone but not when we're around his friends, and if it doesn't work out, then we were just hanging out, meaning that no emotions were involved, and if I get ticked off in any way then I'm the one being irrational about it! I'd just rather not waste my time with someone who's not going to show any interest in me. This is just my experience though, I'm sure not all guys who use the phrase "hang out" are like that... just the ones that approach me! So let's just call it what it is, as DN so clearly put it... friends = hanging out, and romantic interest = a date. Link to comment
jaysfan2000 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I meant if I just start seeing a girl and my friends ask me about her, I'd use the phrase "hang out", only to indicate that it's not at a serious point yet. If I start dating a girl for 6 months, then my verbage changes in that situation, and justifiably so. Personally, I wouldn't introduce a girl to my friends or family until I knew her for a while (unless she knew my circle of friends beforehand). You never really know how long a "relationship" will last, so I am very cautious about throwing terms around to friends or family. Maybe that's just me. Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 that's actually somewhat true~! Link to comment
Kinetics Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I think it's almost certain that if both parties are interested in meeting exclusively, it's a date. I'd probably say it's not a date when you just have coffee with her, thats more like "hanging out and checking the other person out" ;-D Spending time with the other person in longer hours such as dinner and some activities after that such as movies, window shopping, or walking in the park, etc. is what I'd call a date. After all, both decided to dedicate a few hours of their time to spend time and get to know each other more. At least in my area, that's how a date is "defined", so it's somewhat easier for me to gauge her interest that way. If she constantly rejects dinner but constantly accepts coffee, friend-zone it goes. Link to comment
sunday13 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 "Hanging out" is often substitute for "dating" because people don't want to seem too eager to start a relationship. I agree with those who stated that hanging out is between friends with no romantic interest. Link to comment
hope of ray Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I think it's almost certain that if both parties are interested in meeting exclusively, it's a date. I'd probably say it's not a date when you just have coffee with her, thats more like "hanging out and checking the other person out" ;-D Spending time with the other person in longer hours such as dinner and some activities after that such as movies, window shopping, or walking in the park, etc. is what I'd call a date. After all, both decided to dedicate a few hours of their time to spend time and get to know each other more. At least in my area, that's how a date is "defined", so it's somewhat easier for me to gauge her interest that way. If she constantly rejects dinner but constantly accepts coffee, friend-zone it goes. it's not the amount of time which decides whether it is hang out or date but but what the two of them talk about and what the two do. similarly how could a place decide whether it is hanging out or a date. Link to comment
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