Traveler27 Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I'm seeing a new guy and am really attracted to him. Things have moved pretty quickly and we've already been intimate and have great chemistry. I have been looking really good recently (not to sound arrogant), but just developed a breakout on my chin that looks horrible. Do guys care about this kind of thing? I am 28 so not a young person, and the guy I'm seeing is in his 30's. I feel so self conscious about getting acne and having this new guy see my skin in this state. It's not severe or anything, but I think when you're skin is clear in general, that one or two big pimples will look more obvious. Guys, if you were super attracted to a woman and she developed a few pimples, would it bother you or be a turn-off? I know I sound insecure and probably a bit pathetic, but I'm really interested in this guy and don't want to let something like this shake my confidence. Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Not really. If he likes you he likes you. Just dont draw any attention, most of us break out on occasion. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Don't worry about it. If he is that shallow it might be best to know know. lost Link to comment
lady00 Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I am not a guy, but I really doubt that guys would care that much. Unless maybe it were really severe, which it isn't. I wouldn't worry. I don't think it will bother him at all. It bothers you though, so you should try to find something that works to clear your skin up so that you feel less self-conscious. Link to comment
alli Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 When I had a batch of acne my bf said it didn't bother him at all. I alternate between having perfectly clear skin half the time & having 20-30 blemishes at once the other half. Which is why I started taking accutane. I feel a little ridiculous going to the Dr requesting it when my skin was clear, but it gets really bad. You could try benzoyl peroxide, it works really well too Link to comment
Adge Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 No. Don't we all get them sometimes!? Who cares!! As long as you don't get one on your bottom (just kidding). Link to comment
greywolf Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I think if a guy cared that much about it he wouldn't find very many women to date. Don't we all break out once in awhile? Link to comment
FreeFalling Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Ex's in the past would take great pains to apologize for their appearance when it came to any acne... honestly, half the time I never noticed until they pointed it out... and really, unless the guy is extremely shallow, I can't see it mattering. Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I know a poster here that takes pleasure in popping their S/Os zits for them. Link to comment
greywolf Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I know a poster here that takes pleasure in popping their S/Os zits for them. hahahahahha. Ok, I thought this was really weird at first until I remembered that my ex used to like doing that. I never let her though. I thought it was gross. hahah Link to comment
wurth_skidder Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 My girlfriend breaks out quite a bit and takes medication for it. Acne has never really bothered me. Had a girl when I was 16 tell me I was ugly because I had acne. Funny thing is, two girls told me I was hot a week before that. Probably just some superficial high school thing. I wouldn't worry about it. Acne isn't as noticeable to other people as it is to the person who has it. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 i had a guy care, but he was a real jerk. besides, it was his stupid stubble that caused my breakout!!! Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 i had a guy care, but he was a real jerk. besides, it was his stupid stubble that caused my breakout!!! stubble is the WORST for that!!!! I have this bad habit of pointing out my breakouts...my SO doesn't even notice them! Link to comment
Traveler27 Posted January 8, 2009 Author Share Posted January 8, 2009 Thanks everyone for your reassurances. It's just so hard when you're newly dating someone and want to be at your "best", and then see your skin breaking out is a major stressor. Hopefully he won't notice and if he does, then hope it's not a turn off. I am way too critical of myself and all my perceived flaws. I'm sure many other women can relate. Thanks again! Link to comment
jaysfan2000 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 If you find him noticing the acne, or you are real uncomfortable about it, then try making a joke about it. Some people appreciate self-deprecating humor.....but others might take it as insecurity. It really depends on the type of person you are dealing with. I don't think it's that big of a deal personally, chances are he probably has acne too. Link to comment
Mariahee Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 i get self-conscious when i get breakouts too, but i dont mind if my bf breaks out Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 i had a guy care, but he was a real jerk. besides, it was his stupid stubble that caused my breakout!!! Worse on the inner thighs... Link to comment
iwalas Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I've dated girls with acne and without. If I like a girl, I might notice a pimple, but its not like it scares me away from talking to her. Unless you have a whitehead and it directly interferes with kissing you (like, within millimeters of your lips), I don't think you will see him act any differently. Link to comment
Bartok Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Light acne wouldn't bother me much. I'm 24 and STILL get it consistently, despite washing my face every day just like everybody else does. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I'm sorry but seriously if a guy got turned off because of a few pimples here and there I would definitely tell him he can go and kill himself somewhere , harsh I know but he totally would deserve it Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I'm sorry but seriously if a guy got turned off because of a few pimples here and there I would definitely tell him he can go and kill himself somewhere , harsh I know but he totally would deserve it uhhhhh, yeaaaaah. OP, it's not a big deal. but i wouldn't date a girl i met for the first time that had bad acne. Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Believe me it won't matter if he really likes you....one advice. drink lots of water, no sodas no juice.just water..you will see the change right away....my daughter has it real bad, back and all. her twin brother calls her pizza face and i get mad at him but she still has all these teenagers wanting her number..lol i think its so cute... I believe that I never got acne for 2 reasons...never wore heavy makeup, just eyes liner and lipgloss...that was it and drink lots of water...it did it for me..but both my oldest son and my youngest daughetr got it bad. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Believe me it won't matter if he really likes you....one advice. drink lots of water, no sodas no juice.just water..you will see the change right away....my daughter has it real bad, back and all. her twin brother calls her pizza face and i get mad at him but she still has all these teenagers wanting her number..lol i think its so cute... I believe that I never got acne for 2 reasons...never wore heavy makeup, just eyes liner and lipgloss...that was it and drink lots of water...it did it for me..but both my oldest son and my youngest daughetr got it bad. it's genetic. sure, that stuff helps with some of it, but if you have it in your genes, none of this will matter. it can skip generations, hence you. Link to comment
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