7 days N/C!

[sillygurl]

I am so proud of myself, I had to post: I made it 7 days today without calling my ex!! I didn't know I had it in me.

 

I have lots of reasons to call him- need to get/return things of his, that sort of thing, but I realized that I'll see him no matter what on the 13th. (we have class together) It's wonderful, just wonderful! I can make it to the 13th. Then I can gauge how to interact with him after that.

 

I have started thinking more about his irritating qualities: his grooming leaves a lot to be desired, he causes me to be in an emotional roller-coaster, he's got a short fuse and a quick temper, etc.- and less about how much I want a future with him. It's been really, really hard, but I am surviving and healing.

 

When I see him on the 13th, I will look FABULOUS. I will have my hair sparkling, my face made up, and a huge confident smile on my face. If he's a jerk, I'll just assume he threw my things away... if he's nice to me, I'll keep the conversation light and be rushed for time. If he ignores me completely, I will, in turn, ignore him back and assume he doesn't want his things.

 

I might even throw them away!

 

(nah, I don't think I'll do that)

 

I will continue to heal, and continue to be strong.

 

 

[Adge]

Nice work. Gives me a little inspiration!

[sillygurl]

You can do it!! Make a list of qualities the ex has that aren't your favorite. It'll help a lot.

Good luck!

 

[thedude27]

Good job!! its a hard road, stick with it. There will be ups and downs so expect that.

[Greeneyedgem]

Good Job... its been 13 days that he has not heard from me he text me 10 days ago and i did not respond.... this is some hard stuff so many differetn emotions rolled all into 1 heart and one mind... Im just now coming through the sad days of no motivation... Im trying to keep my mind busy yet i find myself here reading and thinking about it again ironic how that works...

[sillygurl]

Thanks so much, to both of you! I really appreciate it. It's been so very difficult, I've been hurting so much. I saw him just sign onto gmail, and I nearly had a heart attack wondering if he would say anything to me.

 

He didn't...and it strengthened my resolve even more.

 

 

Good Job... its been 13 days that he has not heard from me he text me 10 days ago and i did not respond.... this is some hard stuff so many differetn emotions rolled all into 1 heart and one mind... Im just now coming through the sad days of no motivation... Im trying to keep my mind busy yet i find myself here reading and thinking about it again ironic how that works...

 

You can do it! It is some hard stuff... when you want to txt or call him, think about how terrible it will feel to have him reject you again- or even worse, ignore you completely!

 

They can't miss you if you aren't gone. Hang in there!

[Adge]

You can do it! It is some hard stuff... when you want to txt or call him, think about how terrible it will feel to have him reject you again- or even worse, ignore you completely!

 

That is a part I am potentially dreading...

[dreamer888]

They can't miss you if you aren't gone. Hang in there!

 

 

wow, that gave me so much inspiration right there. that is SO true. how can they miss you when you're still calling and texting and showing interest...knowing that they have a hold on you.

 

BUT, then again...i also question myself when i think about that...bc he TOLD me to stop talking to him and texting him for AT LEAST a month...so maybe me leaving him alone won't do any good either?

I don't know...i just want him back so bad...

[pumpkinmoon]

Well done. You will find out that you are a lot stronger than you think during an awful time like this. I certainly surprised myself when I was going through it.

 

If it helps, also make a list of everything that annoyed you about him and everything he did to hurt you, no matter how small. When you start to feel down, get that list out.

 

Good luck