Do you think he's worth a chance?

[Seria M.]

its a long story.

 

This guy started liking me during our freshmen year in high school, and back then, I wasn't interested in a relationship, I wanted to focus on finishing high school and my studies. During the first few months of this, he started dropping off love notes in my Seminar class frequently, unaware that I was not wanting for a relationship right now. I have to admit, it was so sweet what he wrote on there ( it was listed as "your secret admirer"). A couple of months later, he gave a note which gave away his identity (whether that was intentional or not, I do not know), and I found out who he was. He's a guy I've been going to school with since elementary, I just kept to myself though. I wished I had the heart to tell him but I'm just so shy around people, and I found out that he is the same. He's a very sweet, quiet guy, but I don't know much about him. We're both hispanic, quiet, but nothing on a deeper level.

 

 

During our junior year in high school, we got stuck in Chemistry and Philosophy class together; he's actually quite bright. And I had thought that his feelings for me have diminished, then he sent me a Valentine's carnation complete with a rose and a message. He didn't deliver it to me himself, but his handwriting gave it away (was listed as anonymous again). I was very flattered, I even blushed a bit, but I still want to stick with my studies first. Again, I didn't have the heart to tell him that.

 

A year later, he joined the marching band (which I've been involved with since middle school), and I was shocked. He just started playing an instrument, and he became quite talented on it; he was first chair after a couple of months. But I was still surprised that he joined band in his senior year, it was nice. At the end of the year, the WHOLE band practically loved and respected him.

 

But to this day, I kept wondering if he joined band just for me.

 

We're in junior college now, and I still believe that he has those feelings for me. He recently gave me a Christmas card with a cute ornament decoration a week before Christmas after we finished our finals and we were heading home for the last time this semester. No doubt the gift he gave me was so sweet, and looking at it brings him up in my mind.

 

I don't know if this guy is someone I would see spending the rest of my life with. But should I give him a chance? My heart tells me I should, but I'm just always pondering about the pros and cons of dating. I've never been in a relationship, and thinking about it kinda scares me because I don't know if it'll be with the right person or not.

 

It's obvious....he likes me very much (And I doubt he would be stalking me). I still want to focus on college, but should I give him a chance?

[waltwhit]

sure, why not? And I guarantee you he joined the band just for you. he sounds like a sweet guy who really likes you, so why not make your first relationship with him? You don't have to spend the rest of your life with the first guy you date either. Dating relationships are good, cause you learn a little something from each one. You learn about mutual respect, communication, honesty, commitment, etc. Also, you don't have to be physical if that's what's keeping you from wanting a relationship. I would say just start hanging out with him outside of school and get to know him a little better. If nothing else, you will have a cool new friend to hang out with, and if he is smart like you say, a study partner to help you with your studies.

[liquer]

I agree with the above. Give it a chance and see what happens? I bet you and him hit it off well.

[Changeling]

I don't know if this guy is someone I would see spending the rest of my life with. But should I give him a chance? My heart tells me I should, but I'm just always pondering about the pros and cons of dating. I've never been in a relationship, and thinking about it kinda scares me because I don't know if it'll be with the right person or not.

This paragraph begs one question... Are you planning to only ever have one romantic relationship?

 

(I specify "romantic" because most people have dozens if not hundreds of relationships... it's usually the romantic ones people get worked up over.)