Is a kiss with someone else 'Cheating'?

[toffeegirl14]

hi. This might sound a bit dramatic but I still need advice. Ive only been seeing my new guy for 3 weeks but I really think he's the one. (Im not 16!!), but just befor xmas he went on holiday. At a party i drunkedly got chatting to another guy and he moved in for a kiss. I kissed him back but then suddenly relised what was happening. I feel so guilty tho. Should I tell my new guy or pass it off as something or nothing? Pleas help.

[zanitos]

definitely need to tell him. If you really believe he is the one, you need to give him the respect he deserves. Do not start the relationship on a lie.

[toffeegirl14]

but im really scared he will dump me! It really didnt mean anything and lasted about 2 seconds. but i do feel bad because he is lovely. Can I ask if your a man or woman? thanks for the reply x

[COtuner]

Are you ever going to see anyone from that party again? If so, I'd say tell him. If not, well, it's personal choice. At the 3 week mark, if you are not exclusive, I don't think it matters too much, just stay away from the liquor and get some self control.

[equinox]

Tell him. If you do, he may dump you, he may not. However, if he finds out later he most likely will.

[zanitos]

i am a man, i understand where you are coming from, but take it from a man who has been through a lot... (read my post and you'll know what i mean) if you truly & honestly believe you love/like/care for him, you need to tell him. it hurts him more if you don't or you lie about it, than if you are honest. I will be better for both of you in the long run if you do this now. just remember communication is key in any relationship.

[simply complicated]

Honesty is the most important thing in any relationship, new or old, I think telling him is the right thing to do for the fact that it shows your honest about your mistake, and it's also very early in the relationship, so he might not take it so hard. It may cause trust issues down the line, or it may not, but at least he'll know you would be honest about anything, assuming it continues after this, but either way, it's the right thing to do.

[franfran]

You need to tell him. Off to a bad start if you don't.

[Tamoko]

I personally do not think kissing is cheating. I kiss my friends, my family..

 

Kissing in a sexual and pleasurable way would be cheating.

 

If you are feeling guilty then say something. be honest.

[toffeegirl14]

Thankyou everyone. 99.9% of me was already going to tell him but you have helped me make my mind up completeley. Keep your fingers crossed for me because I think he is the one but I only have myself to blame if he walks. Thanks again.

[anonimo]

Tell him....If it just happened as you say, and the guy initiated it and you stopped and didn't pursue it and drew back when tipsy then it shouldn't be that big of a deal. If it you did kind of do it consciously then it's a little more serious.

 

Either way you should le him know. It's better then him finding out from a diff. source because then it will look like you are doin' stuff behind his back..

[Botched]

What does "I am not 16..." mean. If you are younger, or not 21 I would advise staying away from said drinks. There is a reason for the legal age, and it has to do with decision making ability...and 21 is very young. Drinking screws up many relationships and lives.

 

I am not saying to never drink, just wait. You can say no...read some more of these threads. There are women who get taken advantage of while drunk. In a court they are not generally backed. If you get drunk with a group of untrustworthy people and get hurt it will generally reflect on you.

 

Please be carefull!

[girl68]

A little off topic but 21 is OLD for a drinking age. Sure it's young to make life altertering decisions but here in Canada it is 19. And in more places it is 16.

[yeawutever]

How about leaving this behind and just never do it again. If so then tell him.

[littlestar]

Kissing is a form of cheating, yes!