D_Lish Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Oh, now that's funny. They just released tons of studies regarding sexuality, breaking it down by country, and the UK was, by far, the most promiscuous country on the planet. Don't be swayed by Hollywood. This country isn't one giant episode of The Jerry Springer Show, or Girls Gone Wild, or Desperate Housewives. Sorry, I dont watch * * * * e tv programmes nor am I influenced by them. And yeah, we have our fair share of promiscuous people....but they are whats known as the 'cheating' population too. We just do not date multiple people....period. But hey, I can understand why you men are ganging up...I mean, 'variety is the spice of your lives' eh??? LOL Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 No you wouldn't, because over here a woman wouldn't put up with you dating multiple women as well as her....it just aint the done thing. LOL We date one at a time....anything else is classed as going behind our back and cheating. well, the way i date here doesn't speak for everyone in the US. that's your opinion of dating in the UK. sure, the consensus might be that, but i'd be able to do it. has nothing to do with me being so confident either. i know i could. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Sorry, I dont watch * * * * e tv programmes nor am I influenced by them. And yeah, we have our fair share of promiscuous people....but they are whats known as the 'cheating' population too. We just do not date multiple people....period. But hey, I can understand why you men are ganging up...I mean, 'variety is the spice of your lives' eh??? LOL it's not cheating. YOU might consider it that, but i wouldn't speak for all of UK. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I have always heard that the US is actually considered kinda prudish compared to Europe, but I don't particularly care what the rest of the world is doing. OP, just date and have a good time. How else will you find someone that's right for you? I doubt she's gonna fall into your lap. As long as you're not giving all these girls the impression they're your girlfriend or that you're not seeing anyone else, I don't see what the problem is. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 it's not cheating. YOU might consider it that, but i wouldn't speak for all of UK. Nah, highly doubt the majority of UK women would relish the fact that a guy they were sleeping with, was also sleeping with numerous other women and despite how long they had known him or been seeing him...we are very different in that respect. And sleeping around is frowned upon...hence so many adverts on British tv, highlighting sexually transmitted diseases from sleeping around. However, the men over here are the same as you....in that they would just lurve to be seeing and sleeping with as many women as possible....that's the way men are, LOL They are biologically programmed to spread their seed and implant it in all and sundy... But yeah, there will be people here who shag owt with a pulse and who never committ to one person and those who are in relationships, who despite that still want to shaft whatever becomes available to them...teenage boys for example or people who just get the urge to shaft everything that moves. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I think it is funny how just one person can speak for the entire population in their country. I guaruntee that I can go to the UK and find 3 respectable women out there that are open to having sex knowing that I am with others. It's called honesty. Lets not bring "morals" or "religion" into this. I am perfectly capable of being in a commited relationship with one woman when I want to be. Its just not how I chose to be right now. You are right though... to each their own. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I think it is funny how just one person can speak for the entire population in their country. It's a small country....lol You likely would find females who would sleep with you, knowing you are sleeping with other females at same time. Those who have low esteem and don't think they are worthy of anything other than a guy who shags multiple women at any one time....or those like yourself, who perhaps aren't looking for anything serious. But let's face it, most women are looking for their knight in shining armour....and not a promiscuous Knight on a white horse.... Why would a 'respectable' woman stoop so low as to settle for this kind of behaviour and treatment, from a man. You'd maybe get a single mum from a run down council estate in the UK to play along, LOL Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 It's a small country....lol You likely would find females who would sleep with you, knowing you are sleeping with other females at same time. Those who have low esteem and don't think they are worthy of anything other than a guy who shags multiple women at any one time....or those like yourself, who perhaps aren't looking for anything serious. But let's face it, most women are looking for their knight in shining armour....and not a promiscuous Knight on a white horse.... Why would a 'respectable' woman stoop so low as to settle for this kind of behaviour and treatment, from a man. You'd maybe get a single mum from a run down council estate in the UK to play along, LOL respectable women don't have sex? weird. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 respectable women don't have sex? weird. Course they do... But... Respectable women usually have morals, standards and class! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Course they do... But... Respectable women usually have morals, standards and class! being in an open relationship doesn't mean someone isn't classy or has morals. their morals are just different than yours. look, DL, you are you and what you want is yours. what they want isn't yours, don't hate. and you still don't represent a whole country. Link to comment
jenny_mcs Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I'm a one man woman and I prefer a man to be a one woman man......but that is the way it is in the UK...totally different to the USA. Britain was just named the most promiscuous of all western nations. "In an international index measuring one-night stands, total numbers of partners and attitudes to casual sex, Britain comes out ahead of Australia, the US, France, the Netherlands, Italy and Germany." So, maybe things are a little different than you perceive them to be. Here's the link to the article: link removed Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 being in an open relationship doesn't mean someone isn't classy or has morals. their morals are just different than yours. look, DL, you are you and what you want is yours. what they want isn't yours, don't hate. and you still don't represent a whole country. ....and you still don't represent a whole country. I never claimed to represent it......just saying that on the whole, I believe that the women of the UK, wouldn't relish their man or any man they were involved with, to be sleeping with numerous women while involved with them. And being born and bred and resident in the UK all of my life, I have a fair idea of how the people of this country tick... We are a country and a people that still hold on to and value, old traditions.. The dating scene here, is very, very different to that of over there.... And don't make me out to be a 'hater' because I don't hate....my view is, 'to each their own', which I'd said a few posts back .....even if I don't agree with others. I am a one man woman and I personally value my health, which is why you wouldn't catch me romping around naked, with every John, Brian, Steven and David....LOL And I wouldn't want any guy I was involved with, to be romping around with all and sundry either...and putting me at risk of veneral diseases. But whatever floats ya boat.... Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Britain was just named the most promiscuous of all western nations. "In an international index measuring one-night stands, total numbers of partners and attitudes to casual sex, Britain comes out ahead of Australia, the US, France, the Netherlands, Italy and Germany." So, maybe things are a little different than you perceive them to be. Here's the link to the article: link removed Yeah....one night stands perhaps. One night stands are entirely different, to being in relationships or being in a situation whereby you are seeing the same people reguarly and sleeping with them all at same time... A one night stand, is where you pick a person up at random and sleep with them.....a one off where you don't continue to see that person anymore. The guys here, are saying that they see the same girls reguarly and sleep with them all.....and they all know the guy is sleeping with others. When seeing someone regularly, we expect to be the only person they are seeing. That is the way it is here.....like I keep on saying, dating is very DIFFERENT over here. We do 'ONE at a time'....not MANY at one time. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Well D'Lish, It is perfectly fine for you to say "to each their own" but when you assume that we dont have class or morals because we are in open relationships, that is immature and Nieve on your part. Please refrain from judging us any further because of our ideas on open relationships. I consider this sort of response "flaming". Thanks in advance Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Yeah....one night stands perhaps. One night stands are entirely different, to being in relationships or being in a situation whereby you are seeing the same people reguarly and sleeping with them all at same time... A one night stand, is where you pick a person up at random and sleep with them.....a one off where you don't continue to see that person anymore. The guys here, are saying that they see the same girls reguarly and sleep with them all.....and they all know the guy is sleeping with others. When seeing someone regularly, we expect to be the only person they are seeing. That is the way it is here.....like I keep on saying, dating is very DIFFERENT over here. We do 'ONE at a time'....not MANY at one time. for all you know a guy you are seeing is sleeping around. if you aren't committed, it's not cheating. Link to comment
JenniferSNJ Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 No!!! Date around and date lots of people... that's why it's called dating. Don't limit your options. I was dating six people when I met my last bf. I only cut off others after dating him and others for a month or so and realized I was the most interested in him. You're not doing anything wrong. Play ball. Link to comment
JenniferSNJ Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 for all you know a guy you are seeing is sleeping around. if you aren't committed, it's not cheating. exactly. amen! Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 for all you know a guy you are seeing is sleeping around. if you aren't committed, it's not cheating. For me, it would be cheating...attitudes are different here. I dont see people casually and wouldn't let anyone use me casually either........all of my relationships began as exclusive...and I've never ever been involved with a guy who wanted to shag others, as well as me... I was enough for him lol Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 For me, it would be cheating...attitudes are different here. I dont see people casually and wouldn't let anyone use me casually either........all of my relationships began as exclusive...and I've never ever been involved with a guy who wanted to shag others, as well as me... I was enough for him lol that is weird to me. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 that is weird to me. How so? The guys were obviously interested and wanted to get to know ME.....not a thousand others at same time. I see nothing wrong with this. We don't do this whole dating thing, as you do. We meet someone and if we like each other and are interested, well we concentrate on that person and become exclusive almost immediatley, if there is real interest there... If we aren't keen, well it goes no further and we move onto the next one. Or for those who meet nobody they particularly are interested in....well they have one night stands and play the field I guess. One night stands would likely be picked up in bars and clubs.....the bar and club scene is where you will find the most promiscuous of people. Once drink is in, sense goes outta the wndow and people are more likely to put out, full of booze. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 who said anything about one night stands? who is we? you representing everyone again? you can date several people at once and NOT even be having sex. why are you close minded on this? dating several people at once doesn't mean there are no morals or that everyone is screwing everyone. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 sorry D lish but i have to agree with ghost and Avy. ive dated multiple women at the same time and they all new this. Doesnt mean your sleeping with them, its called dating for a reason, your getting to know them and if one stands out more than the others is when you cut the others off. Its not a fact of having the cake and eating it too, its called smart dating. If i was to jump into each an exclusive relationship with each one of the ladies back to back, it may very well be failure after failure, where as i can get to know multiple women at one time and choose from there. each one deserves an opportunity to get to know me and usually i make this clear from the start that its just dating and an open book. i highly doubt its not all that different in the UK. maybe your town but i have had many friends in the military spend alot of time in the UK and dated mulitiple women. Its called living! Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 who said anything about one night stands? who is we? you representing everyone again? you can date several people at once and NOT even be having sex. why are you close minded on this? dating several people at once doesn't mean there are no morals or that everyone is screwing everyone. Nothing to do with close mindedness.....your method of dating, differs to that of the UK! We don't call it 'dating'....we call it 'seeing someone'.....dating differs in all parts of the world. This subject has been raised over and over and females from UK that I have encountered in these forums, have said that they like the guy to be exclusive to them....and I have seen them beaten down with other members from other parts of the world who say 'Well you aren't exclusive, thereforee you can't expect him to not date others'.... But that aint the way it works here.....ATTITUDES differ. We DON'T as a rule date or shag multiple people and all at once....ACCEPT IT....LOL Im starting to feel like a stuck record.....my head hurts. End of input. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Nothing to do with close mindedness.....your method of dating, differs to that of the UK! We don't call it 'dating'....we call it 'seeing someone'.....dating differs in all parts of the world. This subject has been raised over and over and females from UK that I have encountered in these forums, have said that they like the guy to be exclusive to them....and I have seen them beaten down with other members from other parts of the world who say 'Well you aren't exclusive, thereforee you can't expect him to not date others'.... But that aint the way it works here.....ATTITUDES differ. We DON'T as a rule date or shag multiple people and all at once....ACCEPT IT....LOL Im starting to feel like a stuck record.....my head hurts. End of input. touche........ Link to comment
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