MD Geist Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 These last couple of weeks my luck has slightly changed and I have been around more women than I have most of my life and just recently met up with a girl on POF and we kicked it off and now we friends at the moment. And another on invited me out for a night with her friends. got advice from men in my age group that I should date more often like casual dating. Currently I'am still very single always have been and have never been in a true relationship however I don't want to hurt anyones feeling here. I'am not a fan of dating mulituble women either at the sametime. All I do want to do is meet someone that is right for me as much as i'am right for her nothing else and to be honest. With me having no strings attached at the moment should I be allowed to do such a thing?. I'am I even doing the right thing by "keeping my options open"? Even though this is slowly working for me I just don't want to end up becoming a player by acident. Link to comment
jettison Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 You're not resembling anything like a player, nor are you dating multiple women. If you're asking if it's wrong for a single person to have multiple flirtations then the answer is that it's not only perfectly fine, but it's completely encouraged. If you don't go out there, strike up friendships, and start discovering who these women really are, then how are you going to develop mutual attachments with them? You can't. As for hurting someone's feelings, although a noble thought, you should mostly leave that at the door. The odds are at about 99.9% that someone will get their feelings hurt along the way, and that's what you're signing up for. Otherwise, consider becoming a monk. However, this does not give you free reign to be either a liar, a user, or a braggart. It simply means that you treat people with a certain level of respect, be they male, female, potential romantic interest, or just a friend. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Lol. No! not at all. This is very common. I am sorry this is the first time that you have had multiple dates but better late than never right? lol Yeah I am currently dating 6 different girls right now. As long as you are not making any promises to them and they all know that you are keeping your options open... there is nothing wrong with that. I am even sleeping with 3 of the girls and they all know that I am. I am honest with them all and you should be honest too. Have fun and strap up! lol. Link to comment
jettison Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Lol. No! not at all. This is very common. I am sorry this is the first time that you have had multiple dates but better late than never right? lol Yeah I am currently dating 6 different girls right now. As long as you are not making any promises to them and they all know that you are keeping your options open... there is nothing wrong with that. I am even sleeping with 3 of the girls and they all know that I am. I am honest with them all and you should be honest too. Have fun and strap up! lol. I have lots of female friends, and I know a few women who are more then just a little fond of me, but I'm only dating one person. At the most, I've only ever dated two people, but that was very short-lived. How on earth do you possibly juggle dating 6 people? The emails, the texts, the phonecalls, the dates, the dinners... where do you find the time to work, to read, to engage in hobbies, or even to breath? No idea how people do this when I hear about it. 1 is more then enough for me, and sometimes even that feels like 1 too many. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I have lots of female friends, and I know a few women who are more then just a little fond of me, but I'm only dating one person. At the most, I've only ever dated two people, but that was very short-lived. How on earth do you possibly juggle dating 6 people? The emails, the texts, the phonecalls, the dates, the dinners... where do you find the time to work, to read, to engage in hobbies, or even to breath? No idea how people do this when I hear about it. 1 is more then enough for me, and sometimes even that feels like 1 too many. Lol. It's not that hard. The 2 that I am mostly interested in, I see them once or twice a week. The other 4 I only see like once or twice a month. I only email one of them, text all of them (but I keep the messages short plus their name pops up when I get the text so I know who I am talking to), I only talk to one on the phone ona regular basis and I turn my phone on silent when I am on a date with any of them. I still have time to work, work out and do my own thing. It's really not that hard. Sometimes I wish I had more women to date lol. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I have lots of female friends, and I know a few women who are more then just a little fond of me, but I'm only dating one person. At the most, I've only ever dated two people, but that was very short-lived. How on earth do you possibly juggle dating 6 people? The emails, the texts, the phonecalls, the dates, the dinners... where do you find the time to work, to read, to engage in hobbies, or even to breath? No idea how people do this when I hear about it. 1 is more then enough for me, and sometimes even that feels like 1 too many. I totally agree. It is way too much work to worry about dating more than one person at a time and not something i could ever do or even wanted to do. Maybe to some it's an ego thing, i can't imagine what I could get out of doing this. If a person is single, however, i don't think multiple flirtations are being a player. Nothing wrong with that. You are not promising anything with a flirt. Link to comment
Javito1986 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 It's really not worth the drama. I tried the "multiple flirtations" (great euphenism!) about two summers ago and had a good 6 or 7 going on simultaneously. Way. Too. Much Drama. I had to cut back once the semester started again. And it was really, really expensive. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I totally agree. It is way too much work to worry about dating more than one person at a time and not something i could ever do or even wanted to do. Maybe to some it's an ego thing, i can't imagine what I could get out of doing this. It doesn't feed my ego. Its more of a "I am done with relationships for awhile and I like to have plenty of options for a date right now" kinda thing. If I feel like getting out with a lady, believe me, having more than a few options comes in handy. There is always someone available and willing. Funny how people look at it as an ego thing though. That made me chuckle. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 It's really not worth the drama. I tried the "multiple flirtations" (great euphenism!) about two summers ago and had a good 6 or 7 going on simultaneously. Way. Too. Much Drama. I had to cut back once the semester started again. And it was really, really expensive. Thats why you have them pay for most of the dates silly! lol. Link to comment
Kinetics Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 As long as the girls don't come from the same circle, I think it's a safe and fair game. Try doing that at the girls in the office, lol. Now that is interesting ;-) Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 It doesn't feed my ego. Its more of a "I am done with relationships for awhile and I like to have plenty of options for a date right now" kinda thing. If I feel like getting out with a lady, believe me, having more than a few options comes in handy. There is always someone available and willing. Funny how people look at it as an ego thing though. That made me chuckle. It made me chuckle that you thought my post was about you. LOL i had not even read your post when i created mine. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 that's not a player OP. don't worry. Link to comment
Mutley Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Enjoy the end of your drought. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Yeah I am currently dating 6 different girls right now. I am even sleeping with 3 of the girls and they all know that I am. I am honest with them all and you should be honest too. Don't you have a preference for one of them though? One of them whom you prefer over the others, one who you would like to get to know better. Sleeping with 3 girls? And they all know? Classy chicks....NOT I'm a one man woman and I prefer a man to be a one woman man......but that is the way it is in the UK...totally different to the USA. Link to comment
Mutley Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I'm a one man woman and I prefer a man to be a one woman man......but that is the way it is in the UK...totally different to the USA. HA HA. No it's on not. Many of us just want the "one." Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Don't you have a preference for one of them though? One of them whom you prefer over the others, one who you would like to get to know better. Sleeping with 3 girls? And they all know? Classy chicks....NOT I'm a one man woman and I prefer a man to be a one woman man......but that is the way it is in the UK...totally different to the USA. i bet you i could do the same thing in the UK. Link to comment
Mutley Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 i bet you i could do the same thing in the UK. Yea...I there's ALL kinds everywhere. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 i find this to be a weird posting because why do we need to know what you are doing with these 6 girls and who you are sleeping with? I feel you are giving us too much information and you come off as immature Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 i find this to be a weird posting because why do we need to know what you are doing with these 6 girls and who you are sleeping with? I feel you are giving us too much information and you come off as immature who you talking to? the OP is sleeping with nobody i think and not seeing 6 girls. someone else said that. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 who you talking to? the OP is sleeping with nobody i think and not seeing 6 girls. someone else said that. OH my mistake, disregard my last message Link to comment
jettison Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Don't you have a preference for one of them though? One of them whom you prefer over the others, one who you would like to get to know better. Sleeping with 3 girls? And they all know? Classy chicks....NOT I'm a one man woman and I prefer a man to be a one woman man......but that is the way it is in the UK...totally different to the USA. Oh, now that's funny. They just released tons of studies regarding sexuality, breaking it down by country, and the UK was, by far, the most promiscuous country on the planet. Don't be swayed by Hollywood. This country isn't one giant episode of The Jerry Springer Show, or Girls Gone Wild, or Desperate Housewives. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Don't you have a preference for one of them though? One of them whom you prefer over the others, one who you would like to get to know better. Yeah there is. I just don't want a relationship now so thats the whole point of dating. Eventually I will probably end up dating one of these girls when I am ready but then again, I might end up dating someone that I am not seeing right now. Who knows? Sleeping with 3 girls? And they all know? Yeah they all know that I am sleeping with other women. I know one of them is sleeping with other men. It's an agreement that we have. I can't sit there and have sex with them and other women and expect them to remain monogamous with me. I also believe that it is my responsibility to tell them that I am sleeping with other women because of the risks that they are taking by being with me and vica versa. Classy chicks....NOT I find it harsh of you to judge them just because they choose to sleep with me knowing that I am sleeping with others. That does not take any class away from them. That just means that they are open minded and do things knowingly. I do not consider myself to have any less class then a "one woman man" either just because I choose to have sex with multiple women. It's a choice. We are ALL different. Whenever I am in a relationship though, all "playing the fields" stops for me and I become a "one woman man". I'm a one man woman and I prefer a man to be a one woman man......but that is the way it is in the UK...totally different to the USA I beg to differ. There are men and women that sleep around with multiple partners in EVERY country. That's like saying that gay/lesbians only live in Florida lol. Link to comment
MD Geist Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Great! Aviatormy You have offically highjacked my thread by saying your dating 6 women. I'am not making any commitments right now at the moment and since I'am not in a relationship nor never have been I really need to be "Picky" about who I choose as a partner and I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket cause I know how that works if the basket breaks. I figure I can make alot of friends along the way and perhaps go from there a choose who I want to be with. I just don't want to be known as a guy who goes around with diffrent women all the time I just don't have no time to be sleeping around nor I wouldn't want to that anyways. I do want to be as honest as I can be and so far I do feel like this methhood is working for me so far and it keeps alot of purssure off myself that I need to be successful. It gives off that vibe that "I don't need you" which is good when you meet a girl you really like cause if you don't have any other option your pretty much going to come off needy. I have even notice a huge change in the last girl I asked out when I told her I was being setup on a blind date. At the same time I have been talking with a girl on myspace who's is interested in meeting me soon locally. So things are coming and I just want to make sure that i'am making the right judgements here on my decissions that I make. Is it okay to go on casual dates before you commit?. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 i bet you i could do the same thing in the UK. No you wouldn't, because over here a woman wouldn't put up with you dating multiple women as well as her....it just aint the done thing. LOL We date one at a time....anything else is classed as going behind our back and cheating. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I beg to differ. There are men and women that sleep around with multiple partners in EVERY country. That's like saying that gay/lesbians only live in Florida lol. Yeah they do.....but here in UK, you would be cheating .....unless of course there was an agreement to sleep with others, as in an open relationship. Whether just seeing someone or exclusive, we do 'one' at a time. I find the fact that you sleep with three women, tasteless....talk about having your cake and eating it and I doubt you will get married, being so spoilt for choice....LOL As a woman, I would not dream of shagging a man whom I knew was shagging multiple other women....and I wouldn't be sleeping with two guys at any one time either....I think it's what you call, having 'morals'.... LOL Haha, each to their own though eh.. Link to comment
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