deff808 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I haven't talk to here ever since Thanks Giving.... But we Work With each other! I only did two LC outside of work, last time was like two weeks ago. I figure, go NC immediately, after hearing she was or is seeing someone else. So i change my attitude towards work, just ignore or not to pay attention, or keep the conversation to a minimum. Shes the one always try to get my attention or asked my co-workers of what i said, or hear, bla bla bla.... She sent two text messages for christmas, i didn't respond either of them. Yesterday at work, i was in a good mood, so i figure change my attitude. She said hi first, and i said hi, and said happy new years! She was like Huh..... She was talking to me, trying to make conversations. So i kept it cool, i listen... Ask how was my new years, hows my family, and everything... I told her, to see how much fun i am having! So she says, "wow i haven't gone fishing for awhile etc..." I say, i been going every week on my days off! She says, "really, what.... Well here is what you do, reach in your pocket, grab your cell phone, and dial my number!..." I looked at her, in a awkward way! I say.... ughhh... So i made some inside jokes about me calling her, she was laughing etc.... Trying to flirt with me, but very little.... Than she ask if my other house i own, is availble to rent. Said her landlord is being very strict on her, on some circumstances.... So she ask if she wanted to move in my other house, that i have available to rent, with her roommate i know to. She was going on and on, about it, i just listen.... I told her i'll think about it... She ask what time i finish work, i said 6pm. She says, CALL ME! My co-workers was observing our conversations... They all say "looks whos playing all friendly and polite and chasing after you..." I had to go use the restroom, and she says "where were you, i was looking for you!" So i waited till 7pm, i call. I told her, i got something in my truck i found, her roommate left in my truck. Few weeks ago, christmas party. her roommate needed a ride home. So i ask my ex where she was, and she says at her parents house.... Beats me if she was or not! Sounded like she wanted me to come over, but i immediately changed the subject... She was like talking in a sexy voice... Like.... "Whhereeee arreee youu huhhhh!" weird.... So i said, i'm gonna go to your house, and drop it off on the door step. So we chit chatted for like 15 minutes on the phone. Talking about random things! Than comes around 945pm at night, she calls again. Ask how i was doing! Bla bla bla... Random things agin. Than she ask if i asked my family and my brothers, if it would be okay to move in. I said, they're not home.... So we talked for like total of 12 minutes, she says "i have a friend calling, i need to go..." Okay Bye! So of what i heard, someone left a gift front of her door step, seceret admire or something. Left a poem and a black pearl ear-rings. I seen her wearing it. She was asking my co-workers of what i thought about it.... And i apparently she met the dude, i dunno how many times.... This was like a week ago.... So beats me! She said she is gonna call again today, before i head to work.... What is she doing!!!!!! Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Wow, deff - right now you need this girl like you need a hole in the head! My concern is that if you help her out with her housing problems, you're going to end up feeling very used. This might not fit for you, and if you think you'd be cool with it, then go ahead. However, if she's now contacting you when she wants something from you, despite the fact that she's seeing somebody else ... be wary, look after yourself first! No need to be nasty to her, take your time - but don't let her use you. Link to comment
deff808 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yes, i know the word "used"! i'm being very cautious about this! She called twice today, i didn't anwser it. She left a voicemail to... The only way i would help her, if we be back together again! I don't know if i could be cool with it either, she bringing home another dude or whatever she does. I know she pays her rent on time, not a partier, hardly at home etc... She work two jobs, her room mate is full time etc... I don't think it would be a good idea at all... I wanna see what this leads to... But don't want it to be in a outcome, that i tell her no. I'm straight being back in the hole, a$$hole or whatever.... Than i'll know if i was being used or she understands it or has the respect of it! Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 If in doubt, don't. You have the perfect excuse by saying that your family's finances are a bit 'up in the air' for various reasons at the moment. Link to comment
deff808 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yes, or i could say someone was already in line.... Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Also, stick to a timescale that's comfortable for you (citing family situation etc), rather than rushing to fulfil her needs. Link to comment
deff808 Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 She called twice today, i let it hang for a few hours. Called her back, made a excuse... She was stoked to hear from me, bla bla bla... She was with her mom, and saying her mom is saying hi to me over the phone etc... Than she says, she got a new phone! So i said, wow, now you gonna be texting alot huh! So she says.... Maybe you might get one from me! I said really huh, i'll be looking forward to it... She said, oh ok! So i cut the conversation short, said i better let her go, chill with her mom. Since she was in a supermarket.... Hmmmm...... What is she doing!!!! is she chasing after me? I dunno if she still seeing or starting seeing a dude... Maybe she is realizing what she has lost.... Link to comment
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