Relationship right after the divorce

[rachel blond]

I heard recently that the toughest relationship is the one right after your divorce. Iam glad Im not the only one who thinks so. I have talked to a couple people and they say they agree, and understandably why, but, does it get better?? I just feel like now, I never wanna even look at another guy, afriad of the outcome, afraid Im doomed to become the dreaded cat lady lol.

[Supa_gurl]

I second that emotion. I dated "Mr. Right" so I thought. Turns out he was a wolf in sheeps clothing. Real jerk. Glad it was short lived and I did nothing I would now regret.

[NJRon]

While I agree with this, I would also say that the amount of time between your divorce and the relationship has a big impact on the success of that relationship. The more you can come to closure on the old and open yourself up to the new, the less likely you are to have a relationship that is any more difficult than any other.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

While I agree with this, I would also say that the amount of time between your divorce and the relationship has a big impact on the success of that relationship. The more you can come to closure on the old and open yourself up to the new, the less likely you are to have a relationship that is any more difficult than any other.

 

I agree. Many people embark on relationships while in the midst of a divorce...or the day after the divorce comes through they are out there frantically trying to find another partner. The relationships don't work if the person is frantically trying to fill the void.

[rachel blond]

I agree. Many people embark on relationships while in the midst of a divorce...or the day after the divorce comes through they are out there frantically trying to find another partner. The relationships don't work if the person is frantically trying to fill the void.

 

The relationship (in my case) was not intended to fill the void I had...it was all just bad timing from an old friend who expressed his feelings for me...he contacted me, and even so for a long time after I tried to step back from him to avoid "THE REBOUND" but he didnt let it go and it just happened.

He also promised lots of things he had no right to promise if he was not in it for the long haul.

 

In any case I agree with your statement on a general level. It's just not what happened to me.

[drewciouS281]

While I agree with this, I would also say that the amount of time between your divorce and the relationship has a big impact on the success of that relationship. The more you can come to closure on the old and open yourself up to the new, the less likely you are to have a relationship that is any more difficult than any other.

 

Good advice here!

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I read through your other thread and I really don't think the divorce issue had anything to do with it. This guy was pushing too hard and when you didn't dance to his tune he threw a tantrum and bolted. I mean really..he wanted you to pick yourself up and move in with him when you weren't even officially divorced yet! What was his rush? If you love someone you have patience and recognize that the timing wasn't right for moving in together. You needed to tie up the loose ends first and he should have understood that. I really think you are better off without him...if he is that wishy washy and into game playing and control then you would have had a miserable time with him had you moved in with him. This really isn't a matter of the first relationship post-divorce, this is a matter of him being controlling and wanting things his way or the highway. Had he been the 3rd relationship post divorce you still would have had these issues with him. You dodged a bullet.