gromalamaz Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I just received a voicemail from my ex -- our deposit check it FINALLY in (read my other posts for background). It's been 4 months since we broke up, 2 since we've met in person. My stomach is in knots. I've been dreading this day because this is the last thing that ties us together -- once it's taken care of, there is no need to be in contact. I've not contacted him in 3 weeks (ignored a voicemail and two texts) but I just feel sick. I do not want to see him -- I feel like doing so will just reopen a healing wound. I think the best way to handle this is via mail. I just don't even feel like responding to his voicemail. Part of me is angry -- if I've waited this long, what's more time going to matter? (he extended the lease on the house we rented for an additional 6 weeks without my consent and with my name on the lease -- I've been out since the end of September - he just moved out mid-December) Any thoughts, advice and/or support are greatly appreciated... Link to comment
Supa_gurl Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Just get a P.O. box for him to send you your share of the deposit and finally wash your hands of him. After reciept of that check there is no longer any need whatsoever for you to correspond. Link to comment
gromalamaz Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Thanks, Supa. Since we both have to sign the check (it's in both of our names) I am definitely going to handle the transaction via mail -- it would hurt too much to see him in person.... Sometimes I wish that the movie "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" was a reality -- just wipe that person, and all memories associated with, from my memory. "Sigh" It would be a heck of a lot easier and with a lot less pain... Link to comment
gromalamaz Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 He's now called me three times in a 2 1/2 hour period -- once on my work phone. I am at work! He rarely called me at work when we were together. I guess it's now a pressing matter since he just got the check in hand. I don't understand why this can't wait until after my working hours? WTH?! I am really angry! In the second message he left he said that he hoped that everything was okay with me because he hadn't heard from me in a while. Why the heck would there be something wrong with me? Because I decided I was done trying to stay in contact with him? Because I stopped calling and texting him when I finally had a wake-up call and realized that it wasn't being initiated by him? Now, after he's contacted me a few times over the past few weeks and it wasn't reciprocated, he's going to assume that something is wrong with ME? The messages he left a couple of weeks ago didn't necessitate a reply, so I didn't reply. I just need some time to step away from this until I am ready to deal with this.... I'm not trying to play a game, I am just finally ready to do things on MY terms, when it is good and right for ME not HIM. Am I wrong in doing this? Link to comment
Supa_gurl Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Not wrong at all. I would text him in order to avoid speaking to him (sorry just got back to you). Men can be so persistent when they want something. Ugh...Anywho...hope it works for you. (((hugs))) Link to comment
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