smiley1979 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 What qualities do you look for in a woman? What are your deal breakers? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 isn't there a religious rule on ENA? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 isn't there a religious rule on ENA? It's just if you are debating religion. I think this should be fine if everyone obeys the rules. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 why would it be any different than any other guy? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 why would it be any different than any other guy? I agree. It is sort of generalizing. The only difference I really see is that someone who puts a lot of time, effort, and belief into their religion probably seek partners who are at the same level/ mindset as them. This is pretty much true for anyone though... Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 why would it be any different than any other guy? It all depends on how much a man values his religion. I am a Christian man but I do not use that as a way to find values in a woman. In a woman I PREFER that she is Christian but I would not count her out if she has different beliefs. So as a Christian man, here is what I look for and I agree that it is not much different than any other man with other beliefs (as Ghost69 said) She has to be hot She has to be attractive She has to have a nice body She has to be sexy.... lol JK #1 I prefer that she is also Christian #2 She must take care of herself physically and financially (I find women that depend on men very unattractive) #3 Sense of humor #4 open minded/spontaneous #5 She must be over her "party, party, party! I LIVE to PARTY" phase #6 I prefer that she has a strong relationship with her family #7 Goal oriented These are just a few things but I would have to say that interests in women will vary GREATLY from one man to anoter. Even IF they are both Christian men. Link to comment
DropToZero Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I don't consider myself a Christian by title, but I would like a woman who's there for me, doesn't judge me, because she herself is also human and makes mistakes, and we work with one another and do our best to be understanding before getting angry... and I've got one! Side opinion, I don't think it matters by "religion"...it just matters who you are as a person and whether or not you would like to live and work out your lives together, many people are looking for the same things, they just have to be willing to give the same things in the relationship. Link to comment
alli Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I agree. It is sort of generalizing. The only difference I really see is that someone who puts a lot of time, effort, and belief into their religion probably seek partners who are at the same level/ mindset as them. This is pretty much true for anyone though... I would agree with this. A regular church-goer would probably not want to date someone who does not want to attend at all. Some people closely follow the words of the bible, others use it as a general guideline. A very pious person probably follows the bible to the word & wants to date people who do the same. Link to comment
grymoire Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 IMO lot of people actually like to date only people from their own religion. They may meet a great person but don't hesitate to rule them out because they do not belong to their religion. Link to comment
alli Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm not exactly schooled in different religions, but I think there are some that require you to marry within your religion only. I don't know which ones. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm not exactly schooled in different religions, but I think there are some that require you to marry within your religion only. I don't know which ones. The more conservative forms of my bf's religion require him to marry within the church. He is a Lutheran, btw. Link to comment
Clarity Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 The more conservative forms of my bf's religion require him to marry within the church. He is a Lutheran, btw. At the risk of generalizing, I think that's the way it is for most religions - the more conservative/orthodox you get, the more it is frowned upon to marry outside of the religion. Link to comment
big greg Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Strong christians usually have upstanding and eccentric morals and values compared to to non-religious people, and look for those same values/morals in a partner... like not having sex before marriage, no drinking or partying, not being a part of anything that could be considered sinful, etc. I know this because I went to a private catholic school from kindergarten all the way up to my first year in high school. Most everyone is still a virgin, nobody smokes or drinks at all, and everyone has manners. Not every "christian" fits this kind of social genre, but I know from experience that the majority of hardcore christians are like this. Link to comment
timetogrow Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 What qualities do you look for in a woman? What are your deal breakers? from my experience, NEVER date christian men if you are not a christian. Link to comment
cyberdog Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 A very pious person probably follows the bible to the word & wants to date people who do the same. I don't know anybody that devout, depending on how you choose to read the bible, even the new testament states that the old testament laws are still to be in effect, that heaven and earth will pass away before even a single dot of the law. To thereforee be fully devout one must not eat certain foods, work certain tasks on the sabbath, etc. Jewish people are more likely to follow that than Christians, since many Christians, but not all, tend to believe that the new testament replaces the old testament laws/etc. I'm not exactly schooled in different religions, but I think there are some that require you to marry within your religion only. I don't know which ones. Christianity doesn't necessarily require it, but there are statements about being equally yoked. Some sects avoid as much contact/socializing with non-Christians as possible, others go so far as to declare it wrong to learn/read up on any other religion or to question your religion. Some are much worst. For instance I've heard of a few horror stories about JWs when one spouse decides to leave the church and then the other divorces and take the children and even the children don't want anything to do with the excommunicated parent. For any such religions being with a person of a different religion would probably be bad. However the bible also says something like if you marry a non-believer you should not leave him/her. Strong christians usually have upstanding and eccentric morals and values compared to to non-religious people, and look for those same values/morals in a partner... like not having sex before marriage, no drinking or partying, not being a part of anything that could be considered sinful, etc. What is and is not moral varies between person to person, so to say that a religious person has higher morals than a non-religious person is only a relative statement. That being said, some of the 'strongest' Christians may also be the most judgmental of others. When I came out to my family about being an agnostic-atheist it was those 'strong' Christians that practically deserted me and wanted nothing to do with me anymore (except when they are in a bind financially and I'm willing to help) and make any holiday get together a nightmare always trying to start problems for me. The less religious and non-religious family are still as kind as before. Link to comment
grymoire Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I always find it strange how some people are true to religion and culture but not to love. Link to comment
cyberdog Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Seriously. It not only pissed me off that they did that but also hurt because I actually love those family members and before that we got along great. Sometimes I wonder if I was biologically related instead if they would still treat me like they do. Link to comment
timetogrow Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I would agree with this. A regular church-goer would probably not want to date someone who does not want to attend at all. Some people closely follow the words of the bible, others use it as a general guideline. A very pious person probably follows the bible to the word & wants to date people who do the same. My ex gf is just like this. In my case, i think i can label my ex to be "fanatic" who follows closely what the bible tells her and embraces every word that bible says as holy and TOTALLY real. She firmly believes that we human beings and all the other creatures are created by god and accuses me of believing in evolution theory, suggesting that i should believe what she believes. I recently broke up with my gf mainly because of this. She was very religious. She tried to convert me but i didn't buy it. We had been on a long distance relationship for a year and everytime we talked on MSN her topic was always focusing on god, gushing over how god loved her and how she communicated with her god and what god told her to do. She told me god was her No1 and second her family and loved one and then friends. She said god loved her more than her father. and god was always her first priority. Link to comment
timetogrow Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I always find it strange how some people are true to religion and culture but not to love. very well said!! Link to comment
thunderball Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 The only deal-breaker is smoking. She can not be a smoker in any shape or form. Unlike many men, I'm open to all colours...Black, Asian, etc. Well, maybe not Irish. Link to comment
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