Never using pet names?

[jengh]

The thing about pet names like honey, dear, babe and baby is that they are just not unique. You could be the 4, 5, or 12th babe or baby that the person has had. It is less likely that the guy dated several people named Diane or Jane or whatever.

 

Actually, believe it or not, that's something I've given a lot of thought and it bugs me...the uniqueness factor (or lack thereof, rather).

[agatha]

If this is truly the case then i would say it is the TYPE of men you are attracting vs the fact that most men who do this are doing it to not call someone the wrong name. That would never even occur to me with my current and past SO's. They called me those names as terms of endearment, not because they were afraid they would call me the wrong name. I use a lot of pet names too, and also not so i will not call the wrong name but because it is just my perosnality.

 

_most of_ is not all. besides, I'm friends with many men who are open to me on how they deal with girls. doesn't mean I have to date a bunch of jerks to know how they act like.

[JadedStar]

_most of_ is not all. besides, I'm friends with many men who are open to me on how they deal with girls. doesn't mean I have to date a bunch of jerks to know how they act like.

 

I certainly would not venture to say most people who use pet names are doing it becuase they are cheating and afraid to call their So the wrong name. I would say this is a rather low number.

 

Most couples i know use some sort of pet name and i am pretty positive it isn't to keep from calling out the wrong name. You, as i stated, must be around the wrong type of men if you find this is a trend in your circle.

 

I understand the pet name thing seems silly or trite to some, and that is fine, but i can't say making the leap of the ones that do are afraid to slip up and call the wrong name is a very valid statement. Most cheaters are pretty darn savvy and rarely make the mistake of calling out the wrong name. Deceit is the name of their game and they do well covering it up.

[HighRoad]

Well, the relationships I have been in I have never called my partner even by his first name and he does not call me by first name.

 

I have had a few serious relationships and a deep connection with each of them and so for some reason it felt more 'sacred' to not call each other by our names or even by pet names. Sometimes, when we are out in public or whatever and I have had to get his attention then I would say "John" and then say what I had to say. I guess, it is a privacy thing where once we were really close then we stopped using our names. I have always liked that. But I am not a dating person, instead wait for a good relationship to come along. Sometimes I wait a long time, but then it's usually worth the wait.

[JadedStar]

Well, the relationships I have been in I have never called my partner even by his first name and he does not call me by first name.

 

I have had a few serious relationships and a deep connection with each of them and so for some reason it felt more 'sacred' to not call each other by our names or even by pet names. Sometimes, when we are out in public or whatever and I have had to get his attention then I would say "John" and then say what I had to say. I guess, it is a privacy thing where once we were really close then we stopped using our names. I have always liked that. But I am not a dating person, instead wait for a good relationship to come along. Sometimes I wait a long time, but then it's usually worth the wait.

 

To be honest i'm the same way. When we address each other by our first name there is usually something wrong. LOL

 

It just doesnt even sound right when he calls me by my first name and he says the same when i do it. Usually we only do that to get each other's attention or are upset about something.

[ProtestTheHero]

I don't like them very much. "Babe" and "Baby" sound so cliche coming out of my mouth. Sometimes I play with their first name and come up with something but most of the time I don't worry about it. I am not really into terms of endearment because they are too forced and thereforee feel less genuine and more like a filler than anything else. Girls that I have dated have called me Ty and variations of that and that was good enough for me.