amberche Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I had a friend confide in me that he is turned on when his GF watches him urinate. I have no idea how this topic came up, and I acted as if it was not shocking and slightly changed the subject. But I am wondering what is the psychology of this? Why is it a turn on? What is he getting out of this? What is SHE getting out of this? He said some BS about being closer to the person because she is partaking in something that is usually done alone, so it is a higher form of sharing. Can anyone else enlighten me on this subject? Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Sorry, I find this weird. He might be an exhibitionist? Link to comment
amberche Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 I find it weird as well. But to tell you the truth he is not the first guy that told me that. I just thought it would be nice to understand, rather than saying saying... you're weird to them. (which is usually what I do say) Link to comment
Pressfit Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Sounds like he's making some stuff up to see what your reaction is going to be. Prdominantly a male tactic to see if we can freak you girls out. Usually it works! Link to comment
amberche Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 He is not making it up. I know him pretty well. He was in his sharing mood. Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I have a limited background in abnormal pyschology, but here goes: First, there are a lot of websites dedicated to pictures and videos of that kind of stuff. (I mean there is internet garbage for everything). He could have gotten sort of curious and developed an interest in it thay way. I cannot remember what the DSM calls this type of sexual interest, but it would be considered a sexual deviation. Really the concern is over why he would tell you this. Do you guys talk about sex a lot, is that comfortable? The context of the comment is important. Otherwise, he's just a guy with a fetish. Many people have them; they can be kinda weird. The DSM has tons of really strange classifications for sexual deviation. lol Farts, poop, voyeurism, food, blood... ya. It gets kind of gross. As long as the gf is ok with it, they aren't doing anything wrong. Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I mean freaks do install cameras in bathrooms/fitting rooms and whatnot. (Not saying he does) It just provides that "naughty" rush like he's catching her doing something he shouldn't see her do, even though she knows about it. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 He said some BS about being closer to the person because she is partaking in something that is usually done alone, so it is a higher form of sharing. He's probably not bsing you there. I know that tying someone up really gets a sense of attachment out of me that's insane. It's a fetish, and a pretty harmless one as it goes. However, it's a fetish and if you don't get it, you don't get it. Link to comment
alli Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Maybe it is a turn on because he is in a vulnerable position. That is the sort of thing you might be embarrassed if someone walked in on. Link to comment
blue-eyedspacemonkey Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 So he's in to water sports/golden showers? Not the first, won't be the last. He should discuss this with his gf and see what she says. The bathroom is where you're at your most vulnerable/open/alone...you're doing something which is seen as private...(I don't share this turn on, so am just running with what he said, probably talking rubbish)...or it could be something else. Explaining your own turn ons is hard enough without trying to explain someone else's Why he told you? Maybe he just needed to get it off his chest, and didn't want to freak his gf out/ruin the relationship if she reacted badly? Maybe he wanted to share, he's being feeling ashamed of it and thought you'd be the best person to open up to? Maybe he wanted to freak you out? Who knows? It isn't completely out there in terms of fetishes and is legal, nowt to worry about in my opinion Link to comment
Lecturer Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Wait wait.. I think people are making a bigger deal out of this than it really is. He just likes the idea of his GF watching while he pees? Now, my wife and I see each other do it.. it's no big deal and neither gets a sexual thrill.. but even my wife spoke of how she likes that we can, as an indication of intimacy. Did he say its a precursor to sex? Like a form of foreplay? Link to comment
amberche Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Hi. It is foreplay for him. It is a turn on for him ( from what he told me) We are good friends and I am not "the judging type" so I think he did want to, in a way, "get it off his chest". I just didn't understand. Being the "good friend" I listened and gave him support but still. I was a little curious about it. But i think what you said was right, it is legal, it isn't hurting anyone, so what ever works for him is ok. Maybe I am not meant to understand everything. Link to comment
Pressfit Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yeah, I guess if it's all mutual then.... But inquiring minds want to know so I checked all this fetish stuff out like the poo and pee thing. I appears to be quite an Industry. A lot of sites dedicated to supplying/selling apparel, apparatus, toys for people into that. Once again times must have really changed. I'd never think of telling a buddy, (let alone a woman friend) I was into that. Is nothing private anymore? I feel like such a stinkin' Dinosaur these days. LOL Ever thought it turns him on telling you about it? Kind of like Voyeurism? Link to comment
amberche Posted January 8, 2009 Author Share Posted January 8, 2009 Pressfit. I think you're right with your last statement. Link to comment
Pressfit Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Pressfit. I think you're right with your last statement. No surprise here. Oh my what sneaky little devils we are huh. Now that you found you were an unknowing participant, what next? Link to comment
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