I Don't Know How To Break It To My Sensitive BF That I Need More Foreplay.

[ashley001]

My boyfriend and I are both 19 and our colleges are 5 hours apart, we usually only see each other one weekend a month, and of course, longer breaks from school. We got to spend winter vacation together and whenever we started making out on his bed or mine, he would just jump right into fondling my breasts and taking off my bra and getting our clothes off for sex. We were together 2 years before we even started college--the furthest we went is high school was touching each other with clothes on. I cna understand that he doesn't get much sex and he's wanting it, his hormones are raging and all, but I get sooo turned off by the lack of foreplay. I would MUCH RATHER prefer to make out for a while and then slowlyyyyy take off each others clothes, like I would much rather it be elongated, rather then...making out for 1 min....let's have sex! Thing is, he's a sensitive guy, if i tell him I want him to slow down...he's going to think that he's going further than i want to, which is not the case. Then he'll be SUPER CAUTIOUS and ask to be intimate and all. So maybe you understand this post? I just need advice on how to let him know that I want more foreplay and that I just don't want to jump into sex because it takes time for me! Haha.

[greywolf]

Just tell him exactly what you posted.

[Sparkly Eyes]

maybe do it playfully during sex, like when he wants to take off your panties, dont let him and be like not yet, I wanna tease you more and make him do what you want to do, like put his hands on the place you want them to be etc. shouldn't be that hard...

[WaterIsLife]

I think its all in the way you say it. Instead of saying something like, "....I wish that you would......" which might sound critical to him, say "....you know what I REALLY like!......" or "....you know what, I really like when you..... Make it about your arousal and what drives you nuts, and say it to him this way.

[blue69]

Follow Grey's advice. Simply tell him. Just make sure you do it before you start fooling around. Let him know how much you like being with him and that you would like to try and extend that time more.

 

Good luck.