DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 If anyone has diabetes out there maybe they can help me calm down a little. My gf has type 1 and she only just tonight ran out of the insulin she needs to take before she eats. She's mentioned to her parents much earlier that she needed it, they even just went shopping on Friday night. Now she doesn't have any and I'm freaking out about it because I don't know what this will do to her until she can get more. Which may be a day even. Is this safe? What do I do? I know this isn't a medical forum, but it's the first place I thought to ask. Cheers. Link to comment
littlestar Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Missing any sort of medication is not a good idea. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 This topic came up the other day (about a diabetic cat actually) and one of my friends who is a pharmacist stated that a day without insulin will not cause harm....that most diabetic people report feeling better during that day when off the insulin. So based on what that person said, if it is only one day I don't think you should worry too much. How old is your gf? Link to comment
abitbroken Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I think that your girlfriend needs to be more responsible about keeping track of when her meds are out. She needs to mark it on a calendar or to remember to refill before she needs them (even the week before is good). If she is old enough to have a boyfriend, she is old enough to keep track of such. It is her health that she is going to have to manage for the rest of her life, and won't be able to rely on others to keep herself healthy. Even if she "told" them, she should take some responsibility. Calling a friend to drive her to the pharmacy, going their herself, or remembering to get it while she is out doing something else instead of expecting the parents to drop everything. Or if she knows they are going out to shop, she should ask to go with them, so she can personally make sure she gets what she needs. Not having your meds is not a good thing, but she needs to take care of herself. Link to comment
DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 it's more complicated than I am williing to get into. To merely say my gf is not taking good enough care of herself is a lack of knowledge in her situation and it's a simple matter of if she could she would have. The point is that this actually is the current responsibility of her parents and she has mentioned it to them a good week ago. It had been more than that, but I'm giving her parents the benefit of the doubt. The point is is that she gave them advanced knowledge, they know of her condition, they know they're the ones that get it for her and they just went shopping the other day. This is just irresponsible of them and I'm not happy. Link to comment
TheSmilingTurnip Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 How old is she? A day without insulin won't hurt. My sister's a type 1 and she's been off her insulin for a while now because she wanted to lose some weight (which I do not in any way recommend) and she's doing ok that I can see. Don't freak out yet. I would save that for if they don't get it for her for three days or longer. Link to comment
DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Let's hope she'll be ok, I just wished I could go to a pharmacist myself and get it for her. This sort of thing really freaks me out. She's told me she's been hypo and gone into a coma when she was younger and stuff so when she tells me her parents didn't get it for her I got really mad. I can only pray she'll be fine and her parents better pray too otherwise if she gets hurt they're going to hear from me about it. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Why is it her parents situation to handle when she gets her meds and not? If they can't be depended on , she needs to start handling it herself. I was handling my own meds at 15, calling them in, picking them up and everything. She can do it. As others have said 1 day without insulin isn't going to be the end all and if she does have any problems with it she can go to the ER and explain to them and they will be able to assist her. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Let's hope she'll be ok, I just wished I could go to a pharmacist myself and get it for her. This sort of thing really freaks me out. She's told me she's been hypo and gone into a coma when she was younger and stuff so when she tells me her parents didn't get it for her I got really mad. I can only pray she'll be fine and her parents better pray too otherwise if she gets hurt they're going to hear from me about it. If it's at the pharmacy why can't you or someone else go pick it up for her if she can't get there to get it? She isn't going to go into a diabetic coma just missing one day of insulin. Link to comment
DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Well it IS her parents responsibility. The reason I say this is valid and with good reason why. I would gladly do this for her only this just happened tonight and she lives out in the country side with them. I will see if I can take care of this for her in the morning, but the long and short of it is that this shouldn't BE MY responsibility to come along and offer help because her parents stuffed up and I don't want to see her get hurt. I'm sure my gf will be fine, it's still a point of stating that this wouldn't have been an issue if her parents did a better job at being responsible here. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Maybe her parents just made an honest mistake. They are parents, they forget things too. I have forgotten to pick up my sons meds before because I got so rushed and forgot they were at the pharmacy, I felt bad afterwards but nothing I could do rather than get it the next day. Link to comment
DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Ok so you go the next day right? Well they went shopping Friday. If they realized they forgot then it would have been proper to go the next day and still didn't. What I will be asking her in the morning though is whether she asked her parents if they forgot about it on Friday when they went shopping. I know that's one thing she could have done that wasn't just up to her parents, but I know it probably didn't occur to her that her parents were going to forget such a thing. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Aside from this incident, are her parents good parents? Link to comment
DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm not sure what constitutes as being a good parent to be honest. I do know they do good for the most part, but yes they're not perfect. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Ok so you go the next day right? Well they went shopping Friday. If they realized they forgot then it would have been proper to go the next day and still didn't. What I will be asking her in the morning though is whether she asked her parents if they forgot about it on Friday when they went shopping. I know that's one thing she could have done that wasn't just up to her parents, but I know it probably didn't occur to her that her parents were going to forget such a thing. I understand what you are saying however she is at the age now that she can start helping her parents remember these things. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm not sure what constitutes as being a good parent to be honest. I do know they do good for the most part, but yes they're not perfect. No-one is perfect, especially as parents. Is she fed? Taken care of in general? How many times have they lacked medical treatment for her? or just not gotten her meds on purpose? Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm not sure what constitutes as being a good parent to be honest. I do know they do good for the most part, but yes they're not perfect. Well- I just wanted to ask because you are very angry with them right now. I wanted to see how it all fit into the big picture. Link to comment
DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 The truth is BellaDonna I'm not sure yet what that picture is myself. All I know is that I care for her deeply and I'll never be ok whenever I hear she gets hurt. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 The truth is BellaDonna I'm not sure yet what that picture is myself. All I know is that I care for her deeply and I'll never be ok whenever I hear she gets hurt. But you can't sit here and be pissed off at her parents when in reality you don't know the whole story. You don't know why they didn't get her meds , what came up or what happened. Link to comment
DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 all she said to me about what her parents said is that she expects others to just do things. That's what her mom said. The way I see it though, forgetful or not, informing or not, her parents are the ones in the position to be doing this for her. By which it IS of THEIR responsibility. My gf CAN pester them over something as important as this and she knows that. I'm not comfortable saying why she didn't, but I know the whole story and I think that despite what my gf could have done to remind them I still believe that it's also up to them to be on top of it too. Especially because she can't help herself in this situation. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 all she said to me about what her parents said is that she expects others to just do things. That's what her mom said. The way I see it though, forgetful or not, informing or not, her parents are the ones in the position to be doing this for her. By which it IS of THEIR responsibility. My gf CAN pester them over something as important as this and she knows that. I'm not comfortable saying why she didn't, but I know the whole story and I think that despite what my gf could have done to remind them I still believe that it's also up to them to be on top of it too. Especially because she can't help herself in this situation. But at the same token, she is more than old enough to keep up with her meds.. She isn't a baby any more. If she is old enough to be having a relationship , she is old enough to handle her meds. Link to comment
DaveCummings Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 That is true, how much did you pay for your meds? Link to comment
thejigsup Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 My bf is diabetic and he is completely responsible for getting his meds. If she's not a young teenager, she can get them, provided she has the prescription in her hand and ID. A day without insulin will have no affect on her, in fact, as mentioned before, she will feel much better and very energetic. I wouldn't go longer than a week or two without it, though. My bf onetime went a month without his meds because he was just plain tired of being diabetic. No harm done at that time. Still, she should have her meds within a week or so of running out. Link to comment
Notreadyet87 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm not sure what is stopping her from getting the medication? I'm not saying that her parents don't have responsibility in terms of her health, because if she is under 18 they DO. But what I'm saying is that unless she can't walk or unless she has some disability that PREVENTS her from picking up her own medication then I'm at a loss as to why she just didn't get it herself. Anytime someone FORGETS to do something for *me* that I need very badly, then I usually do it MYSELF. Whether that person has responsibility or has promised to do it, really has no bearing as I NEED to also have some responsibility for my health. If your gf is over the age of 18 then I think your being absolutely ridiculous. She can pick it up herself if she REALLY needs it. You haven't disclosed what her age is, even though people continue to ask you. And you haven't really disclosed why a CAPABLE human being cannot pick up the medication. Not to be rude or offensive but I just feel as if your blaming the parents without placing any responsibility on your gf herself. I also think that your being a bit irrational with your anger. She can get the medication tomorrow. And if it's such a concern then you can pick it up. This BLAMING the parents and pinning it as their RESPONSIBILITY is rather irrelevant because it's her HEALTH and at this point since they haven't been reliable it's her turn to take care of it herself. Again not trying to be mean. But I just don't see why you are overreacting. Link to comment
jazzykat Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 She's 16, and he's 25.. I just read the last thread he posted. Link to comment
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