Help me with a silly girl!

[angryanimator]

I'm totally expecting the whole "you won't know til you ask!" response here, but I thought I'd ask anyway.

 

I'm asking out a girl tomorrow, here's what suggests she's attracted to me:

 

She's flirty and touchy-feely with me (subtly) and not with anyone else... When we've been out as a group of friends, she speaks to everyone EXCEPT me unless I'm sitting right next to her... Also when we've been out, I often disappear for up to half an hour and people believe that I've gone home, and on a few occasions when I get back this girl is GONE...

 

So it can't hurt to ask her out right? But then today I got a message from her about tomorrow night that concluded with this:

 

"You best be coming my friend. OR ELSE..."

 

I've highlighted the bit that's important, perhaps you had already noticed.

 

Is this a HUGE INDICATION from her that I shouldn't ask her out? Or maybe I should just ignore it? I don't know!!

[alli]

No, I wouldn't take that as a sign she is saying "don't ask me out because we are just friends". The way it is used is just semantics; a saying almost. Go for it tomorrow & let us know how it turns out!

[DN]

I would disregard the 'my friend'. I think she wants you to be there - and probably because she wants you to ask her out.

[angryanimator]

Wow, shows what I know. I was expecting "THIS MEANS SHE IS YOUR FRIEND AND NOTHING MORE".

 

Anymore opinions? I'd really like as many as I can get before I make a move tonight.

[D_Lish]

Being flirty and touchy feely behaviour, usually indicates an interest....as does a shyness in talking to the object of your affections.

 

I'm thinking she could be playing it safe, in referring you to as a 'friend'. She isn't giving anything away perhaps and until she is sure of your level of interest in her.

 

So I'd say 'go for it' and good luck

[Phaser]

I think it because of the context the friend part is in.

Like its say you were comforting her and she said

"you're a great friend"

[ghost69]

sounds like sarcasm to me.

[Nutz]

Being flirty and touchy feely behaviour, usually indicates an interest....as does a shyness in talking to the object of your affections.

 

I'm thinking she could be playing it safe, in referring you to as a 'friend'. She isn't giving anything away perhaps and until she is sure of your level of interest in her.

 

So I'd say 'go for it' and good luck

 

 

Or she sees you as "safe" and does it because you are *just* friends. I've known plenty of girls that have guy friends they do that do and it really confuses them. They finally make a move and then the girls get weirded out and give them the "lets just be friends" speech.

 

If you show interest with a woman you are friends with, you have to accept the risk that by doing so you two may not be friends any longer.

[drewciouS281]

No, I wouldn't take that as a sign she is saying "don't ask me out because we are just friends". The way it is used is just semantics; a saying almost. Go for it tomorrow & let us know how it turns out!

 

i agree, i tell people that all the time. Ive had girls tell me that and i end up sleeping with them. Its just a saying.

[littlej]

That IMO is a green light! Go Go Go

[angryanimator]

So I just got back from the night out, and the girl didn't turn up!! However I did muchos flirting with a couple of other girls there that I liked and had a good time. Whoop!

[Phaser]

LOL thats fairly ironic in the end.

[angryanimator]

What a turnaround...

 

The girl I was interested in sent me a message saying she was so sorry she couldn't turn up, but jokingly saying the night would've been better had she been there.

 

Meanwhile, one of the other girls I was flirting with had a birthday yesterday and invited me out for it tomorrow. She made a point of really only inviting me from our work, saying I only had to stay for one drink if I wanted to... so I slipped a phone number and we'll see what happens tomorrow.

 

And to think, just over three months ago I was still engaged...