littlej Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 So I took the final step I deleted her on FB. It was weird, not that i'm upset but like I said goodbye. I have not spoken to her in months and the last email I got I ignored. I dunno kinda down I guess. Link to comment
Singlestill Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Hard step. It is understandable to be a little down. Hang in there because tomorrow will be better still Link to comment
littlej Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 Tryin, this girl really crushed me. Link to comment
dstein Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 You're brave and stronger than I am. I've been 17 days NC now and only about 5 weeks since he left and I am still looking at his FB. We have a ton of friends and family in common, which doesn't help. There is still a picture of us as his profile picture which makes me nuts every time I look at it, and still says "in a relationship". It's is going to be VERY painful when I see him change that. How long did it take you, to take the pictures of you guys down and ultimately end the FB friendship? Link to comment
dstein Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Tryin, this girl really crushed me. And I am so sorry. There's a difference between having your heartbroken and having it put through the meatgrinder! I empathize. Don't know your story, but I can definitely feel your pain. Link to comment
littlej Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 It took me a long time. I stopped logging into FB because it hurt too much. I felt like I was under house arrest I couldn't go somewhere on the net because of her? To be honest I didn't delete it personally I gave my friend my password and just told her "you know what has to be done." And she did it, if she hadn't I would have had a hard time pressing the button. Link to comment
littlej Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 And I am so sorry. There's a difference between having your heartbroken and having it put through the meatgrinder! I empathize. Don't know your story, but I can definitely feel your pain. Short story: She left me for not one but two ex's. Link to comment
dstein Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 It took me a long time. I stopped logging into FB because it hurt too much. I felt like I was under house arrest I couldn't go somewhere on the net because of her? To be honest I didn't delete it personally I gave my friend my password and just told her "you know what has to be done." And she did it, if she hadn't I would have had a hard time pressing the button. Wow. I just want to give you a huge hug. ((((((HUG)))))) Your post really struck a nerve. It made me cry. Link to comment
dstein Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Short story: She left me for not one but two ex's. Wow again. How long were you together? Was that 2 different breakups? Link to comment
littlej Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 It was a struggle but I am better for it even though it does not feel like it now. I mainly just read on here but i only post when I am hurting. Today is one of those days I guess. Link to comment
littlej Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 dstein - It was not long a few very intense months. She left me for her ex that she sooo loved. This was the guy before me. She then dumps him 3 weeks later for the ex before him. This guy, the most recent guy she is dating was married when they 'met' but she was frustrated that he was taken. So he got a divorce and she is with him still I guess. I really don't know because I requested all information to stop. I would imagine not too happy if she is trying to contact me. I just continue to ignore. Link to comment
dstein Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 dstein - It was not long a few very intense months. She left me for her ex that she sooo loved. This was the guy before me. She then dumps him 3 weeks later for the ex before him. This guy, the most recent guy she is dating was married when they 'met' but she was frustrated that he was taken. So he got a divorce and she is with him still I guess. I really don't know because I requested all information to stop. I would imagine not too happy if she is trying to contact me. I just continue to ignore. littlej, I hate to say this, but she sounds like a woman that doesn't know what she wants, and I believe that you ultimately would have gotten hurt again even if you had gotten back together. I know this sounds cheesy, but the love of your life is out there and she can't wait to finally meet you. Just breathe. This too shall pass. Link to comment
littlej Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 littlej, I hate to say this, but she sounds like a woman that doesn't know what she wants, and I believe that you ultimately would have gotten hurt again even if you had gotten back together. I know this sounds cheesy, but the love of your life is out there and she can't wait to finally meet you. Just breathe. This too shall pass. Oh yes i know this with all my head! My heart does not seem to listen. It just keeps beating on. She wasn't even truthful, someone took me aside and filled me in on all the missing pieces. I can tell you this, for a long time I thought it was me. I thought I was the one that screwed and up that drove her to leave me. It took a while to learn that it was her. Link to comment
Singlestill Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 dstein - It was not long a few very intense months. She left me for her ex that she sooo loved. This was the guy before me. She then dumps him 3 weeks later for the ex before him. This guy, the most recent guy she is dating was married when they 'met' but she was frustrated that he was taken. So he got a divorce and she is with him still I guess. I really don't know because I requested all information to stop. I would imagine not too happy if she is trying to contact me. I just continue to ignore. You are doing the right thing. If you look at the pattern she is literally regressing in her relationships. Meanwhile you are free to find someone better when the pain is gone. In the meantime know we are here for you! Link to comment
littlej Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 You are doing the right thing. If you look at the pattern she is literally regressing in her relationships. Meanwhile you are free to find someone better when the pain is gone. In the meantime know we are here for you! Thank you. This site has been a god send. It really helped me when I was a mess months ago. This was the worst breakup I experienced to date. I used the time wisely to work on myself and it feels good. Link to comment
gee Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 So I took the final step I deleted her on FB. It was weird, not that i'm upset but like I said goodbye. I have not spoken to her in months and the last email I got I ignored. I dunno kinda down I guess. Block her, as well! Link to comment
littlej Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Block her, as well! Yep, I found that feature and Blocked. Link to comment
dstein Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Yep, I found that feature and Blocked. You're a bad a**! I'm so impressed. Link to comment
littlej Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 You're a bad a**! I'm so impressed. Eh, it took me a while to get here. Honestly one of the best tactics: To remind myself constantly of all of the bad things she did, and to know my mate would never think of doing that stuff to me. Link to comment
Hannah13 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 oh goodness i feel your pain! I cant even log on without seeing stuff about my ex and the girl he left me for. i think i drew the last straw today when i saw they were talking about ME! There both glad he got rid of me, as she so nicely put it. im thinking about deleting. im sure ill want to friend back though, so i dont wanna look like an as$ just yet, just in case. Link to comment
littlej Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Hannah - I was in the same exact boat. I thought i would look weak deleting her. I also thought well just in case. The reality is they do not care they just go about their business while we tremble everytime we use the site. I saw her ex's profile too, fb suggested we be friends! Not. Anyway delete I say and never look back. Link to comment
gee Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I was in the same exact boat. I thought i would look weak deleting her. Nah, you are are showing them you are strong and can survive without them. Proves to them that you are moving on and can live life! Who cares what they think anyways. Good luck to you. Link to comment
jcoven02 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 So I took the final step I deleted her on FB. It was weird, not that i'm upset but like I said goodbye. I have not spoken to her in months and the last email I got I ignored. I dunno kinda down I guess. Well, she was a stone in your shoe and now you're rid of her. Good job, this is the first of many steps toward recovery. Link to comment
Gennifer Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I just read your thread littlej, I'm so sorry that really has to hurt. You're stronger than some of us here. As much as I don't really want to talk to my ex I still want to leave that little communication open.. very weak of me but I still want to be friends with him one day. You're strong, you're going to get through it. Had to laugh at FB's friend suggestion. Link to comment
leneychick Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 this post definitely hit home. i have a thread up about my own situation, but my ex told me yesterday that not only was our relationship over, but he was kicking me out of our home and moving in his friend instead. last night i logged into facebook (that devil network!!) and hit that horrible little blue link "cancel relationship." it was so hard. it sounds petty, but it was really, really hard. it was like announcing to everybody and their dog that we were finally over. i just didn't want him to do it first. maybe i did it for the wrong reasons, but he's had the final say on everything so far, and i wanted to make one step in the right direction. things are so hard. why are the second days always so hard? Link to comment
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