Goodbyes on first dates

[LonelyJokko]

Just wondering about this one: do you usually take the way you left your date to be a reliable sign of how well the date went and how likely the two of you are to date again? Of course if it ends with a passionate kiss that's a pretty good sign but what if you just say a few words? what if you shake hands? what if you hug?

 

Any thoughts?

[alli]

Well, you know how you felt about the date. Sometimes the other person feels similarly, or maybe they thought the date wasn't that great & just hid it well. The best indicator is if a second date happens. How the date ends is more dependent on that particular person- if they are comfortable kissing or hugging or shaking hands- more so than how the date went.

[Brightest Dark]

I just wrote asking about ending a first date in another thread. I'm shy so don't initiate anything. Even if I did nothing it wouldn't indicate anything bad. I might WANT a kiss but as a shy female be too nervous to make a move. Should the guy make the move? What if he's shy too? If you're in a car and you're driving do you expect the other person to lean over? Is it expected for the guy to lean over?

[bmwm3]

I usally end the first date... with a goodnight sexs... jk

 

when i am out on a first date.. and it goes well, chemistry is flowing... i usally start being playfull. and at the end of the night i will lean in for a playfull, respectable kiss...

[Slyght]

I usually don't read too much into how the first date ended as much as how the date went as a whole. I've seen bad first dates end with hugs as well as good first dates. Like somebody else said, you know it went well if you call them and they want to go on a second date.

[D_Lish]

I agree with Slyght, I wouldn't read too much into a first date.

 

I've read stories from people where they thought the date had gone brilliantly, there was chemistry......yet the guy/girl never got back in touch again.

 

Then I've heard of dates where people thought they had gone badly....and the girl/guy called for a second date.

 

Go figure....

[confused25]

I think it really depends on the people. I've gone on great dates where I just give them a hug at the end of the date or a kiss on the cheek, but never a kiss on the lips though. All those dates ended up lasting for a good couple of months. Some girls just don't feel comfortable giving the guy kisses at the end of their first date so I wouldn't get discouraged if that doesn't happen.

[LonelyJokko]

Thanks a lot everyone for the insights,

I am supposed to have a second date with this girl when I go home in 2 days (date not scheduled yet), and depending on the chemistry, I'll probably try to end it up with a kiss.

I was hoping a hug would mean something special but thinking about it now I do realize it is to trivial and too early to really mean something.

Thanks again for the replies!

[ghost69]

i take it all into consideration. how the date went, how enthusiastic the ending was, etc. one date can make or break if i want to continue.