Why can't I get over her!!!

[pharmer]

So me and my ex have been broken up for a good 7 months now and I would have been complete NC for over a month if I didnt talk to her on xmas eve.

 

On xmas eve she texted me a merry christmas. We ended up talking that night on the phone. I just wanted to say goodbye on the phone before I went into NC again because last time it was just through text and I just wanted it to be more personal. Well she refused to say goodbye to me but I no this is what I have to do so I texted her and said please do not contact me unless you are serious about us.

 

So here is the problem, I miss her yet I know it could never work like this. I would be so worried that we would break up again that it could never work at this moment. Although I think that I would be better if were together again I dont think it would be thats why I need to just let go completely but for some reason I cant.

 

I honestly think that if we ever got back together again it would have to be a brand new thing in the sense I couldnt have any preexisting feelings which I still do and they just wont leave!!! Its already been so long.

[ryan2000]

I feel for you mate.

 

It's been roughly 7 months for me too with about 3-4 weeks total NC.

 

I miss her still and find it difficult to accept and move on. Mainly cause i don't want to. I want US again..............it appears as though she doesn't, but it still doesn't stop me from wishing and praying.

 

The hardest part of my life is going to bed. I dream about her everynight...........it's so very painful and is really starting to piss me off.

[pharmer]

I know what you mean, I am just tired of feeling like this, I want her to contact me yet I know it will only prolong the pain, at first I prayed to have her back now all I want is the strength to accept its over and be happy again.

[Miranona]

 

So here is the problem, I miss her yet I know it could never work like this. I would be so worried that we would break up again that it could never work at this moment. Although I think that I would be better if were together again I dont think it would be thats why I need to just let go completely but for some reason I cant.

 

I honestly think that if we ever got back together again it would have to be a brand new thing in the sense I couldnt have any preexisting feelings which I still do and they just wont leave!!! Its already been so long.

 

All I can say is, you never know until you try.

 

My ex and I have been broken up for 5 months, and i know that should we have a second go, it would be better, because i feel like ive learned from my mistakes. so if you feel that you know where u went wrong, and that you genuinely want to try again, you never know she might be waiting for you to iniate