tin_tin Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Will try and keep it brief. Was with my ex 3 years In Sept, she moved 26 miles away, into a flat with 2 of her uni pals to complete her graduation yr. Things were getting to much for her, with massive workload, her job, paying rent, trying to find time to see me. Even though we would see eachother twice a week, and talk everyday.....i would go to see her, help her out and support her like any decent bloke would. Been her rock, when she was upset and down with uni, money problams and her falling out with her flatmate. I thought things were great. She told me how much she loved me, and how ive made her the person she is, and she wants a future with me. In November, a couple days after staying at mine and making plans. all be it on msn.....she basically ends it. Bit annyoed she did it that way. So i went NC for a few days.......she rings me up crying her eyes out. saying that she thought about the past, the things we have done and the things she wants to do with me. And she hated life without me. My facebook status said "missing a certain someone" she was like.......is there someone else already?? * * * We arranged to meet up for coffee. Said shes probably making the biggest mistake of her life. I ended up gutted, very low indeed. I text her that night and left it at that. Over the next few days, she text me mainly late at night.....even tho i was hurting, i kept my responces brief, and didnt mention 'us' She then sent me this "Do u want me out of your life forever, cos with u ignoring me and not talking to me makes me feel you dont want me back at all, ever" A bit mythed i said, "you know what i want" and left it at that. More calls and texts followed from her. In December, she really wanted me to go and see her, it was midnight. So i go, we hug tightly, share a kiss or 2. She holds my hand, asks me to get into bed and stay, where we hug more. (Nothing happened) her friend told her she didnt want any "funny business" I asked why she wanted to see me......she just needed me there, and that she has got me a christmas present. A few more texts and couple calls followed. She was telling me about her uni work, and how her back was still in pain. we exchanged presents xmas day. Her present was very thoughtful, a picture that i saw 2 years ago, and she remembered. Text me later, and thanked me for the present, and hoped i was ok. But late on boxing day she msgs and says "not in the mood to talk, had some bad news, look i dont see us getting back together to be honest" i asked her what her bad news was, but no responce. Link to comment
Adge Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 I think you've dealt with it pretty well, but I also think she was trying to reach out and see whether you really love her. Unless I am missing something, I don't see where you have said that to her. Only her to you. Maybe just send a text to her about this event 'thingy' and then at the end say 'miss you, love xxxx' Keep it short. I don't see what you have to lose and it's not exactly smothering. Just showing how you feel. That's what I would do anyway, others may disagree, so see what they say before you go ahead. Don't want an angry tin_tin on my tail!! LOL Link to comment
tin_tin Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 I think you've dealt with it pretty well, but I also think she was trying to reach out and see whether you really love her. Unless I am missing something, I don't see where you have said that to her. Only her to you. Maybe just send a text to her about this event 'thingy' and then at the end say 'miss you, love xxxx' Keep it short. I don't see what you have to lose and it's not exactly smothering. Just showing how you feel. That's what I would do anyway, others may disagree so see what they say before you go ahead. Don't want an angry tin_tin on my tail!! LOL Thanks for your reply...... Well since late November i have told her how i feel. When she reached out. I told her i love her to, and she knows how i feel. I gave her a nice card for chistmas for someone special. But ive not begged at all, nor have i acted in a needy way. Link to comment
Adge Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 It's now January. New Year. New bit of loving can't hurt can it? Maybe just a kiss at the end of it? Surprise her and see how she reacts. Maybe she won't, but as I see it, you've got nothing to lose. Link to comment
tin_tin Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 Yeah i guess. I probably will reply. This event i went to was shown on sky sports (darts), and i know i was on the tv for a split second cos i was sat near the front Link to comment
Adge Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 She has initiated contact. I'm not hearing anything from my ex at the moment. i would jump at the chance to reply to anything she said. In a non-clingy, needy way of course! Live darts. Awesome. Big bellies and lots of beer! Maybe throw in a joke? 'I was the one who spilt my pint on camera 3' -Or something to that effect! A couple of kisses at the end are harmless and show you care. Make her think for a bit!! Link to comment
tin_tin Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 Any news!? Ill probably send her a message tomorrow at some point. I know i was on the tv for a second or 2, cos people i know were watching and saw me on the screen. Just had a bit of a rollercoaster before christmas. Just wanna do the right thing. Link to comment
Adge Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Know exactly how you feel. I'm there! Link to comment
tin_tin Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 well i text her today, and she said that she was watching it on the tv, (she dosnt like watching darts) and she said she thought of me....... Link to comment
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