The laws of unattraction

[lauren51791]

heres the deal: I've been kind of dating this guy for the past week, we have all the same friends, we all hang out its perfect, we both really like eachother and hes awesome. The problem: I'm not physically attracted to him. He's not ugly either, and it's like i don't even lwant to kiss him when I do, not because I don't like him but because I'm not attracted to him. However I love holding hands, cuddling, etc but once we go to kiss I just don't like it. This to me sends a big signal like just friends, but I'm attracted to his personality and I want to date him and I want to be attracted to him, but I'm just not. I want there to be a spark but there just isn't, how can I make it happen? thanks.

[DN]

I think it's better to let him go and find some who is attracted to him. Some people might say 'fake it until it's real' but if it doesn't work and he has fallen for you he will be the one getting hurt.

[Portage]

If you can't kiss him now you'll never have enough chemistry to do it down the road.

 

Chemistry isn't a learnt skill.

 

Sorry.

[definitely_maybe]

dating for a week, age 17.

 

I think you should let him down before you hurt him too bad. I suppose his looks might grow on you, but it will be easier to end it sooner rather than later. If you try to stay together, but your feelings don't change, the lack of attraction is sure to be a bigger issue at some point.

[Maya_A]

I agree with DN...

 

Just plain curious here -- what do you find that draws you to liking holding hands & cuddling? If I am not attracted to someone "that way" I don't want to hold their hand or be physically close with them at all, so just wondering...

 

I'd also get mixed signals & think a guy was "into me" that way if he held my hand & cuddled with me....

[sadme]

Been there done that. If you cannot kiss the guy now and do not care for it things are not going to change later. Cut the loss and move on. The chemistry God is telling you there is no attraction. What are you going to do? Suck it up? No!!!!!!!

[servedcold]

A single week is too soon to give up if everything else is great, there are jitters involved, etc. He may not have much experience kissing yet, and the awkwardness and nervousness could be a factor. See how you feel in a month, then make a decision. It's unlikely you are going to do any permanent damage to him.

[ghost69]

i've done this before. i wasn't as into the girl physically as i thought. ultimately in the end it didn't work out because of that.