heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Ok us women when we have an argument with our guy or break up we cry, scream, and watch sappy love stories, we think all day and night about our love, we don't sleep all night just thinking about them and looking at their pic, we even pick up the phone 50 times to make sure it's working in case he calls. Now please tell me are you guys the same? What are some of the things you guys do? Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 Yup, can you tell i have alot of time on my hands? Yup had an argument with my guy and im dying to call him but WON"T!!! Link to comment
Pressfit Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 A bit different for me. I usually turn my phone off. I don't want any disturbances while I'm sulking and feeling sorry for myself. Then that lasts for about five minutes 'til I'm over that and turn the phone back on. Pics always get laid down flat and moved around, then up, then down. I have probably the most mobile furniture and decorations on this planet. LOL After all that, then it's listening to music and getting back to doing things like projects, and other hobbies. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Well, I don't know about the sappy love stories but from the posts I have read on this forum from the men they seem to react no differently from the women...some crying, miserable, getting drunk, thinking about the other person day and night. Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 Well, I don't know about the sappy love stories but from the posts I have read on this forum from the men they seem to react no differently from the women...some crying, miserable, getting drunk, thinking about the other person day and night. So yeah it's good to know that they act the way we do..lol...WE ARE NOT ALONE LADIES!!!!!!!! YAY!!!!!!!! LOL Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 I don't even react the way you describe for other women. I wonder if I'm more like the guys?? I avoid lovey dovey stuff - no sappy movies, no nothing like that. I listen to a lot of music, most of it geared to breakups or anger or moving on (Pink, Daughtry most recently), and music from when I was a child and had happy memories tied to those songs (70s songs). I read books or watch action based tv. I don't touch alcohol to avoid any chance of doing something stupid and trying to call the guy or spilling my guts. I stop eating pretty much - no appetite. That's for a breakup. For a fight, hard rock music! Loud. Lots of driving around, lots of working out, longer hours at work, and I tend to eat dark chocolate and want to go out with friends. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 I don't even react the way you describe for other women. I wonder if I'm more like the guys?? I avoid lovey dovey stuff - no sappy movies, no nothing like that. I listen to a lot of music, most of it geared to breakups or anger or moving on (Pink, Daughtry most recently), and music from when I was a child and had happy memories tied to those songs (70s songs). I read books or watch action based tv. I don't touch alcohol to avoid any chance of doing something stupid and trying to call the guy or spilling my guts. I stop eating pretty much - no appetite. That's for a breakup. For a fight, hard rock music! Loud. Lots of driving around, lots of working out, longer hours at work, and I tend to eat dark chocolate and want to go out with friends. Yeah, I stay away from the sappy movies as well. Yes, the 70's songs...I guess you don't listen to the "happy songs" like "Last Kiss, The Night Chicago Died" and Seasons in the Sun" LOL. I can think of a few 70's songs that would be great for getting over a breakup..."I don't like spiders and snakes", "Le Freak", and "Gypsies, Tramps and Thieves". (Can you tell I am thinking about my old K-tel records!). Link to comment
CaptainPlanet Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Ok us women when we have an argument with our guy or break up we cry, scream, and watch sappy love stories, we think all day and night about our love, we don't sleep all night just thinking about them and looking at their pic, we even pick up the phone 50 times to make sure it's working in case he calls. Now please tell me are you guys the same? What are some of the things you guys do? We usually spend years lamenting our loss. The woman will get over it in a couple of days after having an episode. For men the feeling never really goes away. We can't processes those feelings. We become cold so that we do not let women hurt us again. Or at least I hear that is how it is supposed to work. Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 Yeah, I stay away from the sappy movies as well. Yes, the 70's songs...I guess you don't listen to the "happy songs" like "Last Kiss, The Night Chicago Died" and Seasons in the Sun" LOL. I can think of a few 70's songs that would be great for getting over a breakup..."I don't like spiders and snakes", "Le Freak", and "Gypsies, Tramps and Thieves". (Can you tell I am thinking about my old K-tel records!). yeah i will listen to old songs also...80's and love songs...one bad thing about me is that i will take sleeping pills just not to think....i hate arguing..damn i really do...left him a vm and he still has not called..aaaaaaaggggghhhh Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 yeah i will listen to old songs also...80's and love songs...one bad thing about me is that i will take sleeping pills just not to think....i hate arguing..damn i really do...left him a vm and he still has not called..aaaaaaaggggghhhh He probably needs to calm down. I am sure he will contact you when he has calmed down. 80's songs are the best! Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 He probably needs to calm down. I am sure he will contact you when he has calmed down. 80's songs are the best! yeah im sure he will call also..but still I get sad..I wanted to start doing some laundry and shower and all in case he calls and wants me to go over but then i think..what if he doesn't call ill be disappointed...damn, damn, damn I hate guys sometimes...they are so complicated Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 yeah im sure he will call also..but still I get sad..I wanted to start doing some laundry and shower and all in case he calls and wants me to go over but then i think..what if he doesn't call ill be disappointed...damn, damn, damn I hate guys sometimes...they are so complicated Don't put your life on hold waiting for him to call. Do whatever you need to do today and perhaps make some plans of your own that don't involve him. You are getting too stressed about this relationship and what you need to do is get YOU back...remember who you were before you met him...all the great things you did in your life when it didn't revolve around him. Let him see the self-assured, independent you. Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Yeah, I stay away from the sappy movies as well. Yes, the 70's songs...I guess you don't listen to the "happy songs" like "Last Kiss, The Night Chicago Died" and Seasons in the Sun" LOL. I can think of a few 70's songs that would be great for getting over a breakup..."I don't like spiders and snakes", "Le Freak", and "Gypsies, Tramps and Thieves". (Can you tell I am thinking about my old K-tel records!). LOL No actually, some of them are happy songs. I think because I have those songs linked to carefree days in my mind (well, relatively carefree), the song's lyrics don't matter. It's the need to put myself in a relaxed mindset that leads me to them Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 yeah im sure he will call also..but still I get sad..I wanted to start doing some laundry and shower and all in case he calls and wants me to go over but then i think..what if he doesn't call ill be disappointed...damn, damn, damn I hate guys sometimes...they are so complicated Some guy out there is saying the same thing about women right now, I guarandamntee you Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Don't put your life on hold waiting for him to call. Do whatever you need to do today and perhaps make some plans of your own that don't involve him. You are getting too stressed about this relationship and what you need to do is get YOU back...remember who you were before you met him...all the great things you did in your life when it didn't revolve around him. Let him see the self-assured, independent you. CAD is right. You'll feel better about yourself and it will annoy the heck out of him. All good Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 CAD is right. You'll feel better about yourself and it will annoy the heck out of him. All good Yes I have to agree with both of you..but the thing is that I have not been in this town for long and I don't know anybody...so yeah its hard.....I know guys say the same about us females..im sure of it... Link to comment
Pressfit Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Oh he will call. He may need time to sort through his emotions and knows he will never be free from your embrace. Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 How about getting out and getting to know more about the town? Meaning check out the little hidden shops and used bookstores or whatever? Go to areas of town (safe ones) that you've never been before? That might be a good way to get your mind off things for a little while. I used to live in FL and there's always something new within a short drive. Trust me, it will freak him out more to call and you NOT be home. Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 Oh he will call. He may need time to sort through his emotions and knows he will never be free from your embrace. yeah thanks Pressfit..im just so impatient when it comes to this..that is why i don't like arguing at all....so we will see...Im glad you guys are here and I can vent because if not it would be harder. Thank you all..you are great peeps Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 How about getting out and getting to know more about the town? Meaning check out the little hidden shops and used bookstores or whatever? Go to areas of town (safe ones) that you've never been before? That might be a good way to get your mind off things for a little while. I used to live in FL and there's always something new within a short drive. Trust me, it will freak him out more to call and you NOT be home. well i have a cell phone so he will call there if anything...But I do know him so i do know that before he even calls he will show up here..I was going to park my car elsewhere in case he does come by and not see my car...But then I think and say "what the hell I wanna see him, why play this dumb game" you understand? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 well i have a cell phone so he will call there if anything...But I do know him so i do know that before he even calls he will show up here..I was going to park my car elsewhere in case he does come by and not see my car...But then I think and say "what the hell I wanna see him, why play this dumb game" you understand? No, don't play games...if you are home you are home..don't hide the car...but you can always go for a drive on your own somewhere. I find driving always clears my head. Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 No, don't play games...if you are home you are home..don't hide the car...but you can always go for a drive on your own somewhere. I find driving always clears my head. yes thank you i will do that...hopefully will help Link to comment
yeawutever Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Ok us women when we have an argument with our guy or break up we cry, scream, and watch sappy love stories, we think all day and night about our love, we don't sleep all night just thinking about them and looking at their pic, we even pick up the phone 50 times to make sure it's working in case he calls. Crying a bit in silence maybe I can agree on that but I would not show it nor make it obvious, esp. not to my parents that dislike him greatly (I had to fake it and pretend to be happy of him calling on long distance when we had a break up for 1 month, him dumping me, wouldn't do me anything if I told my parents, yikes!!!!!). I would try to focus less on him and think about other stuff but I don't agree with sappy love stories, I rather prefer scary horror movies or wrestling DVD, it gets to leave that sad moment aside for a while. But yes it does suck arguments or break-ups, no matter how strong you think you are, you will either break down emotionally, dislaying all emotions or just shut down and not show any, but either way it's still a way of being depressed. Link to comment
stingray Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 I usually tell her I am sorry for making her upset and that we should just take some time too cool off before we discuss it again. I feel like by not talking you are making things worse! You should at least try to make it so you can solve the situation promptly. If shes upset with me it does make me feel bad but I don't start crying or anything. I haven't cried since I was a youngling! Link to comment
heaven66 Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 I usually tell her I am sorry for making her upset and that we should just take some time too cool off before we discuss it again. I feel like by not talking you are making things worse! You should at least try to make it so you can solve the situation promptly. If shes upset with me it does make me feel bad but I don't start crying or anything. I haven't cried since I was a youngling! aaaaaaaaawwwwwwww Slashed where have you been all my life??????? LOL Link to comment
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