People lately seem to be so angry

[dreamwarrior]

Just want to start off by saying I wish everyone on here the very best and hope your new year is going well so far.

 

I started coming here nearly 9 months ago and just found this site by accident and felt it would be a great place to come and talk to people who understand the pain and frustration I am dealing with and for the most part everyone has been very sweet. But, lately I have noticed people on here get very angry over the opinions of other posters...they want to call names, insult, and argue.

 

Come on people let's try to help each other...I do understand so very well some of us are in pain, need answers to questions, and help of some type...but let's not be rude and crucify others opinions...hey it's cool with me if you disagree, but heck at least be civil about it.

 

Some people on here seem to be projecting their anger out on others instead we all should try to understand more of what the other person is saying or the help they are trying to give.

 

I really love this site and wish nobody any harm, but I don't want to be called names and insulted.

 

If you think about it we don't know each other and trying our best to help out on some very limited information. So why even get angry or argue with others when we don't even know the whole story since none of us are there to experience it first hand.

 

Also, I understand that not everyone has the skill to be sympathic to another's fragile state, but at least be polite.

 

Everyone who comes on here had some comment, question, or issue and this is a place/forum for some understanding and help not to be insulted and belittled.

 

Remember some of us are on here because we are in pain and I know perhaps it's to easy to take it out on a stranger who you may never meet...I am sure it's not done intentionally.

 

I am here only to give my opinion and not to argue with others...that is not my intention, because I am older, seen alot of life, and have some experience to share in hopes that I can help...I never insinuate I am better nor smarter...I just hope that whatever my opinions are will be respected as I do yours.

 

Anyone on here is welcome to talk with me at any time I extend my complete help to you and a caring, honest, understanding person. I have no reason not to wish you the best or to judge you...I have an open mind and willing without reservation to give anyone on here my help.

 

In closing, would like to say thank you for reading my post and always remember that even though you think at the present time you have it bad there are many people in the world who have it much worse.

 

Take care and happiness to all ~dream~

[chocolates]

I think generally people are getting angrier, in the world.

 

The other day i was on a gorgeous island, in a fish and chip shop, and this woman abused the shop assistant for not serving her immediately.

 

She wanted to buy an icecream

 

I thought "go home you rude cow"

[dur-LiveIt]

Have you been insulted? Just curious.

[bulletproof]

I don't think anyone here is any angrier. I'm pretty sure I know the threads you're referring to, and to be honest, I think maybe you feel attacked sometimes when that's not really what's happening. You also have the choice to not respond if you feel something is getting heated, or use the ignore feature. We're all guilty of getting sucked into something in order to prove a point, but if it's happening on a regular basis then maybe it's time to take a break from ENA.

[laisla]

good post

but i think that the people who will really pay attention to your post, are not the ones who frequently insult others, call them names, etc.

[dreamwarrior]

I don't think anyone here is any angrier. I'm pretty sure I know the threads you're referring to, and to be honest, I think maybe you feel attacked sometimes when that's not really what's happening. You also have the choice to not respond if you feel something is getting heated, or use the ignore feature. We're all guilty of getting sucked into something in order to prove a point, but if it's happening on a regular basis then maybe it's time to take a break from ENA.

 

Hi Bullet,

 

Just started last few days in a couple threads, but I am sure it will blow over. I am pretty thick skinned, but we all should remind each other from time to time some of us on here are in great pain and others are past it and trying to give them some help...perhaps people need to use a bit of tact and perhaps really understand what it is the other person is trying to relate without jumping to conclusions.

 

I really enjoy reading these posts when I have time and love seeing what other people have to say.

 

Far as taking a break..I never allow people to run me off or bully me...I always stand my ground in life, but since I will be looking to buy my own home and return to college I won't have alot of time to be online often unless I am doing my banking or some business.

 

All in all this is a great site and I really love helping out if I can.

 

All the best to you.........~dream~

[dreamwarrior]

good post

but i think that the people who will really pay attention to your post, are not the ones who frequently insult others, call them names, etc.

 

Hi there la'isla....best wishes to you.

 

lol...it's actually funny in a sense how others can get so stirred up over another persons problem, but in reality if you think of it...how do we really know what is truly going on if we are not physically there to witness it. We can only give our opinions on another posters words and not even know the real truth or whole story. For instance, who knows what my ex is saying about me....you know the old saying, about there are two sides to every story.

 

Referring to the thread regarding the girl who was upset over her bf and the ring, wedding, and proposal. Honestly, I don't recall saying anything about her only caring about the size or expense of the ring and such. Perhaps my view wasn't made clear enough.

 

I just think if she wants a nice wedding then she should have it....it's okay to have a dream...why should she be denied that memory....also, I am only going by the way she is expressing her displeasure how he presented the ring....if you think about things would you like the man that says he loves you to toss the ring at you in the middle of the night or hand it to you? It's just about respect nothing more. All the arguing over someones elses life is wasted energy...I mean really what is it going to accomplish?

 

Thank you for your comment...have a great day/night

[Gracelove]

I think your thread is really articulate. You come accross as being very open and sensible.

 

It's true, people can be really insensitive at times, but that's life.

 

And I agree with one other person, I think people are just angrier these days.

I work in retail, so I see it all of the time.

There are just a lot of unhappy, angry people out there.

 

But I think your thread is a nice reminder to be courteous (sp?)

[laisla]

yes i do agree...sometimes i read a fiery thread where people are bickering back and forth and i just LAUGH at how funny it all seems...haha...

[purpleduckie]

yea, some people's attitude could be better... but meh. it's ena, not heaven lol. people will always be people.

 

 

 

i have noticed that sometimes people reaction to some posts are really uncalled for. the thing that annoys me the most is belittling of other people's opinion. it's like ugh, get over yourself...

[bulletproof]

 

Referring to the thread regarding the girl who was upset over her bf and the ring, wedding, and proposal. Honestly, I don't recall saying anything about her only caring about the size or expense of the ring and such. Perhaps my view wasn't made clear enough.

 

I think what people took issue with about your posts in that thread was A) the generalization of women liking romance (generalizations are unfair- people are individuals), and B) that by the second post you had used the phrase "what makes you an expert?" I find that to be a little bit hostile.

 

To some degree, we reap what we sow. I think that yes, sometimes people get carried away on threads, but you seem to be contributing to it as well.

[dreamwarrior]

I think what people took issue with about your posts in that thread was A) the generalization of women liking romance (generalizations are unfair- people are individuals), and B) that by the second post you had used the phrase "what makes you an expert?" I find that to be a little bit hostile.

 

To some degree, we reap what we sow. I think that yes, sometimes people get carried away on threads, but you seem to be contributing to it as well.

 

Your right...so I just unsubscribed to that thread and moved on to something else...nothing is going to be accomplished by arguing with anyone...the poster is still going to do what they please in the end. Fighting over someone else life is ridiculous...I mean really what is actually going to come of it. I need to focus my time and energy on myself and future not having a debate or argument about some else's life.

 

I hate to see people in pain...but sometimes after work I enjoy coming on here to see how others are doing, when I actually should be studying.

 

Perhaps the holidays were a bit tense for some of us especially those who broke up or were dumped over the holidays....guess people get a bit testy....that's understandable.

 

You know one of my co-workers was in a terrible car crash several months before the holidays, in which it killed her sister immediately and today I seen her for the first time since the accident...god she is lucky to be alive...poor thing...her eye still needs surgery because she cannot see out of it...and her skull on one side was smashed in and has a huge scar on her forehead....so my petty breakup is nothing to this poor woman's disfigurement for life.

 

Thank you for your reply