Ariel85 Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Referencing the guy I was supposed to have a date with last FRI... Well, ended up speaking a lot since then. Another marathon phone call the beginning of the week, and more texting. He did say again he still really wanted us to meet. So, I asked him if that was going to happen, and he said, "I hope so!" and then still didn't make plans. He did eventually say he was busy with the holidays, which is a BS excuse, since he had no problem setting up a date with me for two days past Christmas last week... So, once again, I feel played by this guy. This is the THIRD time in about a year we had chatted (first time was online, and he just stopped emailing. Second time, he asked me to meet him and his friends out one night, which I refused to do, but he still had my phone number and never called, and now this third - in which we had that first date set up, it didn't happen, and then he kept posing interest, and then just poofed again). I sent him a text or two since this, and he is just flat out ignoring me. Our last communication was on NYE and it wasn't entirely pleasant on both parts, since I had accused him of being a player and just enjoying the attention from me, but never being sincere about meeting. I know I am a total * * * * * * * for falling into this trap again with this guy, but can someone tell me what guys get out of this? Is it just a self-serving ego stroke to see how many women will chase them, and how far they will go with it? He's like that guy that complains all women are nuts, yet he does all the things that MAKE us nuts. lol Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 trap? where did he trap you? how is he a player by breaking off plans? sounds flaky if anything. sucks, but you are kind of stringing yourself along with this guy. you have false hope in some guy you barely know. and you refused to meet up with him and his friend? you could have taken a female friend with you and met up with them. i dunno, i think differently. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 trap? where did he trap you? how is he a player by breaking off plans? sounds flaky if anything. sucks, but you are kind of stringing yourself along with this guy. you have false hope in some guy you barely know. and you refused to meet up with him and his friend? you could have taken a female friend with you and met up with them. i dunno, i think differently. Trap in that it's been three separate times that he gets all into me, gets really excited about meeting, and then totally poofs each time. He wanted me to meet him and his friend at a biker bar. Not really what I have in mind for a first date/meeting. lol I don't know if it was false hope, but Im a pretty literal person. If someone says they really want to meet, I believe it, until shown otherwise from actions. Thats the disconnect I dont understand. Why SAY you want to meet, and then not do anything to make that happen and then make excuses about it, and then totally disappear entirely? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 so you have never met this guy in person? Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 so you have never met this guy in person? Nope! . Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Maybe he was busy, or just whatever about it. Doesn't seem like meeting you is a priority. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 Maybe he was busy, or just whatever about it. Doesn't seem like meeting you is a priority. Exactly. He always starts out really enthused, and then it never materializes. I have to just think he was really lukewarm about me, despite the multi-hour phone calls and texting. I may put him in my mental masturbator category. You know, the guys who like the fantasy of dating/relationships, but can't put the pedal to the metal? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Trap in that it's been three separate times that he gets all into me, gets really excited about meeting, and then totally poofs each time. He wanted me to meet him and his friend at a biker bar. Not really what I have in mind for a first date/meeting. lol I don't know if it was false hope, but Im a pretty literal person. If someone says they really want to meet, I believe it, until shown otherwise from actions. Thats the disconnect I dont understand. Why SAY you want to meet, and then not do anything to make that happen and then make excuses about it, and then totally disappear entirely? still not a trap if you ask me. but it seems like you put too much in to someone you barely know. Link to comment
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