Men, what would you do if this happened to you?

[smiley1979]

You've joined an online dating site and you send a lady (your age) an email asking her if she wants to chat. She replies. You send her a lengthy email about yourself and she replies by sending you a lengthy email about herself. You email each other a few times and get to know each other's names, interests and where you go to church. You don't know what the lady looks like but she has a unique name that no one else has. She knows what you look like. She starts going to your church but doesn't talk to you or sit with you because she doesn't really know you. She eventually starts hanging out with the same group you hang out with. She looks at you a lot. She occasionally makes comments about mundane things. At church, when she sees you, she looks away and ignores you. Whenever you're talking to someone else in a group setting, she's always listening.

 

Guys, what would you think and do if you were in a similar situation? How would you behave if you liked the girl and didn't want your friends to know? How would you behave if you didn't like the girl?

[Cognitive_Canine]

Hmmm. this question bothers me a lot. I wouldn't be interested in a guy that hid him liking me from his friends.

[Loki71]

Yeah I agree if he likes you then what does his friends have to do with it? And if she likes him why not say who she is? I have been on a few sites and I always ask for a pic if one is not there. Not so much to go by her looks but so I know who I am talking to. But to answer your question I would tell her if things are going to go any further then it is ether time to meet or at least exchange pictures.

[annie24]

smiley - is this the same guy from before??? sigh. i think you should just ask him out for coffee or something, and see what he says.

[smiley1979]

smiley - is this the same guy from before??? sigh. i think you should just ask him out for coffee or something, and see what he says.

annie24- yes it is the same guy as before but I can't ask him out for coffee because I am too shy plus I've never been on a date before. Also, I don't want to scare him away.

[annie24]

i don't think a coffee would 'scare' him away. i think it's better to just make a move, than by endlessly wondering about him. i've had it happen where i was too shy to make a move, and then the guy got bored and moved onto someone else.

[MattW]

Wait wait wait, maybe I didn't read the topic right, but... if he doesn't know what said girl looks like, how would he even know she's the one doing that in those situations? Or is that maybe the point? To get to know him online, then randomly "meet" him in person and pretend she's not the one he met online?