asked out to lunch

[redhamster]

So my ex-girlfriend and I are both on winter break from college and we've seen each other twice at pick-up soccer games (that she invited me to) over the past month. Between the summer and winter break, we had no contact. At the soccer games, we've been friendly and even flirtatious, but nothing beyond casual banter. Anyway, the last time we played she said we should go out to lunch, and I said that would be fine. Now today she texted me and asked to go tomorrow, and I agreed. The last two times we've been out to lunch post-breakup, in may and in august, we've gotten along so well and I've been left miserable afterwards. So my question is, what does her texting me and wanting to go to lunch say about her feelings, and how do I protect myself from getting sucked into wishful thinking again? thanks everyone!

[redhamster]

just to give an update, we had lunch today. During lunch itself we were very talkative and friendly. She kicked me under the table a few times when i was joking around. Then we left and walked around for abit, like an hour and a half. It was so much fun and i know she was enjoying herself too. Again she pushed me a couple times when i would tease her and what not. We talked about how neither of our parents knew we were out to lunch, and how neither would be pleased about it. Then was an awkward pause and she said "but i still want to be your friend." I just said yeah, and then a long awkward pause. Eventually we got back to our cars and hugged. She invited me to go to a movie with her and a few mutual friends tomorrow. I texted her about something earlier and we went back and forth for a while. I'm just so confused. I know she said she wants to be friends, but why then would she be acting the way she was. It seemed so obvious she was flirting with me, and i just wish i could talk to her about it, but i have in the past and got rejected. i care about her so much and i wish there was a way to get a straight resolution.

[midnightrambler]

sounds like you are getting sucked back in

[davejsy]

sounds like she is still into you, but is keeping her options well and truly open. If you can handle been friends, then just back off abit and look unavailable, this may provoke some sort of reaction. Otherwise if it's to painful to be friends (which is the norm for the dumpee), then just blank her(which may also provoke some reaction!), this will also give you a chance to start getting over her. All of this is easier said than done though!!!