and again Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 hi . had a really crappy xmas after having my ex mess around with my feelings, and starting no contact today, is there any one else out there starting nc around this time who wants to go through it with me? Link to comment
gr8tfriend Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 You are not alone. There are plenty of us here. Link to comment
crab62 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 You are not alone. There are plenty of us here. LOL... yeah a little too many of us](*,) Link to comment
and again Posted January 1, 2009 Author Share Posted January 1, 2009 nice to know not alone, got over longer relationships in past so know i`l get over this. its just that it went from perfect to zilch in 2 hr`s. Were planing every thing then bang not even a proper row, one word out of place , she cant take the slightest bit of critisium. And that was only out of careing because she was drinking half a bottle of vodka a night. so in long run might be best out of it. But was happy with her, but cant walk on egg shells Link to comment
blackgnat Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Yeah, I am. He doesn't know and probably doesn't even care. Link to comment
and again Posted January 1, 2009 Author Share Posted January 1, 2009 Done about 28hrs of nc now, and rather than the last time we finished, or a break as she called it later (she said when last back together that she knew we would always get bac togeter, in meantime i was hardly sleeping or eating). this time i know that we arnt going to get back together due to her harsh words, its strange and hard this time as i have no hope to hold on to that we will get back together, which maybe for the best as i might get over it quicker, without holding on to false hope etc. But i am finding it hard tonight. Link to comment
and again Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 48 hrs of nc, 1st day back in work , just ambeled through the day as the last day i was in work we were so together, felt numb all day. Got home and broke my heart. Hope it gets better over the next week Link to comment
and again Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 day 3 of nc, felt a bit better today, but still had some real painfull momments, feel a bit lost and dont like the thught of staring all over again. Still cant believe that she let it go so easy. Comeing on here help`s though, and at times finding people in the exact same situation. I.e talking futures 1 day then over the next with the other either not wanting to put things right or to stuborn. Will never understand how someone one day can say you are the best thing that has happened to them, then the next push u away after a non argument.That`s probley the hardest thing to understand. But perhaps that`s the one thing i will never understand. Link to comment
tin_tin Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Know how ur feeling mate. How long were u together? My ex broke it off end of November, i kinda went quiet for a few days, she thought i didn't care, or want her back at all. so we had been in contact since then. i had even stayed round her place once. She told me she had got me an Christmas present, so we exchanged them Christmas day. Boxing day, she says she doesn't see us getting back together. Been pretty much NC ever since, apart from me wishing her a happy birthday new years day, she replied thank you, how are you.....but i haven't responded. Link to comment
and again Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 Hi mate. i was only with her 6mnths but had known her on and off for 10 yrs, we always said if we were single at same time we would get together. When we did it was perfect, until mid nov when out of a blue had a letter through door to say she wanted to call it off because she had to strong feeling`s and could not get her head around it. We got back mid dec after also spending a night together mid break. Then one small almost row if you could call it that and its over again. Wish i`d never gone back. But must addmit all time we were back togeter i was scared stiff she would run again. But she never knew that. But after a bit i was really comfortoble being back as she was talking so far into the future. Link to comment
tin_tin Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Hi mate. i was only with her 6mnths but had known her on and off for 10 yrs, we always said if we were single at same time we would get together. When we did it was perfect, until mid nov when out of a blue had a letter through door to say she wanted to call it off because she had to strong feeling`s and could not get her head around it. We got back mid dec after also spending a night together mid break. Then one small almost row if you could call it that and its over again. Wish i`d never gone back. But must addmit all time we were back togeter i was scared stiff she would run again. But she never knew that. But after a bit i was really comfortoble being back as she was talking so far into the future. What was the small row about mate? if u dont mind me asking? Link to comment
Singlestill Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Thank you for the encouragement. I failed at NC and called today but got her voicemail. She is doing much better at it than I am. I am starting over again (we only ended it New Year's Eve) with NC and can use all the support I can get and will be happy to help you if I can. Link to comment
and again Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 Thank you for the encouragement. I failed at NC and called today but got her voicemail. She is doing much better at it than I am. I am starting over again (we only ended it New Year's Eve) with NC and can use all the support I can get and will be happy to help you if I can. Thanks , ive broken nc in the past and every time i have ive regreted it, because if they really want you back they will let you know Link to comment
and again Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 Day 4 of nc, went for few pints last night, was ok considering e would always be txtin whilst out. Slept well, spoke a lot of sense with someone off here which helped. Today been out and about thought quite a bit about her well non stop really to be honest. At the momment the longer nc go`s on the more real it feel`s, but also know it`s the only way forward for me. Cant wait till tuesday when it will be one week since we split, then i wont have to keep thinking this time last week this or this time last week that, well hope so anyway. I know it wont go that quick but at the momment when i look back to this time last week its like phew you couldnt believe it could change so much in a week. Link to comment
pace of ace Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Keep it up and again. nc is so damn tough, but you seem to be copeing well. I'm pretty awful at it. Dont give up. Link to comment
and again Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 Keep it up and again. nc is so damn tough, but you seem to be copeing well. I'm pretty awful at it. Dont give up. Thanks , not finding it to easy but suppose something ive got to go through, it does feel more real the longer it go`s on though. I left the door a jar with final txt i sent her but had a very snappy one back so nothing more i can do. How long have you been nc for? Link to comment
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