Is it normal.

[IhaveCtrl]

I was with the girl for a month and for some reason cant get over her. I know I will. I have been with girls before for longer and was easily over them. She dumped me out of the blue and said there was no one else when I asked. It just happen to be a couple days before she was going back to her home town for New Years, which she wanted me to go but I am working New Years eve. I think I am more mad than upset because I think she isn't being honest with the real reason she broke up. I want to know but I also don't want to contact her because it's over, time to move on. I think if I knew the truth I could let go, I don't know. Am I worrying about something that doesn't matter?

[waveseer]

I find it much harder to let go when I don't know or understand the reason for the split so I understand completely. Eventually though, I had to accept that it was over without benefit of understanding. It just wasn't anymore.

[littlestar]

I dont think the length of the relationship means anything it's how much emotion and passion was shared that makes it harder to get over someone.

[mr_iwi]

It was only recently that I noticed that length of relationship is related to how long it takes me to get over it once it has ended. For me, I've taken longest to get over people I've not been with for as long as others, and where it has ended rather abruptly. I think it's because I've been able to think about what might have been (when a relationship is young there is always the possibility that it can go anywhere), rather than feel things have run their course. No idea if any of this applies to you, but I felt a nice warm feeling inside when (after a couple of years of wondering) I figured this out for myself.

[ghost69]

i felt more love for a girl i dated for a few months than someone i dated for 4.5 years. not really sure if i'm still over the girl i dated for a few months....and i'm the one that broke up with her. terrible mistake. but i was young and naive.