Aviatormy Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hello ENA. So I am getting a new roommate tomorrow afternoon. She is a really cool chick but is on a "I hate all men" mode right now. We met not too long ago but she says that I am one of the "sweetest" men she has ever met. She really wants to get out of her parents house and said that she would love to room with me. She is 26 years old, has a 7 year old son (whom would not be moving in), she works at office maxx and only makes about $9/hour. She does modeling from time to time but she only makes like $40/hour each photo shoot, they last about 2 hours and she only does that like twice a month. My delema, I know that she really likes me but I am not interested in her in a relationship kinda way. I am affraid that she is going to fall for me and if she does, that can really mess up things as far as roommates go because I can tell that she is already getting jealous of the girls that I have over. I can really use the financial help and I know that this would be a good move as far as getting my life back together but I don't want to hurt her. What is the best way to tell her that I am happy that she is moving in yet I am going to be dating other people. (we have kissed once but that was the first night that we met). We have been strictly friends since then. All we have done is party a few times (which she would ask my close friends if I am seeing any of the girls that were at my house). We occasionally will watch movies together and "cuddle". I dont know if this is the best idea. hmmm. Link to comment
laisla Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 it doesn't sound like a good idea...that's why roommates are usually of the same sex or there's more than 2. if there's not enough attraction then it's possible to board with the opposite sex, and it would be fine....but clearly, this girl likes you. i think it could start some drama. why put yourself through this? Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Youd better get back on Craigslist bro. -1 the hint of jealousy -2 the kiss -3 "You are the sweetest." Yea Id make new plans quickly. She may try to "work" on you. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 Thats a good question. I just know that she can really use the help and so can I. I just don't know how to approach this issue. She knows that I am not ready for a relationship either. I think that the worst case scenario would be that she gets upset that I hook up with some girl, things get awkward for a few days and then everything will be fine. I don't see her getting too upset over this. Then again, I can be wrong. How would you ladies deal with this if you were in her situation? Link to comment
laisla Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 i really think you should look for someone else to be roommates with....you need the help, but there are plenty of other people, who will not be attracted to you, that you can have move in. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 Youd better get back on Craigslist bro. -1 the hint of jealousy -2 the kiss -3 "You are the sweetest." Yea Id make new plans quickly. She may try to "work" on you. Lol. I think that her wanting to move in can be an attempt to try to win me over while she tears down her wall that is blocking her emotionally from men. I think that she is very pretty but I can tell that she is really damaged and I don't think that I want to tackle someone like that right now. I have been really enjoying the single life and I see no reason to date ANYONE right now. On the other hand, I think that we can become really great friends and maybe somewhere down the line something more. Who knows! Ahhhh! If I decide not to have her move in, I would be kissing $400 a month away. Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Damn 4 bills is alot this time of year. Maybe if you set solid boundaries she will respect them. My cynical mind is painting a psycho picture of this girl. Let me give her more of a benefit. If she knows your kinda palying the field, I mean, she should/could understand. EDIT: And don't come home drunk. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 ok, the cuddeling is obviously a huge mistake. it sends out more then "we're just roommates, nothing more" signals. specially a bad idea since she has some sort of crush/attraction to u. move in with her for as long as you guys can get along. have girls over but just dont tell her about dates, etc. approach with caution till u get a feel of how things are going. maybe down the line she gets a bf after this phase she's in. it usually only lasts a few months. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 ok, the cuddeling is obviously a huge mistake. it sends out more then "we're just roommates, nothing more" signals. specially a bad idea since she has some sort of crush/attraction to u. move in with her for as long as you guys can get along. have girls over but just dont tell her about dates, etc. approach with caution till u get a feel of how things are going. maybe down the line she gets a bf after this phase she's in. it usually only lasts a few months. Good advice. I think I will go with that. I will tell her that the cuddling is not a good idea. Thanks everyone! I am off to save the world tonight (aka get drunk and regret it tomorrow!) lol Have a safe and FUN New Years!!!!!! Link to comment
Lady Bugg2 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Avi....I think you'd be better off rooming with a guy personally. Why invite the drama? It's the LAST thing you need right now. Anyway....good luck and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!! Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I'm curious..how has this first week gone? Link to comment
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