relm Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hello, I would like to kiss this girl next time we go out. I am certain she is ok with that but I dont have enough experience on doing it to not come off like a complete failure. So can you please tell me how to go about it - when to judge the moment, how long the first kiss should be, what to do with my hands??, please any details. What is not helpful is something like "just go for it" because I don't know how to go for it. This would be the third date type of kiss so nothing too xxx I don't think. Thanks. Link to comment
lady00 Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Well, I'm a woman and I have never gone in for the first kiss, but I have been on the receiving end and so a couple observations about what has worked for me. Often it'll be toward the end of the date. The guy and I will be sitting somewhere just chatting and then he'll get a bit quite and start touching my face with his hand. Maybe brush my hair aside and then he will move in for the kiss. Hope that helps. Link to comment
shygal2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 I am a girl to... Start with putting your arm around her, hold her hand...then kiss her hand and then look up, maybe touch her cheek..kiss her cheek even and then give her a gentle kiss on the lips Link to comment
HerDestiny Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hi relm! My boyfriend (of 2 years now) is/was a shy guy so I can tell you what he did. At the end of the night, he walked up to me and said "guess we should get this over with", put his hand on the back of my head and gently pushed my face close to his, kissed me on the lips, leaned back for a second or two and then gave me the most xxx rated kiss. (By xxx rated, I mean that he stuck his tongue right into my mouth before I even knew what was happening and swirled his tongue around mine for about...5 seconds.) I was caught off guard, totally shocked and had kissed men before, or rather BEEN kissed before (like in this case) and I have to say, I've known much more experienced, much less awkward men who were suave and passionate and all that good stuff. But, because I like my now boyfriend as much as I did, I got over the shock in a few seconds, thought it was the most awkward thing ever...but like him so I was happy. So what -- He wasn't the most passionate, experienced kisser I ever met?!? I liked him! My last thought right after that was "I like him so...we'll work on this" and I had a huge smile on my face! Link to comment
top bloke Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hahah!! Just talk to her gently..look her in the eye..look into her gaze..relax..dont think too much...the focus is not in the kiss but the sexy woman in front of you...can you feel her energy?Can you sense her warm feelings? Time to move closer ..time to feel the heat ..time to give in to those eyes..time to give in to that smile...shes beautiful..shes so sexy...put your right hand accross her cheek/jaw and move in for the kiss.Be gentle...shes a special little cutie...enjoy the moment..enjoy the connection..enjoy the emotion...you are truly connected.. I should start writing love stories darn it lol!! Link to comment
relm Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 Wow, HerDestiny, that's a shy guy?? Sounds like he had a lot of guts! So you didn't like the tongue down your throat? Also, why is his saying "guess we should get this over with" a good thing? Was it the way he said it? Link to comment
relm Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hahah!! Just talk to her gently..look her in the eye..look into her gaze..relax..dont think too much...the focus is not in the kiss but the sexy woman in front of you...can you feel her energy?Can you sense her warm feelings? Time to move closer ..time to feel the heat ..time to give in to those eyes..time to give in to that smile...shes beautiful..shes so sexy...put your right hand accross her cheek/jaw and move in for the kiss.Be gentle...shes a special little cutie...enjoy the moment..enjoy the connection..enjoy the emotion...you are truly connected.. I should start writing love stories darn it lol!! Well written Top Bloke! You should be like Cyrano De Bergerac and telling me what to say and do through an ear piece or something! Link to comment
top bloke Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Well written Top Bloke! You should be like Cyrano De Bergerac and telling me what to say and do through an ear piece or something! You dont need the ear piece...feel your way to the kiss and I guarantee it will be a good one..lol It will knock her socks off!! Link to comment
HerDestiny Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 relm -- did you ever stick your toes in a cold pool and just jump in and get it over with instead of taking your time? This is what my shy boyfriend did. He got the guts for a few seconds and went for it before he chickened out. I had no idea at all before this that he liked me! Because I liked him, I was totally flattered, no matter how awkward the situation was. More experienced guys will talk the whole thing up for a while with "I SO wanna kiss you" and stroking my face and things like that. Nothing out of the blue because they hide nothing. They're not too nervous to touch me and/or tell me what they want. What it was about his tongue down my throat was that it was forceful and unexpected. If I didn't like him, I would've slapped him upside his head and told him to BACK OFF. Him saying "guess we should get this over with" I like in hindsight. It shows how awkward he was but one of the things I like about him is how shy he is. I affectionately look back at that first kiss and think it was really cute, sweet and a moment I'll never forget. I couldn't help thinking right after that kiss "we need to work on this kissing thing a bit" but I didn't mind the thought of working with him to show him how kissing can be much less awkward and less out of the blue. I was just happy to finally find out this shy guy who didn't give me any indication before...liked me! Link to comment
HerDestiny Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 I like how Top Bloke is saying to just...LIVE in THAT MOMENT. Almost as if time has completely stopped and the world around you two has just melted away and you have forever... Link to comment
top bloke Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 I like how Top Bloke is saying to just...LIVE in THAT MOMENT. Almost as if time has completely stopped and the world around you two has just melted away and you have forever... Heheh..I do believe that the most inportant moment..is this moment..and for a first kiss advice..time will stand still..lol.. I had better log off and go for my run..I am getting drawn by your stories and posts.. I think I care about you guys....I hope the hairs on my chest dont drop off and I go to soft..hahaa cyas. Link to comment
relm Posted January 1, 2009 Author Share Posted January 1, 2009 The way I am imagining the kiss you describe is like Jim Carrey's kiss in Dumb and Dumber. If he had the guts for a few seconds, he probably went for the "way too much pressure" approach, right? That is how I usually approach the cold water in pool jump in process. That isn't the right way, right? And how long was that first kiss?? Wow, you sound like a perfect gf thinking this guys kissing is lame, but we'll practice it. Why did you have no idea he liked you if he would ask you out? If he's shy, that would mean he was CrAzY about you! Link to comment
relm Posted January 1, 2009 Author Share Posted January 1, 2009 When's your next date? Um, in 4 or 5 days (the weekend), why - because I need a ton of practice in too short a time lol? Link to comment
lady00 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Um, in 4 or 5 days (the weekend), why - because I need a ton of practice in too short a time lol? LOL. I was just curious. You will be fine! Link to comment
Brightest Dark Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 At the end of the night, he walked up to me and said "guess we should get this over with", I think a guy saying that would totally kill the moment if it was with me. I would either think he was an ass and wanted to get it over with or I'd think he thought he was cool when in actual fact it sounds really cheesy. Link to comment
relm Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 I think a guy saying that would totally kill the moment if it was with me. I would either think he was an ass and wanted to get it over with or I'd think he thought he was cool when in actual fact it sounds really cheesy. I don't think its the words that she meant - I think she means the shy charm was what she liked. Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 Have a couple shots or something that ought to lower your inhibitions. Link to comment
relm Posted January 3, 2009 Author Share Posted January 3, 2009 Have a couple shots or something that ought to lower your inhibitions. Ahhh...the always reliable shots...will try this and hope to aim for her mouth instead of her eye ball or something. Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted January 3, 2009 Share Posted January 3, 2009 ahhh...the always reliable shots...will try this and hope to aim for her mouth instead of her eye ball or something. lmaoooooo!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
relm Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Thanks for the tips everyone! I went in for the kiss yesterday and it was soo nice! Wow those lips felt good! It was only a tiny few seconds kiss but the touch lingered and I think she liked it because we had a good date Link to comment
sns256 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Thanks for the tips everyone! I went in for the kiss yesterday and it was soo nice! Wow those lips felt good! It was only a tiny few seconds kiss but the touch lingered and I think she liked it because we had a good date Great job relm! I hope to find out what that feeling is like soon. I am working on it. Good luck in the future with her. Link to comment
top bloke Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Thanks for the tips everyone! I went in for the kiss yesterday and it was soo nice! Wow those lips felt good! It was only a tiny few seconds kiss but the touch lingered and I think she liked it because we had a good date Haha! Good going junior... Link to comment
nkelly Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Hi Relm, any chance you could let us know how you went in for the kiss in the end? I'm currently faced with this exact problem myself! Link to comment
Stuffy Nose Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Good job relm! I know all too well how hard that can be. Link to comment
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