centrino345 Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Well, New Years Eve is tonight. It hurts soo much, because I won't be spending it with my ex. She had left me for another guy, and when the ball drops she will be kissing him instead of me. It hurts to know that, and know that there's nothing I can do about it. I know that I prolly won't even get a "Happy New Years" from her, because I didn't even get a Merry Xmas either. I've been doing so well too, this New Years Eve thing is sorta dragging me down. I know, it's all my emotion.. and I'm letting it get to me.... ](*,)](*,)](*,) Link to comment
crab62 Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 not hurting here. disappointed at times, but I'm done with the big hurt... 32 days NC helps with that Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 My question to you is what are you going to do about it? Are you going to sit around and mope about your ex on NYE or are you going to go out and find something fun to do? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 My question to you is what are you going to do about it? Are you going to sit around and mope about your ex on NYE or are you going to go out and find something fun to do? Seriously. You can choose to have a good time, or you can choose to stay home and cry your eyes out Link to comment
centrino345 Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 My question to you is what are you going to do about it? Are you going to sit around and mope about your ex on NYE or are you going to go out and find something fun to do? Im heading into the city to meet up with a few friends.. Hit the bars and what not... I just know it's gonna be tough when that ball drops.... knowing she's not next to me. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Im heading into the city to meet up with a few friends.. Hit the bars and what not... I just know it's gonna be tough when that ball drops.... knowing she's not next to me. You should never be sad when ringing in a new year. New year, new experiences, new chicks, new outlook on life. Do it. Link to comment
Captain Cool Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Couldn't sleep last night and almost broke 3.5 months' of NC....it's been tougher lately because she's home (30 mintues away) from school (7 hours away) and knowing she's so close yet out of reach... Also difficult because we spent the last four NYEs together but not this one... Luckily, I will be heading out tonight and have as much fun as I can! Link to comment
Captain Cool Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 You should never be sad when ringing in a new year. New year, new experiences, new chicks, new outlook on life. Do it. Totally agree...time to leave the past behind as much as possible. Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Im heading into the city to meet up with a few friends.. Hit the bars and what not... I just know it's gonna be tough when that ball drops.... knowing she's not next to me. You simply need a change of perspective. She left you for another dude. Why waste another thought on someone like that? Good riddance and it will probably happen to her too. Good. Make it a point to have a good time tonight with your buddies, say goodbye to the bad crap that happened this year (I know I will, worst year of my entire life) and welcome in the change of a New Year. Link to comment
centrino345 Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 I know guys... I guess it's a perfect time to put the past in the past. You're right Iceman26, I need to change my perspective, and I got a few hours to do that... Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 I know guys... I guess it's a perfect time to put the past in the past. You're right Iceman26, I need to change my perspective, and I got a few hours to do that... Yeah you do, and it sounds like you are on your way. They key is to focus on what you can control and what you can't. And you can control yourself and you can have a good damn time tonight. Link to comment
centrino345 Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 yea... just gotta breath... control what i can, and give up what i can't... Link to comment
chipchuck02 Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 hurting bad, ex is going to a party with a guy she may sleep with so kind screwed up. Link to comment
savignon Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 When you're toasting the new year with your buddies, set the intention in your head (actually say to yourself) "this year I want x, y and z". I've never been cheated on but I know how much energy can be spent in wanting someone back....if you did get her back, would you really want her?? Someone who cheated on you and left you for someone else? I mean, how well would that actually sit with you once you 'got her back'?? That's something I've never quite been able to understand (since it hasn't happened to me) NYE is the perfect time of year to make personal promises to yourself and it's symbolically a clean slate....think about what you want for '09 and go for it!!! You don't really want her...you're just bummin' that you're alone tonight. Enjoy your friends, flirt with some girls and try to have fun. (I know that's easier said than done) Best wishes and Happy New Year! Link to comment
KG Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Toast to "out with the bad, in with the better." Go have fun..... Link to comment
createhappiness Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 New Year's is so much worse than Christmas. I've cried 3 times in the past 24 hours. Ex is back from his hometown today so it's weird that we'll be partying in the same city but in separate locations. All i can do is try to keep going, keep on keepin' on, and start off my 2009 happy and on a good note. Link to comment
SighSob Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 i thought this was going to be my worst NYE ever, it turned out to be one of the best. First off, a friend of mine who I had NYE dinner with told me that my ex called her to ask if she could have come at the dinner too. I don't know how she can be so selfish and stupid since I clearly told her to get the hell out of my life now that she dumped me. She even said that she's worried about me talking * * * * about her on her back, and that it's not fair that our mutual friends are all by my side. Now, if they're by my side and they prefer to see me rather than her it's not because they think she's a * * * * * (actually a couple of them do and they have their reasons) but it's because she morphed in another person who has nothing in common with the old E. we knew. Still, it felt good to know that she was either spending NYE ALONE (hahaha) or with a not-so-friend of hers, while I would be having a good time with my closest buddies and then I'd be rocking to Drum'n'Bass till late night. I enjoyed my NYE 120% cause I didn't even have to think "what is she doing right now? is she having sex with another guy?"....no...she's just getting BORED as hell and she deserves it!! I'm definitely closer to healing knowing that she's become a selfish, stupid and arrogant version of the E. I fell in love with. And to know that her new friends (for whom she dropped the old ones, and now she's even complaining they're by my side!!) are friendly enough to drop her to go at a stupid house party sure makes me feel good. I may still love (the ideal version of) her and want (the ideal version of) her back but at least I know that even if I got dumped, I still got true friends and MYSELF and that's enough to live a good, funny life! Link to comment
ThisXmas Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 I just came back from a dinner with friends. It felt good to know that there're still friends who care about me. After one week of NC I actually feel pretty calm now, surprisingly. The worst moment may be the wake-up time, when I realize that maybe I will never be with him again. I don't know if I should see him continuously in church events though. I think I eventually will. I am sure he wants to see me too, but maybe as a friend he really cares about. I dont think i can be friend with him though, or I care. I won't be able to witness him chasing or being with another gal. I feel like I may join the party a few days later and see him. And I will pretend that I have moved on. I just thought based on his personality, without seeing me he would just assume that I do not want to see you any more and will just give up himself. At least seeing him once and disappear may be a slightly better chance for us. At the very least this may give him another chance to see how much he misses me without seeing for 10 days. I don't know...I think the going is a better bet than not going and disappear for months. But after this meeting I may at least disappear for another two weeks. Although that may not work so well for my own healing but I am willing to sacrifice myself another time for even a tiny little chance of sparks between us again. Link to comment
Nearwater Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Hurting? Yeah, I am a bit sideways. Tonight would have made 4 years if the little lying bordeline twisted girlfriend-turned hater did not dump me. She used to make such a big deal about the holidays and spending time together, the anniversary of getting together ect. Now she came to our town with her married rebound-fat-half-rich dufus and his dysfunctinal kids that can't stand her, over "our" anniversary. Sorry to be bitter, but this has been a tough year... Link to comment
ThisXmas Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 heheh...you made me smile... aren't the three things about her enough for you to forget? I know it's not that easy but it helps.. borderline is no good. hehe...neither lying Happy 2009! Hurting? Yeah, I am a bit sideways. Tonight would have made 4 years if the little lying bordeline twisted girlfriend-turned hater did not dump me. She used to make such a big deal about the holidays and spending time together, the anniversary of getting together ect. Now she came to our town with her married rebound-fat-half-rich dufus and his dysfunctinal kids that can't stand her, over "our" anniversary. Sorry to be bitter, but this has been a tough year... Link to comment
twrtwn Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Seriously. You can choose to have a good time, or you can choose to stay home and cry your eyes out As in this quote, you just have to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and force yourself...as I did....and went out on New year's Eve. Believe me, after sitting around moping and feeling sorry for myself all of Christmas season....the last thing I felt comfortable doing was going out and putting a smile on. Note: I live an hour away from my ex so no chance of running into him or friends - double edge sword if I ever wanted reconcilliation - he'll never see me or hear about me to recharge the spark. But my son convinced me to meet up with my aunt & her husband who were out with 7 other couples. So now...I am down and out, single amongst 7 couples, and I'm with my aunt & uncle. Does that spell fun? Yes!!!! I really had a good time (not great but good). I laughed a lot. They had some really fun friends. Good band. And, although i was going to duck out before all the New year kissing - they wouldn't let me leave and they all made a big circle and group hugged me! It felt great. So....moral of the story....I am back in my PJ's all day today because I have a horrible hang over but I am really glad I went out. Much better than sitting home by myself crying in my champagne. Link to comment
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