First dinner date - is he always supposed to pick her up?

[HereAndNow]

Is the guy who did the asking always expected to pick up the woman regardless of where the restaurant is located? What if the restaurant is located right in his neighborhood. Should the woman at least offer to just meet him there?

[Honey Pumpkin]

I would meet a date there, to be honest.

[PsychGirly]

I always prefer to meet up on the first date, especially if I don't know the guy well enough. I find it kind of spooky to get in a stranger's car & expect him to have the control over where he takes you =\

[shes2smart]

There are no hard and fast rules. Only what the two people directly involved agree to.

 

That being said, I think it's a nice gesture to at least offer. If it's a first date, I would assume you are still concerned about making a good impression. If I was the female in this situation, the guy being reluctant to or refusing to pick me up because the restaurant is closer to his home would say a couple of things to me - That he thinks I'm not worth the effort/time, and that he may be lazy or cheap or both.

 

Now, being the practical, frugal gal I am, if I knew roughly where you lived and where the restaurant was located and their relationship to each other, I'd probably offer to meet there. PsychGirly also brings up a good point that I think most females consider when just starting to see someone they've only recently met and don't know very well.

[Supa_gurl]

My last date, i met him at the restaurant. I didn't know him enough to have him know where I live. It worked out fine that way.

[livinginsbi]

My daughter never allows the guy to pick her up, not for the first few dates... she doesn't want random fellas knowing where she lives.... takes away from the old fashioned romantic ways, but much safer.

[Scorpion Fury]

I'm with everyone else, I drive myself to the first couple dates. In case he turns out to be a weirdo, I don't want him knowing where I live, or have to depend on him for a ride if the date goes sour. Ask her what she feels comfortable doing.

[epsilon2x]

It's whatever you want to do. Just tell her. Say "Hey, meet me here at 7" or "Hey, I'll pick you up at 7". If she has a problem with either one you'll work through it.

[ghost69]

depends on the girl usually. sometimes i really get to know the girl beforehand and she feels comfortable with me coming to get her. if she says she feels better meeting up, cool with me. nothing is ever assumed or some written rule.