Sticky situation...

[Seymore]

I know...I won't shut up about my NC issues with the ex, but my friend calls and says that her facebook profile says that "since someone decided to act like a child" (referring to me - I returned her cat 5 days earlier than I said I would, since she wasn't respecting either of my NC requests and I'm a child), my ex has to give the cat up for adoption in a day or two and was looking for a taker.

 

My friend's roommate would love to have a cat, and my friend was suggesting he take it. I told him it's sticky, because A) If she meets his roomate, there's a chance she'd hook up with him in an effort for the info to flow through my friend to me to try and hurt me, and B) I don't want my friend to get involved by proxy as he could get dragged into some nasty crap.

 

My friend said he would get the cat by himself anyway (my friend loved the cat when she was with me), and while he doesn't want to talk to her, he can make it as expedient as possible.

 

My friend wants a cat - I don't want contact with my ex. Did I blow it by telling my friend to do what he wants? My friend is a big boy, so my inital thought was that he can handle himself.

[DN]

It's his decision.

 

And if she were to hook up with his roommate and she were to be told that you knew about it and didn't care what she did - it would send a very strong message that her relationship with you is very definitely over.

[Seymore]

It's his decision.

 

And if she were to hook up with his roommate and she were to be told that you knew about it and didn't care what she did - it would send a very strong message that her relationship with you is very definitely over.

 

That's true. It would be hard to deal with since I've been with her 15 months, so there are still feelings there on my end, but I would get over it and it would drive the point home that we're done, which despite either of our feelings is what needs to happen in the end.

 

Plus, my friend's roommate thinks I'm ok by him, and he has a low BS tolerance, so I doubt they'd hook up anyway.

 

I had told my friend that he's just that - my friend, and whatever he chooses, he has my blessing, so I'm glad people agree with my decision.