Sister getting chummy with exes...

[HellFrost666]

I had two relationships before my current one. They were both more then ten years ago.

 

A few years ago my sister found one of my ex girlfriends on myspace and set her a friend request. But my sister told me they never talked or anything.

 

Tonight I got an email from my sister where she told me she looked up my other ex girlfriend on myspace and now they are talking. And, I guess they've had quite a few long talks about her and I and why things didn't work out.

 

Is it bad that I am irritated by this? My sister wasn't close with either of them when I was dating them... why does she care now? I know she's an adult and I can't tell her who to talk to. But does she really have to email me telling me all they talk about... etc.

 

I have put both of those relationships behind me. It just seems like my sister is digging up the passed, and I have no idea what her intentions are.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I'd be irritated by that as well, if they were friends prior it'd be one thing but the fact that she actually went SEARCHING for them is just screaming wrong in my book. Of course she can be friends with whoever but WHY would she want to be friends with your exes?

[MorgansMommy]

I agree. I'd ask her what is so important about talking to your exs, and what she is trying to accomplish. And I would definitely let her know that it is not cool in your book.

[greensleeves]

It would really bother me too. Maybe tell her that you're not interested in revisiting your past or hearing about the details of her friendships with these people and then just ignore future emails or comments from her about it. Or tell her that the whole thing has got you wondering about how some of her exes are doing and that you're going to try to look them up...that might get her thinking about how it would feel.

[waveseer]

Your sister needs a new hobby.

[epsilon2x]

It would tick me off too. I've never had this problem but I'd just ask her what her deal is and ask her to stop because it's none of her business.

[JadedStar]

Yes, I would be VERY irritated, particularly since they were not close and it was so long in the past.

 

I would make it very known to my sister that I felt she was meddling and that I didn't appreciate it.

 

This is why I HATE those social sites. Bored people think they have to sit around and contact everyone they ever knew...I think those social sites always seem to cause problems for people in a relationship in some form or fashion, such as this.

 

If i were single I think i would mandate anyone i date not be active on facebook or myspace. LOL

[Cynder]

It would annoy me too... especially considering they are talking about you. If your sister is that concerned with what happened between you and the ex then she sould be asking you first. Just my opinion.

 

And I agree JS... I do have a myspace profile, but I don't do much with it. I get messages from people I went to high school with who didn't say two words to me back then who now suddenly want to be my "friend."

 

An ex of my Husband's contacted him not too long ago on Myspace. She wanted to go out to lunch with him and "catch up." Yea, right. Now that he directs films she probably just wanted a shot at acting in one.

[Mythical_Suicide]

 

And I agree JS... I do have a myspace profile, but I don't do much with it. I get messages from people I went to high school with who didn't say two words to me back then who now suddenly want to be my "friend."

 

 

They're probably just one of those people who have to have over 1000 friends on their list to feel like they "belong". LOL I hate those people with a passion but in a way I feel sorry for them.

[JadedStar]

They're probably just one of those people who have to have over 1000 friends on their list to feel like they "belong". LOL I hate those people with a passion but in a way I feel sorry for them.

 

I dont have a problem with that, if that floats their boat, go for it. The part i hate is people in relationships with these accounts and you have ex's from highschool and up contacting them, like cynder mentioned, to 'catch up".

 

I would be seeing red if that happened to me iwth my SO. People need to stay in the past often enough.

[Jelina]

Maybe you should look up all her exes and tell them what she's up to, and then tell her about it.

 

Just kidding, but I do think that you should ask her why she has the need to do this.