Talk some sense into me

[WindowTo]

Hey guys,

I need someone to smack some sense into me. I was dumped by my gf 5 months ago. I went NC after she made it clear that she wasn't interested in trying again. I really want to check up on her and talk to her, but Im sure it will just put her on my mind more and bother me. I have been having painful dreams every night since I started sleeping at home again and thinking about her a lot. Today my mom told me that everyone has someone that they love a lot that they never get to be with. Remind me why I should not contact her or try and get her back. I was so in love with her.

[alli]

Breaking up really sucks when it was someone you really loved. How long were you together? You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders & know it isn't a good idea to contact her because it won't get her to change her mind & will only make you think of her more.

 

It's been 5 months, but it sounds like you moved back home to where you were when you dated her? I think that is what is reminding you of her & making the pain feel more fresh. It just takes time to heal. You're doing the right thing.

[SoMuchLove]

Stick to NC until your feelings go away. If your trying to maintain a friendship with her and you still have feelings it's not gonna work(end up hearing about her boyfriend problems and having your heart crushed) She may keep you around because she feels sorry for you. Or she may really want to be friends. At any rate, dive head deep into a hobby and go out and meet new girls(or people).

 

You'll always have the memories and you'll find someone else as special as her

[MattyG]

Hey WindowTo I know how you feel. I was there at one time, it sucks..just dont let your bad days get the best of you. If she wants to reconsile let her come forward and say so. Dont beat yourself up over someones feelings you can't change. It doesn't feel good to be dumped by someone but your not gonna change how she feels by beating your head against a wall. Like SoMuchLove said, dive deep into a hobby and keep yourself busy. That helped me alot.

[Cuppedia]

It takes a while but it gets better, sometimes you just have to let enough time pass.

[WindowTo]

Thanks guys. Actually I moved to a place away from where I was dating her, but since it is break I am spending 2 weeks at my parents house, which sort of is more like my old life when I was dating her so I guess that could be a reminder. We were together for half a year. Things are so different for me now, I was in a bad time in my life when I met her, but I dont think she really realized that. I just wish that we could have another shot now.