rickybobby Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 After 15 years of marriage I have had it with the way I am being treated by my wife. I had long conversation with my SIL today about the situation because she has a unique perspective about my marriage since she lived with us for 10 months back in '06. One of her suggestions was that I find a marriage counselor, make an appointment and give my wife the ultimatum of go with me to counseling or I am done. My question is how do I find a good counselor? I am in a weird position that I only have one friend who is divorced. The others have either been married for a while or are single so I am not sure how to find a good one other than just pick somebody at random out of the phone book... Thanks in advance... Link to comment
COtuner Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Do you have EAP through work? They can often make a recommendation. Churches and synagogues are also good references. Link to comment
Samedy Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 My Aunt and Uncle found a marriage councilor through a church... I won't share how that turned out.. but they did find the councilor at the church... Link to comment
Aurian Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 I found counselors through my work's Employee Assistance Program. It was confidential and I got a great recommendation. Someone else suggested a church, which works if you are affiliated with one. A doctor could recommend some counselors as well. One suggestion - go to the counselor on your own first and see how you mesh with them. Link to comment
rosephase Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Asking around helps and you can ask for an interview, anyone worth there salt will sit down with you and have an interview. Then it's a matter of who feels right. Link to comment
notsoanonymous Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 The word ultimatum scares me in your frist post. The fact that you are talking about your marriage with what appears tobe your wife's sister is even worse (forgive me if I misread that part) regardless of whether or not she was your housemate. You need to sit your wife down, tell her why you would like to see a marriage counselor in a loving way and let her make her decision. Not give her an ultimatum. If she makes a choice that you can't live with that is one thing, but telling her my way or the highway NEVER gets it your way... Just my two cents from someone who went through a breakup and ended up reconciling through the help of couples counseling. Link to comment
keenan Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 You can go the the APA's website: link removed Follow the "Find a Psychologist" link on the left panel. Link to comment
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