mechie22 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 ok i have read many posts in this category where it seems men view sex as nothing. Can some of the males please explain to me how it can be so meaningless? Link to comment
Mutley Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I'm a man and I don't view it as meaningless. It's very powerful actually. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Women do it too. It really comes down to it just being a physical thing for some people, a release. You have to be able to handle sexual encounters with complete emotional detachment. Not a lot of people can. Men seem to be more successful at it than women. A lot of times, "feelings" don't happen with the first sexual encounter, it can take a while to build. That's why people don't typically get attached to one night stands, but often in a FWB situation, one of the parties ends up catching feelings. Usually the woman. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 ok i have read many posts in this category where it seems men view sex as nothing. Can some of the males please explain to me how it can be so meaningless? because the women treat the men like dirt afterwards...or they use sex as a tool or to get attention, offering it and then taking it away Link to comment
Loki71 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 ok i have read many posts in this category where it seems men view sex as nothing. Can some of the males please explain to me how it can be so meaningless? That's a pretty wide blanket. I have seen posts on sex from women as well. But just like Mutley it's not about sex for me either it's being with someone and what the 2 of us share besides physical. Link to comment
KG Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I can't do the physical without the emotional. Just not wired that way. Link to comment
mechie22 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 i still dont get it in my one night romp i developed feelings, how can people be so numb. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 i still dont get it in my one night romp i developed feelings, how can people be so numb. Because you still view it as something intimate and special. A lot of people don't. Link to comment
mechie22 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 Because you still view it as something intimate and special. A lot of people don't. I guess so is it really that rare? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 i still dont get it in my one night romp i developed feelings, how can people be so numb. You had a one night romp and you developed feelings...but really, what are those feelings based on...nothing more than the feeling of being close to someone. If you didn't really know them then how can the feelings be anything more than superficial, simply based on physical closeness. It is not that you have any deeper feelings than someone else who shuts down, it is just that your mind plays tricks on you because after the fact you didn't feel good about having the casual encounter. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 no it is not that rare I guess. I can't have sex without emotions either. Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 i think there is more to this question...what experience has made you feel this way? Many men AND women view sex in different ways...each person is individual and can do what they want with the act...if it means more to you than you need to make sure you don't put yourself in situations that would cause you to feel slighted or used... Link to comment
mechie22 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 You had a one night romp and you developed feelings...but really, what are those feelings based on...nothing more than the feeling of being close to someone. If you didn't really know them then how can the feelings be anything more than superficial, simply based on physical closeness. It is not that you have any deeper feelings than someone else who shuts down, it is just that your mind plays tricks on you because after the fact you didn't feel good about having the casual encounter. on the contrary i knew him relatively well for years even, even he who has had more than his share of sexual expieriences developed something too. Link to comment
mechie22 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 i think there is more to this question...what experience has made you feel this way? Many men AND women view sex in different ways...each person is individual and can do what they want with the act...if it means more to you than you need to make sure you don't put yourself in situations that would cause you to feel slighted or used... Well the truth is my boyfriend now says that when he cheated it didnt mean anything but he continued to go back to her to hang out or just talk yet he said he didnt feel anything for her and it felt good for someone to want him. how is that possible???? Link to comment
Mutley Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Well the truth is my boyfriend now says that when he cheated it didnt mean anything but he continued to go back to her to hang out or just talk yet he said he didnt feel anything for her and it felt good for someone to want him. how is that possible???? Possible that he isn't a good person worthy of your trust? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Possible that he isn't a good person worthy of your trust? lol yeah pretty much... Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 on the contrary i knew him relatively well for years even, even he who has had more than his share of sexual expieriences developed something too. I am a bit confused...is this person your boyfriend or is this someone else you slept with? You say you have a boyfriend and yet you are also talking about someone you just slept with for the first time?? Link to comment
mechie22 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 oooo man its too long to get into all over again read my past threads it will explain everything Link to comment
blue69 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 If sex were viewed as "nothing" than it wouldn't matter if women were out screwing everyone during a relationship. Obviously it must mean quite a bit. Link to comment
SoMuchLove Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Some view it just as meaningful as women. To others, it's just like going to the gym and working out(as in no big deal). Either they have the emotional connection or they don't.IMO it would be meaningless without emotional attachment(to an extent). I'm a man of substance. To some women sex is also meaningless so it's not just to the guys. People are different. That being said, people have different preferences. Link to comment
mechie22 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 If sex were viewed as "nothing" than it wouldn't matter if women were out screwing everyone during a relationship. Obviously it must mean quite a bit. But thats wat it seems this whole category is about men/women not being faithful to their partner and disrespecting their bodies. Link to comment
annie1 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 it's not just about sex with men. it's about food, too. Link to comment
Mutley Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 it's not just about sex with men. it's about food, too. Life's two greatest pleasures!! Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 it's not just about sex with men. it's about food, too. toss in a NFL football game and that is a perfect evening Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 it's not just about sex with men. it's about food, too. ah come on now...those cliches are tired...and saying that kind of crap about guys invites them to use the stereotypes about women... SOME guys view sex as just sex...SOME women do the same... let's try not to overgeneralize... Link to comment
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