Iwantittoend Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 So I've been with my new girlfriend for a few weeks now. We were laying there on the coach and I made the move and put my hand down her pants and played with her the other night. Then I started getting hard and I noticed I came about a minute later. She gave me head later on and was disappointed because she thought she was doing a bad job, but it was because I came before she even did anything to me. I'll also notice that sometimes I'll be cuddling with her and I'll leave and notice I came a little. I don't get it... It's kind of embarrassing. I don't want this to affect my sex life once we start doing it regularly. I'm not very experienced as I've only had one sexual partner before, and we only had sex once. Ugh... Any advice?
StretchGee Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 "I noticed I came about a minute later" ... "I'll leave and notice I came a little" ??? Are you having an orgasm/ejaculating? Or is it simply pre-cum? When really hard and excited, stuff tends to leak out (pre cum), but it is not the end game. For myself, an orgasm is not something I "notice later"!
Iwantittoend Posted December 30, 2008 Author Posted December 30, 2008 "I noticed I came about a minute later" ... "I'll leave and notice I came a little" ??? Are you having an orgasm/ejaculating? Or is it simply pre-cum? When really hard and excited, stuff tends to leak out (pre cum), but it is not the end game. For myself, an orgasm is not something I "notice later"! It was probably pre-cum, but then why couldn't I cum later on when she was giving me head? I could feel myself almost reaching orgasm but nothing was coming out.
alli Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Have you ever seen "Something about Mary"? Maybe you should drop off the boys at the pool before getting together with this girl so it won't happen so quick. Just make sure it's not stuck to your ear & she mistakes it for hair gel & proceeds to use it.
alli Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 It was probably pre-cum, but then why couldn't I cum later on when she was giving me head? I could feel myself almost reaching orgasm but nothing was coming out. Maybe you were just nervous; that could keep you from getting there.
Iwantittoend Posted December 30, 2008 Author Posted December 30, 2008 Maybe you were just nervous; that could keep you from getting there. Eh, probably. I was shaking a little bit and she noticed, but it was only because I was doing things with her for the first time. I just don't want it to keep happening and her start to think that I'm less of a man or something because I can't finish.
lostandhurt Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 This is all normal. Talk to her and let her know you are a little nervous. If you ejaculated you would have known it, not to mention the mess! Nerves can get the best of you some times. I knew a guy that was a walking hard-on and then when he was with a girl for the first time he was limp as a noodle. It freaked him out a little. Turns out he was just so nervous that his body wouldn't perform. As far as getting oral. If you are used to taking care of yourself you might find that having an orgasm from oral will be different and take longer. If you are going to be intimate with this girl you should be able to talk to her about this stuff. Good luck lost
Cognitive_Canine Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Sounds like what you are experiencing is pre-cum. If you were to cum, you'd know it right away. As for the blowjob, it was probably you psyching yourself out about the pre-cum. You thought you came...and it was probably still on your mind and making you think that you weren't going to cum from the blowjob.
amipushy Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Women, well at least this woman LOVES pre-cum, its flattering and it turns me on. Relax and go with the flow (literally), I know we do.
Mythical_Suicide Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 It was probably pre-cum, but then why couldn't I cum later on when she was giving me head? I could feel myself almost reaching orgasm but nothing was coming out. Probably because you were so focused on the pre-cum from earlier.
Casanova Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 your simply inexperienced. it takes time to control it. one thing experts recommend is trying to last longer when you masturbate. so when you masturbate, and you feel that urge to cum, try to control it instead so you can keep going. usually just stopping will calm you down, and then when ur more relaxed, go again. this will make you more familiar with that feeling and so the next time you are there you will know what to do. Also kegel exercises are supposed to work. but again, ur simply inexperienced. over time, you will be able to contol it. but be patient it takes time.
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