winter whiteout Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 How is looking forward to New Year's Eve? This one as usual will be spent alone. Even my parent's have plans with their friends and it is sad they have more of a social life than I do. I give up on life and love. Like I have stated before I am not just lonely and am seeking a man out of desperation but I want a family of my own again and you can't do that living by yourself. I just keep getting rejected over and over again while my ex husband is living happily with his new wife that he left me for 3 years ago. Men just don't find me attractive anymore. There is nothing different I should do because I am 100% myself when I am around men and they just act weird. The "shoveler" guy that came over on Christmas Eve has not contacted me. Like I stated before I was talking to him a lot before he came to shovel when he would call in to make an appointment. He was always flirting with me when he called in. But after he met me he must had decided he was not attracted to me and has not returned my phone call. Oh well. I guess it will just be me, * * * * Clark and a ton of food on New Year's Eve. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I have never had a special someone to spend New Year's eve with. It will just be my dog and I as usual. Link to comment
winter whiteout Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 I have never had a special someone to spend New Year's eve with. It will just be my dog and I as usual. I am sorry CAD. I hope I don't sound selfish like I am the only one that feels this way. You seem so much more mature than I am. I went from growing up in a big Italian family with tons of people around, then getting married but now I am 100% alone and everyone has families of their own. I am not happy or proud of my attitude but I just can't help it. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 There are plenty of things you can do if other people have plans. A lot of times charities have dinners. You can go and have dinner and do some dancing. You would be surprised - sometimes single guys go there, but if not you may meet some new friends. A local church here has a singles new year's eve party. Or does your city have a First Night type of festival. You could go and mingle. There are even concerts or comedy clubs open. You have a choice. You can stay alone and sulk. You can be alone, settle in with favorite movies, a glass of champagne or whatever else you like to indulge with and have a bubble bath. Start the new year off right by pampering yourself. Or you can just get off the sofa and go somewhere. It is up to you to start your own tradition. You can't wait for your life to start when you meet someone. And then, when you meet someone he may be so jealous of your tradition that he will want to join in, or more so, he will see a confident woman that doesn't HAVE to have anyone to have a good time. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I am sorry CAD. I hope I don't sound selfish like I am the only one that feels this way. You seem so much more mature than I am. I went from growing up in a big Italian family with tons of people around, then getting married but now I am 100% alone and everyone has families of their own. I am not happy or proud of my attitude but I just can't help it. I have "cried in my beer" many many New Year's eves. I remember years ago I was not invited to a party that a co-worker was having..this co-worker was a total a**. He liked me and I liked him but he made my life hell because he didn't want to acknowledge his feelings. So while the colleagues I worked closely with all got invited to this party, I didn't. I was not in my hometown so I didn't know many people in the city. I was all alone and very sad that New Year's eve. I don't drink alcohol but that one time I just wanted to forget how lonely I was feeling..so I bought a bottle of wine and drank...it didn't take much for me to feel woozy! At any rate, although I felt woozy and tired, I was still very much aware of how lonely and miserable I was. I tried desperately to fall asleep before midnight but that didn't happen. So no, I have not always felt mature and accepting being alone on New Year's eve...I think I just have more practice as I have been alone all my life. Link to comment
Karmageddon Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 OH!! WW, you are not the only one!!! I will be spending my new years alone this year as well. My husband & I are split up, we had been together for 16 years, after that i re connected with a man I had known for 12 years only to find out he was a total ass! I would rather be alone than WISH I was alone. My ex and his new girlfriend can live it up all they want, but i know how he really is! LOL!! And for the guy who i thought was the love of my life, I have never been treated like such garbage, so good riddance in 2008 and on to better choices in 2009! There is someone waiting for you, its just tough to find them sometimes! god knows i am forty and still looking! Link to comment
winter whiteout Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 CAD why do you think your co-worker wanted to hide his feelings for you and not just ask you out? God I can't believe he did not invite you to his party. What is the matter with some men? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 CAD why do you think your co-worker wanted to hide his feelings for you and not just ask you out? God I can't believe he did not invite you to his party. What is the matter with some men? He was a very insecure man. I had heard that before I had started working there he was involved with someone who worked on another floor...apparently they used to fight all the time. After he ended things with her they became friends. It just seemed like he couldn't deal with romantic relationships. Other people at work knew about his interest in me while others just assumed it was simply one-sided on my part. It devastated me at the time and it took a long time to get over how he treated me and how co-workers sided with him and treated me like a big joke. I think it was the betrayal from colleagues which hurt me more than his behaviour..that is what actually took me longer to get over. Link to comment
Karmageddon Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 He was a very insecure man. I had heard that before I had started working there he was involved with someone who worked on another floor...apparently they used to fight all the time. After he ended things with her they became friends. It just seemed like he couldn't deal with romantic relationships. Other people at work knew about his interest in me while others just assumed it was simply one-sided on my part. It devastated me at the time and it took a long time to get over how he treated me and how co-workers sided with him and treated me like a big joke. I think it was the betrayal from colleagues which hurt me more than his behaviour..that is what actually took me longer to get over. Sometimes it is tough to come to terms with other peoples stupidity couple that with the "office" mentality and its just ICKY!! YUCK! Sorry CAD! Sounds like you got the rough end of that one, but also lucky not to have ended up with him either. A moment of discomfort compared with what he had to offer??? BOOO!! Link to comment
southerngirl Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I will be here at home. Hey, maybe we can have an ENA party and watch teh ball drop together LOL Link to comment
Alezia Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Hey, I'll join you guys. I can't do anything this year due to our seperation... I have to stay at home to "babysit" a sleeping baby. Link to comment
winter whiteout Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 He was a very insecure man. I had heard that before I had started working there he was involved with someone who worked on another floor...apparently they used to fight all the time. After he ended things with her they became friends. It just seemed like he couldn't deal with romantic relationships. Other people at work knew about his interest in me while others just assumed it was simply one-sided on my part. It devastated me at the time and it took a long time to get over how he treated me and how co-workers sided with him and treated me like a big joke. I think it was the betrayal from colleagues which hurt me more than his behaviour..that is what actually took me longer to get over. It is good you did not end up with him. There is this quote I heard a long time ago and I still do believe the message it sends: "Romance is the rare human endeavor that best succeeds when it requires the least effort" I think of my crush at work (remember the "bonehead") and talking to him is like trying to get into Fort Knox. I am through with him. It also seems your past crush did not fit the above quote either. If it is meant to be and a good relationship to be, it should not be that hard. Link to comment
winter whiteout Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 I will be here at home. Hey, maybe we can have an ENA party and watch teh ball drop together LOL Hey I like that idea! Actually now I realize there are so many of you out there in the same situation. I mean what is the name of this site? eNOTALONE! I now look forward to ringing in the new year with all of you! Link to comment
Karmageddon Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Hey I like that idea! Actually now I realize there are so many of you out there in the same situation. I mean what is the name of this site? eNOTALONE! I now look forward to ringing in the new year with all of you! I saw somewhere one here (off topic I think) where someone was saying we should all post "MUHAHHHH" at midnight and give our other ena'ers a kiss at midnight. Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I will be alone too, most likely. No plans. I was hoping to spend it at my parents' house, at least, but that fell through. So, it's me, some movies, the cat, and a bunch of cleaning/sorting through stuff. I did that last year, and actually, it was OK. I too have been alone on many a New Year's Eve. It is only recently that I have even felt remotely OK about it. I am learning to live with it, though. Perhaps we should have an ENA NYE party! Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 my mom will be alone... so i might have to stay home with her to accompany her. i have quite the line up for NYE and a new killer dress!... *sigh* Link to comment
bulletproof Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Have you considered the advantages of having one or two close friends in your life? You often write about your struggles in finding someone to have a romantic relationship with, but rarely about expanding your social life in general. I just think that things like new year's eve are a lot easier when you have a close friend to share it with. Doesn't have to be a romantic relationship- just some human interaction. I'm going camping. It may end up being just me and one other person, and we don't care. I will ring in the new year on MY terms, doing what I love to do, and if I had to do it alone, I would. But I'm fortunate that I have a friend to share it with. Link to comment
winter whiteout Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 Have you considered the advantages of having one or two close friends in your life? You often write about your struggles in finding someone to have a romantic relationship with, but rarely about expanding your social life in general. I just think that things like new year's eve are a lot easier when you have a close friend to share it with. Doesn't have to be a romantic relationship- just some human interaction. I'm going camping. It may end up being just me and one other person, and we don't care. I will ring in the new year on MY terms, doing what I love to do, and if I had to do it alone, I would. But I'm fortunate that I have a friend to share it with. Actually I do have friends but they have plans with thier families. I do have a friend who is also single and I have known since we were 5 years old and asked her if she wanted to come over but she said she is going to her parent's and does not want to be driving out on New Year's Eve. Nice huh? Link to comment
In Limbo Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Thank God i have music to turn to..whenever i am down..I am playing with my bandmates in a local club. i also have been guilty of ignoring love , when it came my way, as CAD mentioned...but yeah i never mistreated any woman.Although i don't know, if not reciprocating their love counts..He was a very insecure man. I had heard that before I had started working there he was involved with someone who worked on another floor...apparently they used to fight all the time. After he ended things with her they became friends. It just seemed like he couldn't deal with romantic relationships. Other people at work knew about his interest in me while others just assumed it was simply one-sided on my part. It devastated me at the time and it took a long time to get over how he treated me and how co-workers sided with him and treated me like a big joke. I think it was the betrayal from colleagues which hurt me more than his behaviour..that is what actually took me longer to get over. its one of the reasons , i feel so sad ...Despite everything, i never found true love..& made big mistakes .I lost the best women, i ever knew.Its only now, i can look back & understand..I let my ego come in the way of my love, on atleast three occasions..Lord! Forgive me..! Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 you mean Ryan Seacreast not * * * * Clark. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 well i don't plan to talk to anyone, family or friends this new years eve, i'm down because of my sports and dating life, december was defintely the month from hell and all i want to do is be alone. A month ago my life looked like it was taking a turn for the better and now a month later I feel sick. But atleast I know what to do now when it comes to dating but still mad that as another year comes to a close, i will be in my underwear eating cheese wiz out of the can staring out the window. 2009 please come, i'm waiting.- Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 well i don't plan to talk to anyone, family or friends this new years eve, i'm down because of my sports and dating life, december was defintely the month from hell and all i want to do is be alone. A month ago my life looked like it was taking a turn for the better and now a month later I feel sick. But atleast I know what to do now when it comes to dating but still mad that as another year comes to a close, i will be in my underwear eating cheese wiz out of the can staring out the window. 2009 please come, i'm waiting.- For some reason I am getting a mental picture of Homer Simpson...but I guess he would be eating donusts in his underwear while staring out the window. LOL. Isn't the RoseBowl football game on January 1st? See, something sporty to look forward to! Link to comment
confused25 Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I was single last NYE and I spent it with a bunch of my good friends . . . which turned out to be more fun than if I were to spend it with just my ex-bf. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 For some reason I am getting a mental picture of Homer Simpson...but I guess he would be eating donusts in his underwear while staring out the window. LOL. Isn't the RoseBowl football game on January 1st? See, something sporty to look forward to! It was a NFL team who won on sunday that has me depressed and now i have to hope they don't go to the Superbowl. I was hoping to have a happy sports life since my dating life is kind of crappy right now. Link to comment
bulletproof Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Actually I do have friends but they have plans with thier families. I do have a friend who is also single and I have known since we were 5 years old and asked her if she wanted to come over but she said she is going to her parent's and does not want to be driving out on New Year's Eve. Nice huh? I can't say I blame anyone for not wanting to be out driving on New Year's. I guess my point was that if you've had basically the same social circle (or in some people's cases, no social circle) for many years, it would be beneficial to break out and meet some new people. If you have lots of friends/acquaintances to choose from, then you don't find yourself in situations with nobody around. And they don't have to be single friends. Maybe one of your friends spending time with family would love to have you join them. Link to comment
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