can someone hurt intentionally?

[manup7228]

Just reflecting on my past breakup, haven't actually talked to the ex in about a month. But i feel like after reflecting on my situation and seeing others on ENA, I think that some people literally might be TRYING to hurt people. For example:

 

My ex sends me text messages every so often such as "I miss you" or "I wish things were different" but then she'll up and go get another boyfriend. It's like she's poking me in the side saying, "Hey look at me! I'm still here!" and I can't help but see a sliver of hope that maybe she wants me, but like i said, she'll make no action at trying to get me back AND she'll get a new boyfriend.

 

I've seen other ex's on ENA do the same thing. Like is this an ego trip or something. Is it really possible that people that used to love us have to hurt us now so they feel better about themselves?

[Iceman26]

In my opinion they can only hurt you if you let them.

 

If you let them have that hold over you, let yourself hold out hope that they will come back, then yes, they have the ability to come and go as they please. They really don't care what damage they inflict as it really is all to satisfy their own desire of knowing they are still desired by someone.

 

Easiest way to solve the problem is to stop talking to them.

[Pressfit]

Sure. It happens all the time. I guess it makes the feel empowered or something so I have had to just ignore stuff like that and hit the delete key.

Delete, delete, and delete some more dude.