A year and a half in the life of the dumped

[Sadman84]

What a journey. Where to start.

 

I met my ex when i was 17, we broke up when i was 22. We dated all through out our senior year of highschool and 4 years of college. So about 4 and a half years we dated.

 

Over the years we took eachother for granted, and i assumed that what we had was as good as it was gonna get. We would sleep together but had little to talk about. Anyway she graduated from college and i had one more year left cause i was on the slower plan, ha.

 

The summer after she graduated, she broke up with me, and quickly moved onto someone else. The emotions i went through I can never explain. This is the girl I was going to marry one day, and I could see myself with for the rest of my life, and now here i was sleeping in my bed alone while she was cuddling with someone she'd just met.

 

So, after being dumped, i took a look at my life. I said "what can i change, that i'd like to change, and whats gonna make me happy.

 

The list quickly came to me.

1. over the years i'd developed a bad habit of playing video games and blowing off my real life, and my ex girlfriend. I sold a character that i had been playing with and made 450$.

 

2. I love music and always have, so i took that money and i bought a keyboard to use with my computer, and started learning how to play the piano.

 

3. Quit smoking. (i'm still off and on)

 

4. Be more social, make more friends this last year of college

 

5. Treat every day like its a new goal for doing something new

 

6. Get in shape! boy falling in love can make you stop caring about what kind of shap you are in. (when i was with my ex i gained a ton of weight, but there was history there, before i met her i dropped a lot, and then i gained it all back with her)

 

7. Try not to think about my ex every minute of every day.

 

8. i'd had braces on for 5 years, so i finally started wearing my damn rubberbands and within 4 months they were off.

 

So, here I was, my new life, alone. I had to get used to grociery shopping alone, and just doing everything alone. I enjoy shopping now, I just started watching tv again recently, cause when i was with my ex its all we did, and it just made me hurt to do it, it reminded me of her.

 

I started jogging, the first day i jogged, i went 1 mile, it took me 15:06, and my legs burned. Now i'm doing 3 miles in about 30 minutes, i did a 5 k back in november.

 

I made a lot of friends, i mean a lot. I was in a fraternity so i leaned on my close friends and met enough girls to make me wish I dind't have a girlfriend, but they were all just friends. I've made some really good girl friends too.

 

I have gone from piano, to singing, and now I just got an acoustic guitar. I have a few songs I've made and I love that i can put my feelings into music and listen to it and share it with people.

 

I tried a lot of new things, i went skiing, i went to las vegas, i've been to concerts, and just all the random things in between.

 

Its been a hell of a journey, but the fact of the matter is, i'm still single, i'm not sure if i'm ready for somone else yet. i havn't gone a complete day with out thinking of my ex atleast once. Some days I hate her, and somedays i miss her.

 

I'm attatching a before and after picture so you can see how your life can be months from now if you are just recently dumped. It only gets better, i dont cry in bed alone anymore like i did at first.

 

Just make everyday a new one, and know that one day you'll meet somone else who blows your ex away.

 

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[julioiglesia]

congrats.

 

I was 210lb and now i am down to 170lb after gf broke up with me.

running 5ks are the best to get competitive. 30min 5K are decent. i think you can do better. I heard every 5 pound you lose you decrese 4 mins off your overall time in a 5K.

yea video games really killed my relationship tool. now i live and learn what is gone is gone and how i was so naive that she would be the one. i don't want to settle and neither should you. keep running. i am playing to run a marathon. i run 40 miles a week. 5-7 miles a day and 10-12 miles in the weekend. this stuff is addicting.

[Sadman84]

congrats.

 

I was 210lb and now i am down to 170lb after gf broke up with me.

running 5ks are the best to get competitive. 30min 5K are decent. i think you can do better. I heard every 5 pound you lose you decrese 4 mins off your overall time in a 5K.

yea video games really killed my relationship tool. now i live and learn what is gone is gone and how i was so naive that she would be the one. i don't want to settle and neither should you. keep running. i am playing to run a marathon. i run 40 miles a week. 5-7 miles a day and 10-12 miles in the weekend. this stuff is addicting.

 

by 4 minutes i assume you mean 4 seconds.