Embarrassed about pre-wedding weight gain

[nikki2]

Unfortunately over the past 3 years my weight has been on a steady uphill climb. When I got engaged in June I thought that would be the motivation needed for me to lose some weight and get back in shape. However instead I gained 15 lbs over the summer and my first visit to David’s Bridal was a nightmare. There I was with all my old girlfriends getting measured and trying on dresses at 185 lbs when just 2 years ago I was in the 120’s. The lady at David’s Bridal recommended I order a size 14 or 16, a frightening number to me, and instead I order a size 12 saying I was going on a diet. Now the brides maid dresses and the wedding dress are in and I am too embarrassed to go in for the fitting since as of this morning I weigh 203 lbs and there is no way I am going to be able to fit into a size 12(especially since I am only 5 ft 2 inches tall).

So now I have no clue what I am going to do. I have never really dieted or tried to lose weight before, until 3 years ago I was lucky enough be just naturally thin despite not the greatest eating habits. Now my appetite has caught up with me and my figure is paying the price. I told all the girls in my bridal party we would go to David’s Bridal soon to try on the dresses and get measured for alteration, I am just embarrassed how I am going to look trying on a size 12 dress.

I am sorry for the length of this post, I am just venting and getting stuff of my chest. However I am wondering if anyone else experienced a pre-wedding weight gain, and if so how did the dress place handle it, and also how did you handle it?

[COtuner]

You may have to buy a new dress and sell the one you bought, depending on the contract with DB. You can't let out a smaller size dress. The other option is to find a dressmaker and see if she/he can redesign the dress through additions of lace or more fabric or whathaveyou.

[Honey Pumpkin]

When's the wedding? I wonder if a combo of dieting/magic underwear/letting out the dress will work - although that's not healthy for you either.

 

Just 'fess up; tell your best mate or mum, have a good cry, and then sort it out. I'm pretty sure that this happens A LOT, and to be honest, who cares. You're going to be a lovely radiant bride, and you're going to marry the man you love. Just be realistic and make sure that you're not under pressure, and maybe think about healthy eating and exercise in 2009???

[lana111]

never been married...

 

but one wedding i was in they discontinued her bridesmaid dresses, after she had everything planned out around this very specific color dress... so she bought up all the remanining dresses as close to our sizes (the size 0 got a 4, an 8 got a 12, and so on...)

 

im a 'normal' size 12 or 14 but usually am a 16 or 18 in bridesmaid dresses bc im very busty. the biggest size available was a 12. we bought a scrap dress for fabric and my seamstress just added fabric in the back of the bust area so the dress would fit. so maybe you could get serious about dieting. between the dieting and a great seamstress it can fit. good luck!

[nikki2]

The wedding is on April 4 so i got a little time to work with. I am just worried because I have never really tried to lose weight before, have horrible eating habits, and with the stress of working and finishing the wedding plans i am not going to be able to stick with a diet. I have been trying to diet since June and instead gained 30 more lbs. I just wish my body was like it was 3 years ago, when I ate what ever and didn't gain a pound.

[Notreadyet87]

South Beach diet will work. Buy the book. Follow it religiously. Drink TONS of water. I would say at least 10 bottles of water a day. Work out for a half an hour--cardio--and then lift weights for another half an hour. Within three months you will have dropped down to probably a size 10.

I did the south beach diet. I wasn't very overwieght when I started but I lost weight and went from being a size 7/8 to a 5 and sometimes a size 3.

 

LOL the only issue is that I've gained some weight and I'm now a size 6 bordering a size 8. (I'm a college student and can't do the diet during the year)

If you stick with the diet religiously and keep at it, you'll lose in no time.

 

It isn't easy though... Not at all.

 

AS for the dresses--be honest. Tell them that you weren't able to lose the weight. As embarrasing as it is, what else can you do?

[lana111]

The wedding is on April 4 so i got a little time to work with. I am just worried because I have never really tried to lose weight before, have horrible eating habits, and with the stress of working and finishing the wedding plans i am not going to be able to stick with a diet. I have been trying to diet since June and instead gained 30 more lbs. I just wish my body was like it was 3 years ago, when I ate what ever and didn't gain a pound.

 

youre like me. the MOMENT i decide i want to diet is the MOMENT my eating habits get worse and i put on weight. once i stop obsessing about it, i get back to my normal weight.

[nikki2]

Thank you for all of your replies.

 

To be honest I am not good at the whole diet and exercise thing, having never had to worry about it until 3 years ago. To be honest I guess that over the last 3 years I have been in denial about my weight, always finding excuses not to diet. Now I am suddenly in over my head. I have gained 80 lbs in the last 3 years 30 of those lbs in the last 6 months. I try to diet and it only lasts a couple days before I finding myself eating like I used to without even knowing. I have never exercised in my life, and when I tried to go for my first jog ever the other day it was a disaster. I could only jog a couple hundred feet before I was out of breath and had to stop, it felt so awkward the way my whole body jiggled and it actually began to hurt. I hate to say it but I am thinking of looking into diet pills.

[Mindy1607307824]

go on low carb/low cal

 

come on, you want to look good on your wedding pictures, stop eating and start running.

 

sorry for the tough love but maybe you need a push.